Pregnant Women Need to Stop Expecting People to Give Up a Seat for Them

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Oh boy. Have you heard about the pregnant woman who was forced to sit on a train's floor because no one wanted to give up their seat during the busy London commute?

Yep. It really happened. Victoria Poskitt is five months along, and while riding in one morning, there were no seats available in the main class, so she opted to plunk down on the floor of the car so she wouldn't have to stand. And understandably, she's upset -- and not just because she wasn't feeling well and figured someone should give up their seat. Apparently this particular train line offers special passes to pregnant women who are more than 20 weeks along, which allow them to sit in the first class car if there are seats available.

Yes ... there were seats up front on the day Victoria was riding, but she still wound up on the floor. And it's because she only rides the train three days a week. To get the pass, you have to have a weekly, monthly, or annual pass. (There's always a catch.)

And while I totally get where she's coming from -- somehow I feel like she might be trying to score extra perks out of her pregnancy by milking the situation for all it's worth.

Hear me out.

It's not like she's in her last trimester -- she's a mere five months along. And if I remember correctly, I wasn't anywhere close to being an invalid around that point. I mean, the second trimester is generally a breeze, so you'd think most moms-to-be would want to act like normal human beings and not expected to be given all sorts of special privileges -- at least until their bump is so huge that they can barely stand up straight.

In a way, by looking for a pity party out of what happened on the train, this woman is kind of giving preggos a bad rap. It's like she's saying they can't function like regular people or something. Yes, it's a little shocking that no one offered up their seat to her. But is it really necessary for women to expect to sit in first class when they aren't super pregnant yet? 

It's like those parking spaces at the grocery store that are reserved for moms-to-be. Yeah, they're great if you're like eight months along -- but should you really get that spot if you're only a few weeks pregnant? Or even a couple months? (All I'm saying is that the line needs to be drawn somewhere.)

Hopefully next time Victoria rides the train, she'll have more generous commuters around her. But if not? Well ... she might want to think about springing for the monthly pass until her baby arrives. At least that way she'll get her first class seat and still follow the rules so the train line doesn't have to bend them for everyone else.

Do you expect special privileges since you are pregnant?


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nonmember avatar Erica

Good to know that every woman everywhere has the same exact pregnancy that you did. I'm really beginning to think you seriously dislike women based on the crap you post.

nonmember avatar Christina

1st semester actually seems just as reasonable for close parking. You're not waddling yet, yeah. but do you remember the exhaustion?

nonmember avatar Christina


Choco... Chocodoxies

Its a good thing I know that YOUR pregnancy is the gold standard for pregnancies everywhere. Do you have a book or some other way for me to measure my pregnacies against your's so that my husband knows just how kind or how much of a dick he should be to me regarding the vomiting and peeing my pants at the same time that has occured through seven months of two pregnacies? 

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

I don't think pregnant women should get any special treatment. If there is a reason they can't walk or stand maybe their dr should give them a handicap pass. Otherwise, giving up a seat is kind, but no where near required. Other individuals have aches, pains and are tired. Just like pregnant women thinking they are entitled to cut in a bathroom line, you have no idea who else has waited, has a uti or other non visible reason they gotta go! Emergencies are one thing, exceptions, regardless of pregnancy. Pregnancy itself does not warrant special treatment.

nonmember avatar River

What crap! Not everyone's pregnancy is the same. My first trimester was a breeze, I didn't even have the normal morning sickness or exhaustion. But my second was hell. I was always sick, had lots of issues with my bp. Now my third has balanced out and besides being big, I'm doing good. At 20 weeks I would of been miserable and really appreciated and expected someone on that train to give up a seat. What ever happened to just basic mannners?

B1Bomber B1Bomber

Around five months was when my pelvic symphesis thing kicked in. I could barely stand, walking was painful, and stairs or ramps were agonizing. You better believe I appreciated offers of seats whenever possible.

As a decent human being, I give up my seat for the elderly, the disabled, pregnant women, families with small children, and just really anyone who looks like he needs it more than I do.

Zoë Rose Parker

No I don't think pregnant women should have special privileges but this story just goes to show, that common courtesy doesn't exist anymore if you can clearly see that see is pregnant the courteous thing to do would be to offer a seat, just as you would if it were and elderly lady, etc!! Peoples lack of manners is very depressing.

CLM3345 CLM3345

I feel bad that no polite person offered their seat to this woman. Possibly she doesn't look pregnant? I know at 5 months, women usually do, but I've known several who haven't for various reasons. As common courtesy, a young person in good health should have given up their seat. I understand the previous posters about having uncomfortable/difficult pregnancies; although it should be a courtesy to give up a seat, it certainly shouldn't be an expectation.

nonmember avatar Jessica

I agree with CLM3345's comment "although it should be a courtesy to give up a seat, it certainly shouldn't be an expectation." I'm 35 weeks pregnant, and yes, I'm uncomfortable...but that doesn't entitle me to special treatment. I'm pregnant by choice, I'm not sick or handicapped.

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