Times Are Tough: Would You Donate Your Eggs to Make Money?

recession guide

Sperm? Relatively speaking, not so pricey if you're in the market to buy some to help conceive a baby (and, um, I'm speaking from experience on this one.) Eggs, on the other hand, are worth their weight in gold. And if you're young, fertile, and in good health, you've got 'em.

I came across an interesting post in The Cafe @ CafeMom asking if you'd "leggo your EGGo's" to help your family stay afloat in this dismal economy. Obviously, there are other benefits to donating eggs, too, like the knowledge that you're helping an infertile couple have a child, which is why Sarah (SLGross215), chose to donate her eggs twice.

II spoke to her to find out what the process was like.

donating eggs


Where do you live, and do you have kids?

I live in Minnesota, and we have three kids -- Tajmaah (DD), 11 years old, Janai (DS) 10, and Evyn (DS), 2.

What gave you the idea to donate your eggs?

I wanted other couples to know the joy of having a baby and going through the whole process, from conception to birth.

How did you find the clinic where you donated?

I saw an ad for it in our local paper.

How are moms selected to be able to donate? What's the process like?

They are very, very selective in picking donors. You must have already given birth at least once and you have to be within a certain age range -- for my clinic I believe it was 20 - 31. The process is pretty lengthy the first time you do it because you have to go through a number of tests, including a physical evaluation.

How much money did you receive, and is it taxed?

I was given $3,000.00 both times, and it's not taxed because it's considered reimbursement for time missed at work. You are not selling your eggs, you are donating.

Are you paid the money right away?

No, you have to wait a week for the reimbursement because you have to go back to the clinic for a follow-up visit to make sure there aren't any problems.

What's involved with the egg donation process? How long does it take? Does it hurt?

Well, you go through quite a bit of testing, including blood draws a few times a week once you start the process. They also do an internal ultrasound to check your ovaries. You must be able to give yourself injections a few times a day for 2-3 weeks.

The injections are hormones to keep you from ovulating [until they're ready for you to]. The goal for them is to harvest as many eggs as possible. The first time I did it, they only got seven, but the second time, they got 24. They all go to the same family so that if the couple decides to have future children they will look alike.

Once it's time to harvest the eggs, they put you under and it only takes about 15 minutes for them to retrieve the eggs. When you wake up, the only thing you feel is some slight cramping.

Were you an anonymous donor?

Everything is anonymous between the donor and the families. You're just a number on your file so that when other moms come in for their IVF treatments, they aren't wondering if you're their donor.

Would you do it again?

I would, but now I'm over the age limit for it.

What were the downsides, if any?

There were no downsides to doing this.

Do you think some moms do it mostly for financial reasons, or in your experience is it a mix of altruism and financial gain?

Honestly I think it's a mix of both. At least back when I did it. Now I feel it's more for financial gain given the current state of the economy.

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What do you think? Would you consider donating your eggs?



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irish... irishstarz

YES! My eggs are awesome, and shoot..I'm not using them! Where do I sign up? Seriously.

MamaS... MamaSueCongdon

The idea sounds intriguing to me, but the financial gain would be the most motivating factor for me, honestly.  Which isn't a good enough reason (even if the economy is tanking) for me.  I also have a hard time with the idea that my child is out there in the world somewhere, and not knowing what their life is like.  And it's always seemed really extravagent in my mind for a couple to spend SO much money on IVF when they could adopt a child who has already been concieved and needs a home.  Especially when I consider the ethical issues that go along with creating several embryos and freezing them.

irish... irishstarz

Oh, and I'm only interested in helping others make a beautiful, smart, and healthy baby..it's an amazing gift! But money is nice, too, not gunna lie. ;D

Lindalu2 Lindalu2

The idea that kids that are "half me" would be out there is disturbing and I don't want to even think about it.  Talk about stress and worry and ulcers....my half kid ? Yikes....I would worry about what was happening to my offspring. Too much of a Sci-Fi thing.

Dingles Dingles

If I wasn't over the age limit, I would do it in a heartbeat. who cares about the money, I see it as giving a husband and wife the oppurtunity of becoming a family. Yeah, a part of me would be out there somehwere, but who cares, I gave life to someone less fortunate to do it themselves. Think how happy you were when you held that lovely child in your arms, the joy he/she brought to you. I think everyone less fortunate deserves that happiness. Put yourself in their place, wouldn't you like for someone to do that for you? I think you would rethink the whole situation, if it was you. God Bless those of you that would, have, and are seriously thinking of helping those in need.

NIKKI... NIKKIANDYBABY

There not your children 1st of all....The mother who cradles this child for nine mnths, gives birth, and nurtures its every need is the mother...DNA is everywhere...I have donated 2 times..I am going for a third..The first couple had tripletts all girls the second one had twin boys...Its not always annonomous I met mine..I have my own son and plan to have more..But I dont think about these children as mine..I seen pictures of all and none resemble me weird but true...I think its the most selfless beautiful thing someone can do. And until you get your self educated on it you really dont know. And until your infertile you cant judge! I personally got $5,000 and $8,000. It wasnt about the money I love the experience and the happiness this family gets. Where is all the money? In my 3 yr old sons college account!

NIKKI... NIKKIANDYBABY

Mamsue educate yourself first....It is not your child out there it is simply your dna that child was never yours nor would it ever be...And for you to tell these women to adopt that is very easy for you to say because you carried a child in your womb they have never got that experience

NIKKI... NIKKIANDYBABY

Moomie its not selling them....You miss days of work you go through alot of pain shots...its not selling them you basically just get back what you missed in work what your childcare costs and all the pain an suffering!

fluud7 fluud7

No, I wouldn't.

richg... richgirljj

I would totally do it and looked into years ago, before the economy went in the toilet.  I am too old.  :(  Bummer.

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