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Will You Circumcise Your Son?

by The Stir Bloggers on January 6, 2009 at 6:37 AM

circumcisonIf you're having a boy, the question of circumcision (surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis) is going to come up. If you already know what your decision will be because of religious, cultural, or other reasons, then you're set. But if you don't know whether or not to circumcise, how will you decide?

My first child was a boy and we really weren't sure what to do. Moms in Pregnancy are talking about it, too. Here's what a few of them have to say.

Terasasmom is expecting a baby in a couple of months and is on the fence about whether or not to circumcise. Her DH doesn't have a preference, so she asked moms who are expecting a boy if they are planning on circumcising or, if they've already given birth to a son, if they did and were happy with their decision.

Moms were careful to stress that it's a personal choice; here's a compilation of what they had to say in general on the topic:

"I haven't found out the sex yet, but *if* he's a boy, we'll definitely get him circumcised. My SO is and I'm glad. To me, it's the norm."

"My son is not circumcised. He'll be one year old soon and we've had no problems with it."

"If we have a boy, he will not be circumcised. His dad isn't, his brother isn't, and our insurance won't cover it because it's considered cosmetic."

"My son is circumcised and if this baby is a boy, he will be, too. My DH wants it done and it never entered my mind not to."

"My sons are both circumcised -- we had it done by a urologist. DH wanted to do it because he is, and I agreed. My friend has two sons that are not circumcised, though, and she's never had any problems from that choice, either."

Moms agreeing it was a "personal decision" aside, it was a controversial post, with the subjects of what's considered "the norm," cleanliness and infection, is it unnecessary surgery, and causing the baby pain all coming up.

What do you think? To circumcise or not, and why?

Filed Under: 3rd trimester, boy or girl, labor & delivery

Comments

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  • mrssu...
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    mrssundin

    January 6, 2009 at 6:44 AM

    i go for the circ but that is just me!!  i have one son that is and one that isnt and it hasnt really made a differnce but my dh is and now i am wondering if our other son will feel different because he isnt.


  • gonna...
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    gonnahavababy

    January 6, 2009 at 7:01 AM

    I don't think I could do it my husband isn't and he has never had any problems so I dont feel it is a necessary thing and I think I would feel guilty about hurting my baby, I can't stand seeing my babies in pain, I feel like tackling the Dr everytime they give them their shots LOL


  • Manth
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    Manth

    January 6, 2009 at 7:41 AM

    I have only daughters, not sons and can't have any more for medical reasons.

    However, if I DID have a son, I would NOT circ him unless it was medically necessary.  I just don't see the point if you teach him to properly clean himself.  My husband is not circed and is always very clean.  A foreskin is NOT a birth defect!


  • xxPau...
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    xxPaulaxx

    January 6, 2009 at 8:45 AM

    My DH says that if we ever have a boy, he'll be circ. cuz that's what his daddy looks like. LOL


  • Pauli...
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    Pauline3283

    January 6, 2009 at 9:21 AM

    No way!  My sons are born perfect there is nothing to fix.  A foreskin is a functioning part of the penis, why would I want to remove it?  And my husband IS circ'd and regrets it, I find that a silly excuse.  Men don't sit around comapring penises with their sons and if they did that would be a problem.


  • Laura...
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    Laura1229

    January 6, 2009 at 10:47 AM

    No.  I have 3 boys, all intact.  They are now 5, 6, & 10 yrs old.  The # of people who talk about infections just floor me --- as we've never had a problem.  I also think there is a LOT of misinformation out there.  Over & over again I see reasons listed on the pro-circ side that are just simply not reasons at all.

    I am not some 'anti-circ nazi' or anything.  It IS a personal decision to make & in the long-run (if it's done properly), I don't think it makes that much difference in the boy/man's life.  I don't see the point in it & I don't think it's anyone else's place but the OWNER of the penis to make that decision... but that's just me.  HOWEVER... I am completely against circumcisions w/o at least a local anesthesia.


  • Freela
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    Freela

    January 6, 2009 at 11:30 AM

    My son is not circ'd.  In dh's culture this is not routinely performed.  None of the men in his family are circ'd and none have had any issues.  I think that the 'maintenance' and infection risk as a reason to circ are overstated.  In my province the rate of circumcision is now about fifty-fifty so our son would be in good company either way.  And the kicker was that our province now considers it cosmetic surgery and will not pay for it.  All in all we are happy with the decision and if we ever had another son he would also be left intact.


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    jbirchard

    January 6, 2009 at 2:24 PM

    i am a non circumsising momma. i think its unnecessary and i wouldnt want to put my new baby through that. i dont believe thoes who say they cant feel it.all you have to do is teach them to clean it properly. ive seen wat too mant botched circumsisipns. my nephew had to get 25 stitches , by the time the dr was finnished.


  • RanaA...
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    RanaAurora

    January 6, 2009 at 4:36 PM

    This is a fight waiting to happen.
    I personally chose to circumcise my son, because after extensive research, I decided that I felt the benefits were well worth the risks.
    However, I completely respect the choices of others who decides they don't feel the same way, but wish they could be MUCH more respectful of those of us who choose circumcision based on research and medical reasons.  We're not all shallow women who care about cosmetics or looking like daddy.  Plenty of us care about the medical aspects alone.


  • meand...
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    meand3babies

    January 6, 2009 at 4:55 PM

    I circumcised my two sons because all of my research and my religion told me that it was the best thing to do.


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