At 41, Cameron Diaz is no stranger to being asked where she stands on motherhood. Sitting down with The Telegraph for a candid interview recently, the actress decided to set the record straight on how she feels about having children. She explained, "I've never said never to anything in life. If I wanted kids, at any point in life, I would have them."
She continued, "But I'm certain that if at any point I wanted a child, that child would find its way into my life, whether through adoption or through being in a relationship with somebody who has a child." Wow ... And as if that wasn't bad enough, she went on to say she doesn't feel she is "childless," elaborating, "I can have a kid any second, if I want. All my friends would be like, 'Sure, come and get them.'"
Eek. Talk about an eyebrow-raiser! Millions of women just collectively groaned, rolled their eyes, slapped their foreheads, and shook their heads ...
Cameron may feel like the universe or fate or whatever higher power is going to end up leading her down the path of parenthood in a way other than giving birth. But the flip attitude and the idea that she could "oh, just adopt" at any given moment show no regard for women who actually know how extremely challenging it can be to welcome a child into their life, due to infertility, miscarriage, or the very tough process of adoption.
Any mom who has been desperately trying for a baby knows that becoming a parent isn't something you can just do on a whim after some big lightbulb moment. To hear it talked about in such a casual way is absolutely maddening.
It's not just about Cameron. It's about society in general understanding and respecting what women who desperately want to have children go through to have them. Off-handed, casual comments that reduce all the steps, sweat, and tears tied to trying for a child to pulling through a fast-food drive-thru just plain hurts.
Perhaps this is a sign we should all start striving for more sensitivity on the subject. Because we can never know what another woman has gone through to become a mom. But there's a great chance that we can safely assume that whatever it was wasn't by any means easy.
Do you take offense to comments like this? Why?
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