Mom Gives Up Lifesaving Treatment So Her Baby Can Live (VIDEO)

liz lilybear maxWhen most couples dream of having a baby, they imagine raising the child together. But imagine carrying a baby you know you may never raise yourself. One pregnant woman faced an unthinkable dilemma: Abort her unborn baby to save her life, or carry on with a pregnancy and face certain death. Elizabeth Joice chose to sacrifice her life to give her baby daughter a chance at life. She considered it a miracle at all that she'd gotten pregnant, and she was going to give this new life a fighting chance.

Four years ago Elizabeth had fought off cancer with four rounds of chemotherapy, followed by surgery, followed by more chemotherapy before her cancer finally went into remission. Her doctors told her she'd never get pregnant, but Elizabeth and her husband Max tried anyway -- and three years later she was expecting!

Their joy was cut short when Elizabeth learned only a month later that her tumor was back. Doctors removed the tumor, but because she was pregnant, they couldn't find out if it had spread and where. They delivered Elizabeth's baby Lily early via C-section in January. The cancer spread rapidly throughout Elizabeth's body, including her right lung and her heart.

Elizabeth spent just a few short weeks as a mother before her life was cruelly taken by cancer on March 9. She'd been able to spend only one day at home with Lily and Max. "We said our goodbyes. It was like something out of a movie. We sat there and cried. We tried to tell stories, talk about all the great things," Max says.

I try to imagine what I would feel if I'd been in Elizabeth's place -- if I'd had to choose between my pregnancy or fighting cancer again. She'd beaten it before, so would she have the confidence to know she could beat it again? Or would she dread going through chemotherapy all over again?

Maybe Elizabeth weighed her chances at beating cancer against her daughter's chances of living a full life and decided the odds were with her daughter. As a woman who grew up without a mother, she would know all too well what challenges Lily would face. She must have had tremendous faith and confidence in Max's potential as a father to leave her daughter entirely in his hands.

Max must have been heartbroken to say goodbye to Elizabeth. This story is so unbearably sad -- except for Max's amazing perspective. In a way, Elizabeth is still with him. Max says, "Liz’s magic rubbed off on Lily. She’s beautiful and remarkable. It provides me with the strength to get through this.”

Friends are raising funds to help Max and baby Lily.

Would you have made the same choice as Elizabeth did? What would your reasons be?


Image via Liz, Max & Lilybear/YouTube

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lilmo... lilmoosesmom

Shes not the first mother who has done this, and she will not be the last. A woman in my area lived long enough to see her daughter's first month and then passed. I personally would make the same choice

cherylam cherylam

As a mom, I would gladly give my life, without a second thought for my children. She was a strong woman who knew the odds and rolled with them, just to give her baby a chance. Blessings & peace on her journey.

prplecat prplecat

No greater love...

Rachel Maguire Kane

True love never fades- as this mothers choice will forever make her chid strong...

lasombrs lasombrs

I would have done the same

jkp-buff jkp-buff

4 rounds of chemo, surgery, more chemo, then the tumor comes back, more surgery... it sounds like if she had aborted, whatever extra treatment she would have received would have only prolonged her life a short while, maybe less than a year or two. Given those odds, I would have made the same choice too.

kaffe... kaffedrikke

I'd have made the same choice. However if it were my 15 yr old daughter in the same situation I might feel different.

Julie VB

in a heartbeat

drink... drinkme8184

As a mother of two children, I would not make the same choice.  My children need me here.  I feel it would be selfish to leave them without a mother.

nonmember avatar Mark

Ummm....she is brave and it is horrible that she had to face such a choice, but I read that she put $200,000.00 in a trust for her daughter when she found out she was sick. That is a lot of money, which begs the question, how can you ask for help? We all need help and you have more than most people do. That is my issue with this story.

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