Pregnant Woman Killed by Snowplow But Her Unborn Baby Survives

baby handsAnother pregnant woman has died before she could see her baby -- and another baby enters the world without meeting their mother. During a snowstorm yesterday, Min Lin, 36, was hit by a snowplow while she was loading groceries with her husband into the trunk of their car in New York City. The snow plow (actually a utility vehicle with a plow attached) was backing up into a rear parking lot of a shopping mall. Lin was rushed to the hospital and pronounced dead there, but doctors were able to deliver her 6-pound, 6-ounce baby, who is now in intensive care.

Naturally the baby's family isn't eager to talk with the media, and I hope their privacy is respected at this devastating time. But this story, and the recent story about the brain-dead woman kept alive for her unborn baby, have me wondering how families keep the memory of lost mothers alive for their children.

No one wants to consider this a possibility when they're expecting a child. It's the last thing you'd want to contemplate. But what if? I think most families would want to raise their child with some idea of who their mother was. 

On the other hand, you'd have to be careful not to put your very big, grownup feelings on your child. They can't carry your grief for you. And you wouldn't want them to feel bereft and deprived because their mother is dead -- although isn't that kind of inevitable?

I imagine families might put together special scrapbooks, photo albums, videos to help their child understand their mother. It would be in your hands to shape how your child knows this person they'll never meet. That must be an intimidating responsibility -- but also an opportunity to remember someone in a beautiful way.

At any rate, my heart goes out to these families. I can only imagine the mixed feelings of welcoming a new, young life just as you're saying goodbye to the love of your life.

How would you want to be remembered if you died just before your baby was born?

 

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Austi... Austinsmommy12

One of my best friends mother died when she was 18 months old. She found out she was pregnant and had terminal cancer at the same time, and sacrificed her life for her unborn baby. My friend grew jp with a lot of guilt, but her grandma raised her to know who her mother was and how much she loved her. Sad situation for sure, especially with a dad who took off when he realized he would be a single parent, but she's a fantastic mother now herself, and really appreciates her daughter and watching her grow up. Many people take for granted what she didn't have the luxury of having.

Amanda Packer Streeter

Austinmommy, my great grandmother did the same. Knowing that having her daughter would kill her, she happily passed away shortly after my grandma was born. Sadly, her daddy died only a few years later and she was then raised by her moms parents who blamed her for their daughter death. But after years, she finally met her moms friends and other family member who shared what an amazing woman her mom was. We all believe she is our families guardian angel and I named my daughter after her.

Tiffany Burelle Bates

I cannot even imagine what this womans family is going through right now.

RiotP... RiotPixie

My cousin is in the hospital, on life support. She went in last week with pneumonia. They diagnosed get with ARCD, which cut off her oxygen. She was 27 weeks pregnant. They delivered her son by cesarean on Thursday. He's in the NICU, 2 lbs. We're praying she pulls through.

nonmember avatar Angie

My mom died when I was 2. My loser dad claims he dropped me off at my grandma's (my mom's mom) because he had to pay bills. My family always talked about her and I was always told how I looked so much like her. My cousin (that's my age) lost his mom the next year. He doesn't remember her but I do. His dad never talked about his mom. It's really sad.

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