After Almost Losing Her Baby, Mom Warns Pregnant Women to Always Trust Their Gut

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Pregnancy comes with a whole host of worries. If you're not concerned about the safety of your child, you're thinking about the effect all your worrying is going to have on your baby's health. While the worrying seems never-ending and oftentimes makes you second-guess everything, this mom's emotional post should serve as a reminder to always trust your gut


New mom Ayla Heller recently opened up about a harrowing experience she had during her pregnancy. While her daughter, Maddy, came into the world safely on August 30, 2017, and seems to be faring well, her birth story was very close to having a much more tragic ending.

"So the day I turned 38 weeks was obviously just a normal day, I got up and went to work like usual, " Ayla wrote on Facebook. "Pretty early that morning I had already noticed Maddy wasn't kicking around very much but had assumed she was having a less active day. By noon, I felt her adjust her position which brought to my attention that she still hadn't kicked, but at least I had felt some kind of movement."

By the time Ayla arrived home from work, Maddy still wasn't active, causing the new mom to worry. Even after taking a bath, drinking a bit of orange juice, and using a home fetal monitor to listen to the baby's heartbeat, Ayla noticed that Maddy remained pretty still, and she officially started panicking. 

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As Ayla points out, many moms are confused about what constitutes normal movement and what it really means if your baby stops moving. She went online looking for answers, only to become even more confused. "I texted my mother asking if it was normal because online did not help (duh Ayla, it's internet..)," she wrote. "Half of everything I read said go in immediately, and the other half said that babies run out of room to kick."

After talking to her mom, Ayla called her midwife, who prompted her to go to the hospital right away. "Upon arriving I was hooked up to monitors so they could track [baby's] movement," she wrote. At the hospital, she was given ice and more orange juice, and was maneuvered around into different positions; still, her daughter remained unmoving.

It wasn't until her midwife arrived that she finally got some answers: Doctors thought Ayla's baby likely had a life-threatening condition, and she needed an emergency C-section.

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Ayla Heller/Facebook

Ayla was rushed into the operating room, where the doctors quickly performed her C-section and provided her daughter with oxygen before both of them were released back into her original birthing room. It was there that Heller learned just how dire a situation her daughter had been in.

"I was informed that my placenta had aged prematurely, was calcified, and had basically given up. (I was also told they don't know why this happens and there's nothing I could've done to prevent it)," she wrote. "This had caused Maddy to not be receiving as much oxygen or food as she needed. This was causing her to try to preserve her energy, which is why she had stopped moving."

Sometime after her daughter had given birth, Ayla's mom asked the medical staff an important question. "My mother asked what would have happened had I not gone in when I did. 'She wouldn't be here' was the reply. [Maddy] wouldn't have made it the rest of the night..." 

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This revelation is what prompted Ayla to share her story with other women, in hopes that it would encourage them to trust their own instincts when it comes to their pregnancies. "Always be safe rather than sorry. Because I almost didn't. I almost waited till morning to see if anything changed. And had I done that, I wouldn't have my love."

With a recent study showing that fast deterioration of the placenta is one of the most prominent causes of stillbirths, we also know that early detection may be the best way to prevent them from occurring. In the event that you feel anything unusual happening during your pregnancy, you should never hesitate to reach out to a doctor or midwife. As Ayla says, "You know your body and what's normal for your baby."

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