Will You Circumcise Your Son?


circumcisonIf you're having a boy, the question of circumcision (surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis) is going to come up. If you already know what your decision will be because of religious, cultural, or other reasons, then you're set. But if you don't know whether or not to circumcise, how will you decide?

My first child was a boy and we really weren't sure what to do. Moms in Pregnancy are talking about it, too. Here's what a few of them have to say.

Terasasmom is expecting a baby in a couple of months and is on the fence about whether or not to circumcise. Her DH doesn't have a preference, so she asked moms who are expecting a boy if they are planning on circumcising or, if they've already given birth to a son, if they did and were happy with their decision.

Moms were careful to stress that it's a personal choice; here's a compilation of what they had to say in general on the topic:

"I haven't found out the sex yet, but *if* he's a boy, we'll definitely get him circumcised. My SO is and I'm glad. To me, it's the norm."

"My son is not circumcised. He'll be one year old soon and we've had no problems with it."

"If we have a boy, he will not be circumcised. His dad isn't, his brother isn't, and our insurance won't cover it because it's considered cosmetic."

"My son is circumcised and if this baby is a boy, he will be, too. My DH wants it done and it never entered my mind not to."

"My sons are both circumcised -- we had it done by a urologist. DH wanted to do it because he is, and I agreed. My friend has two sons that are not circumcised, though, and she's never had any problems from that choice, either."

Moms agreeing it was a "personal decision" aside, it was a controversial post, with the subjects of what's considered "the norm," cleanliness and infection, is it unnecessary surgery, and causing the baby pain all coming up.

What do you think? To circumcise or not, and why?

3rd trimester, boy or girl, labor & delivery


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eatat... eatatmoms

fwiw, i felt it was unnecessary pain to inflict on my boys but that is just me and my boys.  my ped thought it was strange and went on about how important it is for a boy to look the same as his dad.  i asked him, how often do you prance around naked in front of your son?  he's really a good ped who knows that i listen to his information but i make the final decision when it comes to my children's health care.

depsiua depsiua

My son is circumcised.  I did plenty of research from qualified medical sources.  Research is ongoing, not outdated.  Very recently research has shown a lower incidence in transmission of the AIDS virus among circumcised males.  The study data were so compelling that the study was ended and the uncircumcised men in the control group were given the information and the opportunity to be circumcised.  This research was carried out in Africa, where AIDS is reaching epedemic proportions.  This is not the only potential medical benefit, there are others.  Granted most of the problems are rare to begin with.  Circumcision just makes them less likely. 

The AAP does not reccommend routine circumcision because there aren't overwhelming medical benefits.  Please note the word overwhelming.  That doesn't mean there aren't any benefits.  I think the choice to circumcise or not is a deeply personal one.  I respect the decision not to.  Just as I wish more people would respect my decision to have it done. 

bend_... bend_not_break

My son is circ'd.  its cleaner on so many levels and there is research out there that proves it

Mande... Mandey0232

i am pregnant with my second now (i think its a boy, no ultrasound yet) and i will not be having it done. i read an intresting article on circumcision from a religous perspective. it is on birthingway.com click on articles then scroll down, you will see it. something i do not understand is why female circumcision is mutilation and male circumcision is made to sound necessary. i think they are both horrible (physically). it boggles my mind that some would try to say a baby can't feel anything yes they can, they just cannot communicate it with you! the 'it promotes cleanliness' talk is total bull. if i never cleaned my vagina i might have a problem but that doesn't mean i need to start chopping and sewing away. i really hope people research what they are doing and why. do not do something just b/c mom and dad did it or it is what you have been told. read about it!

linza... linzamer21

I am almost done with nursing school to become an RN. My observation is that the circed penises on average seem to be cleaner and they are easier to keep clean. THIS IS JUST MY OPINION AND MY OBSERVATION!! I am sure that many uncircumsized men are just as clean so no bashing please. Also, I decided to have both of my sons circumsized for appearances as well as cleanliness. I don't want them to feel awkward at all. I know I made the right decision for my boys!

RanaA... RanaAurora

  All the research that has been done is outdated


Actually, we only reference research that is very current, and sometimes even BRAND new in our information group.  A lot of the arguments against it I've seen are anywhere from 7-18 years old.

mamashef mamashef

I'm expecting a boy and while we're not 100% decided I don't want to circ. I'd be curious what the research said for those who did circ because everything I've read has said that it's not necessary and when he gets older he could have a more 'pleasurable' life if he's not circ'd. In older days, infection was more of an issue so it could depend on where you live. In the U.S. that's not really an issue anymore (based on what I've read).

sally... sallymoon

My circumcised husband told me before we even got married that he would NOT want any of his boys to be cut.  I've done a few years of research and found that leaving my son intact was the healthiest choice for him and less work for me.  The foreskin is a functional and beneficial body part that I won't take from my son just because the majority of this country does it.  What is popular is not always right.

danny... dannydawna

My boys are circumcised.  I left the choice up to my husband- seeing as I don't have a penis I didn't think it was my call to make.  We make all the other decisions about our boys together, but not this one.

fatim... fatima_reed23

i have a 2 yr old girl and pregnant with a boy due March 29th.. i will have him undergo circumcision.. my husband was circumsized when he was 5 yrs (ouch) i wouldnt want to wait that long.. plus it was for religious/and cultural reasons.. if you are jewish or moslem the boys MUST be circumsized.. in Islam no later than 5 or 6 i think... anyways.. i have been moslem only 1 yr and even before i was moslem i ALWAYS thought to have any/all boys i had circumsized.. this is my 2nd marriage and my first husband wasnt circumsized and it was disgusting!!!!

also the "in\fec\tion" they talk about for the men with foreskin.. well i know you cant get one just because usually it happens after intercourse if you dont clean good enough, and also they have done tests with women with cervical/ovarian cancer 9/10 women wih cancer had partners not circumsized..

For those that have ever read the bible, torah, or quran.. well it is obligatory upon men to get circumsized some christians think it optional.. well they are misinformed then because what men are earth now.. are better than prophets then??? NO ONE!!! and all prophets after abraham were circumsized

so eiter way.. spiritually or physically it is suggested

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