What Guys Are Really Thinking While They Watch You Give Birth

delivery roomLadies, when it comes to labor and delivery, it's all about us (and the baby, of course). But our partners are typically there for the Big Event, also. Ever stop and wonder: What the hell was going through his mind while I was bringing our kid into the world?!

Sure, it's a more intense, and, uh, visceral experience for us, but it isn't exactly a regular day at the office for our dudes either. Here, 8 anonymous guys share what they were thinking while they watched their partners give birth.

"My wife [had an episotomy] and to this day I can still hear the snip the doctor made. I can't believe anyone could ever endure that."


"I couldn't believe how strong my girlfriend was! She's the kind of woman who will complain about a headache for hours on end (no offense, honey!). She was so quiet and focused when she gave birth to our son. It was amazing."

wonder woman

"I'm embarrassed to tell you this, but I almost passed out. I had to sit down and a nurse brought me juice. I know, I'm a p***y."

passing out

"I felt really bad that there wasn't anything I could do for my wife. She was in so much pain; I felt completely helpless. I just kept wishing that I could transfer the pain from her to me."


"Holy shit."

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"I honestly had no thoughts. Until she started pushing, I was practically frozen. I could barely talk to the nurses when they came into the room and made small talk. Actually, I'm glad my wife doesn't remember how I acted that day. I'm pretty sure I was a big idiot."


"With our first, I all but ran into the bathroom, shut the door, and crouched down in the shower. With our second, I felt much more helpful to my wife. I was able to bring her things, hold her hand, give her a massage. And by our third, I was pretty much administering the epidural."


"Weirdly, during the first few hours of my wife being in labor, I remember Beverly Hills Cop playing on the TV in the background. And I remember when I first saw our daughter's head, telling my wife, 'She has so much hair!' And yes, I was crying. You got me."


Do you know what when through your partner's mind in the delivery room?


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otiesmom otiesmom

I asked if i was pooping lol his response was no, but your balloon knot is inside out! With a look of horror on his face, poor thing was probably thinking "his" poor vagina could never come back from that haha

nonmember avatar BostonBob

I was amazed at the whole process. That she and I could have created a baby.

And I know I wouldn't be tough enough to handle childbirth.

Wendy Crandall

What is a balloon knot? My Hubby makes me angry when we talk about the birthing experience. He has the nerve to tell me that I don't know what he went through! Um.... He would have 1 contraction and die. Just saying. lol

nonmember avatar mom27

My husband kept asking if I I was feeling anything when my contractions were way off the charts really I wanted to beat the holy crap out of him the nurse made him go outside before I hurt him lol

Austi... AustinRonMommy

We were actually fighting and pissed at each other until it was time to push...then we were fine. Lol. I'm pretty sure what was going through his mind was that he couldn't stand me. Lol

nonmember avatar Tina

My son father was watching the French channel and laughing with the OB I was a little ticked . so my son came into the world hearing his dad laugh which now that I think about it was cool back then not so cool.

SamNS... SamNStefanMommy

After 3 babies, I thought I knew what to expect. I spent hours prepping him for my screaming and anger (I hadn't handled my previous labors well at all). When it was over, he just said "Well, that was easier than I expected."

HazelBug HazelBug

Mine was activly participating in the process. He was helping me stand up during every contraction and swaying with me. I'm not entirely sure what he was thinking every moment. But he was there in the moment with me, chatting, laughing and helping me do the darned hard work.

Mom_t... Mom_to_Lincoln

weeks after the delivery my dh got the courage to ask me "what was that big black thing that came out after the baby?" And did they put it back in? LMAO I guess he didn't know anything about the placenta!

Ashle... Ashley1113

I would love to see one of these from men whose wives had cesareans.

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