10 Moms' Worst Fears About Having a Baby After 35

savannah guthrieSavannah Guthrie is opening up about her pregnancy for the first time since announcing that she and her husband Michael Feldman are expecting a little one. The Today show host started a baby blog and, right off the bat, touched on one of the most emotional aspects of becoming a mom: The fact that at 42 years old, she "honestly didn’t know if she’d ever get the chance to be one." She goes on to write that she's "never been more thankful," in great part it seems because for a long time, she thinks she was afraid to even let herself think about how much she hoped to one day have a baby.

Any mom who has waited into her early 40s or even mid-30s to start trying can relate to Savannah. There are a slew of worries, concerns, and fears that women who start trying to conceive on the "later" side have. The good news is that they're not alone. Here, 10 "older" moms confess what they grappled with through trying to conceive, pregnancy, and motherhood ... 

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  1. "I had my first at 36 and my third at 41. I was slightly worried about conceiving with the first one, but I didn't have to wait long. ... I did have an amnio for my third baby because I didn't want to take any chances."
  2. "My fourth son (surprise!) came when I was 40 years old. I worried that I wouldn't be able to keep up with him. [But] I do! He keeps me young, and I am a much better parent now than I was in my 20s. I still worry that he will be embarrassed when he is older, and all the parents are 15 or so years younger than me."
  3. "I had my son at 38. My only worry is that I die too early, leaving him alone. But in reality, every parent probably has that fear."
  4. "[I was] 40 and 42. My doctor wanted me to go to a fertility clinic before I even properly tried to conceive. Phhht!"
  5. "I just freaked out when I was told I could take the MaterniT21 test (which is a super accurate test in which they take a sample of the baby’s DNA via blood drawn from the mother). I was happy to find out everything was okay, but going in for the test -- and waiting for the results! -- was terrifying."
  6. "I was 36, and I only really worry about maintaining my health, so I can live long enough to see grandbabies! [But] during my pregnancy, I became very worried when I started reading those books, like What to Expect When You're Expecting. I finally decided that the odds of all the bad were way lower than the odds of all the good. Most woman of any age deliver healthy babies -- that was the number one statistic for me. I threw the books away and rolled with it!"
  7. "I am 37 and trying to conceive. We have been trying for 16 months with one miscarriage in October. I am worried that it just won't happen."
  8. "I am 35 ... I worry that I've gone so long NOT having kids, and kind of become set in my ways, that it's going to be a bigger adjustment for me than someone younger."
  9. "I had my second at 35. I had two miscarriages between my pregnancies, so this was an ongoing worry for me, one that may or may not have been due to age -- were my 'good' eggs all gone??? Was I doomed? Were my progesterone levels failing me?"
  10. "I deliberately tried to shut out all the noise about 'older moms' and 'fertility problems' and 'pregnancy complications' and just go with the flow, think positively, be happy, and not freak out. And it really did serve me well -- I got pregnant the first week of trying both times, and I had really smooth pregnancies that were mostly complication-free. They weren’t a walk in the park, but most women don’t have those kinds of pregnancies no matter how old they are! The one thing I found is that sometimes doctors treat older moms differently even when there’s no reason to. My OB/GYN is fantastic but drove me a bit crazy the first time with a lot of the tests and various things she did to be cautious. She tends to be an over-tester anyway, but I felt like she was like that even more because of my age (39/40). The second time, two years later, oddly, she was WAY more relaxed."

If you also had a baby at "advanced maternal age," what were/are some of your concerns?


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