MIL in the Delivery Room: Yes or No?



MIL mother in law in the delivery room

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The question of who would be with me in the delivery room was an easy one -- I wanted my partner there, and no one else. Mom, extended family, friends? No thanks! But every mom-to-be is different.

When I interviewed Heather Armstrong (dooce) about her new book, she said her mom, sister, and stepdad were in the room with her and her husband when she gave birth. She wanted them to share in that intimate experience.

And I just read a post concerning this particular family member -- what about your mother-in-law in the delivery room? (Cafe Suzanne recently asked moms who've already delivered about MILs in attendance, too.)

Is she welcome when you give birth?


Would you have your MIL in the delivery room?

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chell... chelley24

Hell I really didn't even want DH there!  He was pissing me off!   LMAO

auror... aurorabunny

Oh dear god no.  My MIL makes me wanna yak.

celti... celticreverie

Nope. Just DH and I were there for Becka's birth (plus nurses and ob). For this babies birth it's at home and it will be DH, Becka, and I :)

RAGUm... RAGUmomof2

when i had my son i was a single mother, so my mom, brother [stood at the head of my bed], grandma, boyfriend and son's real dad were in there, as well as the nurse, dr, baby's nurse and a dear friend of ours that takes pictures for infant abbrevement & had never got to shoot a live birth. but this time since i am married to my [what was the boyfriend when i had my son] we will be the only 2 in there and one mutual friend to take pictures for us. that way his mom can't say "well her mom is in there" or my mom can't say "well his mom is in there"

Loa1002 Loa1002

how about a big HELL NO!! lol She was not even allowed to visit in the hospital.

beth1... beth100706

There should have been a place to check for H&#% NO!

beth1... beth100706

LOL I didn't see the comment right above mine. I guess we think alike!

baker... bakersd79

I would have NO problem with my MIL being in the delivery room with me as long as someone else was there to watch my other kids (If the doctor/midwife wouldn't allow them in or I didn't feel comfortable with them being there.). Hell, my FIL was my labor coach with my second DD because DH was deployed and my FIL had already been a labor coach 4 times with my MIL.

urbpro urbpro

I voted maybe. Before I had any children I told dh that I didn't want anyone in the delivery room. I was terrified of what would happen and I only wanted him there. After my first child was born though, I realized what an amazing experience it was and I wish that I had invited my whole family and some friends. I loved giving birth and wish I could have shared it with the people most important to me. I don't get along with my mil now but at the time we were on pretty good terms and if I had known how great it was I would have invited her as well, especially since fil was in Iraq at the time. I had 2 other deliveries after that but both were twin pregnancies and both were in an operating room so no one allowed.

Pollymom Pollymom

No. My MIL is great and all, but I'm not close enough with her to have her in there at a time like that. I would prefer it to be only my hubby and I.

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