Mom Posts Photo of C-Section Scar to Show Not Every 'Real Birth' Involves a Vagina

c-section birthWhen we join the motherhood, we are changed -- in mind, in soul, in body. We all bear scars of some kind -- and for some of us, those scars are visible and carry profound meaning. Mom Jodie Shaw recently shared a photo of her C-section scar on the Facebook page Birth Without Fear. The image and her words carry the emotion so many mothers who had a Cesarean share. Despite surgery, we still gave birth to our babies, and proudly. 

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Every one of our bodies is different, unique; our scars are our own, as is every one of our birth stories. Shaw's scar is a vertical incision -- not the norm when it comes to C-sections, but the truth is there is no real "norm." Shaw's scar came out of love and with the intent to save her baby. 

Shaw writes:

A new day and a what seems to be another new post from someone insinuating that giving birth by cesarean means that you didn't give birth. 

Can we please just stop!

I obviously can't change people's views but I've decided to post this picture to see if it may make people understand that despite what our birth plans might say. Sometimes we don't get a choice. I didn't get a choice. 

I had a fibroid the size of a melon sat on my cervix and a low lying placenta which meant that I've been left with no ordinary csection scar. But whether you believe this or not. I gave birth to my baby. 

So next time you judge someone for not doing what you consider to be "giving birth" please take a minute to think about why they may have had to deliver that way. Think about the fact that given the choice they probably wouldn't of chosen this but had no choice. Why would you choose a major operation and 6 weeks of recovery? 

This scar saved me from losing a life threatening amount of blood and meant my baby was brought into this world as she should be. Healthy and unharmed, as was I.

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The personal journey that we take to motherhood comes with different challenges, and we must honor those differences, and see that there are so many ways to birth a baby. When you carry life in your womb for however many months, it is when that life makes its appearance outside your body that your baby is birthed.

Some of us have birthed after a few minutes of labor. Some spent hours with a midwife. Others have faced complications where an expected vaginal birth became an unexpected C-section. Some had to plan a surgery based on health issues. Every one of us birthed our babies.

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I like to say that I gave birth to my twin babies through a window made in my belly -- a window made with love, a portal made in an emergency in order to save my babies and my life. My scar adorns my body with pride. I did it. I entered the motherhood with two beautiful lives.

Our mom scars hold one of many sacrifices we make for our kids, and they truly are made with love, with the intent of life. Shaw's C-section scar really drives that point home.

The beauty that has come out of Shaw's sharing her dramatic scar and rare vertical incision is that women are coming together to share their stories of birthing their babies in all the ways we birth our babies. There are incredible notes of support and understanding, women sharing their own birthing challenges and how they have overcome. It is in this sharing that we can all heal together. And appreciate all the ways our babies are born.

 

Image via iStock.com/Reynardt Badenhorst

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