Cameron Diaz' Thoughts on Motherhood Insult Women Everywhere

cameron diaz hollywood walk of fameAt 41, Cameron Diaz is no stranger to being asked where she stands on motherhood. Sitting down with The Telegraph for a candid interview recently, the actress decided to set the record straight on how she feels about having children. She explained, "I've never said never to anything in life. If I wanted kids, at any point in life, I would have them."

She continued, "But I'm certain that if at any point I wanted a child, that child would find its way into my life, whether through adoption or through being in a relationship with somebody who has a child." Wow ... And as if that wasn't bad enough, she went on to say she doesn't feel she is "childless," elaborating, "I can have a kid any second, if I want. All my friends would be like, 'Sure, come and get them.'"

Eek. Talk about an eyebrow-raiser! Millions of women just collectively groaned, rolled their eyes, slapped their foreheads, and shook their heads ...

Cameron may feel like the universe or fate or whatever higher power is going to end up leading her down the path of parenthood in a way other than giving birth. But the flip attitude and the idea that she could "oh, just adopt" at any given moment show no regard for women who actually know how extremely challenging it can be to welcome a child into their life, due to infertility, miscarriage, or the very tough process of adoption.

Any mom who has been desperately trying for a baby knows that becoming a parent isn't something you can just do on a whim after some big lightbulb moment. To hear it talked about in such a casual way is absolutely maddening.

It's not just about Cameron. It's about society in general understanding and respecting what women who desperately want to have children go through to have them. Off-handed, casual comments that reduce all the steps, sweat, and tears tied to trying for a child to pulling through a fast-food drive-thru just plain hurts.

Perhaps this is a sign we should all start striving for more sensitivity on the subject. Because we can never know what another woman has gone through to become a mom. But there's a great chance that we can safely assume that whatever it was wasn't by any means easy.

Do you take offense to comments like this? Why?

 

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SARob... SARoberts143

Oh, calm down. You're taking her comments entirely too personally.

D.j. Lord

offended again?...the stir would be offended if some one said good morning

kayba... kaybayblee3

I'm not offended by any of her comments. Is it that hard to believe that some women just CHOOSE not to have kids?

nonmember avatar Sabrina

Lighten up. Gees. She is fullfilled and enjoys her friends' babies. She is in no way downplaying the plight of those who can not have their own.

nonmember avatar Laurie

Much ado about NOTHING. She went over her options and you went into a tail spin.

nonmember avatar Marisol

It seems to me like you misconstrued what she was saying entirely. When I first read her comments, I thought she was being extremely realistic about her current situation. She never even says anything about physically birthing a child -- just that she would choose to adopt or might find herself in a relationship with someone who has a child. Seems realistic, considering she's a forty-something movie star.

Besides that, don't you think she's probably offended that people continually ask her about whether or not she wants to have kids? Do better, the Stir.

fave82 fave82

With all that money, it is JUST THAT EASY for her. She can afford to get through all the red tape leading to an adoption or all the fertility treatments shed need to have them naturally.

mommy... mommyredrose23

Coming from someone who became infertile after one child and experienced everything that an infertile woman does, I find no fault or offense in her statements. She isn't a mother so perhaps her comments seem a bit naive, but not offensive. She is free to do what she likes with her life and it has no bearing on me or mine.

Jacee... Jacee2348

Nope, not offended at all. It probably is fairly easy to adopt a child with her money and status - maybe not a baby - but I guarantee there are thousands of children of all ages waiting for a good home. And maybe she doesn't want children and just enjoys spoiling kids her friends have. Nothing wrong with that! Take a pill and relax. :D

berit berit

This is a ridiculous story seeking to make something out of nothing. She COULD decide at any moment she wants to begin the process of having a kid by way of adoption procreation or insemination. There's nothing in there about bringing a kid home same day like a fast food meal. Calm the hell down Stir writers. And I agree, she does have the amount of money it takes to get any of these processes going and wrap it up quickly.

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