How I Almost Never Met My Daughter

The blood was pooling. I tried reassuring my wife while rushing her to the hospital, but she knew what was happening. The admitting nurse validated our fears by asking, "How far along were you?"

The word miracle is overused. However, few others describe our daughter, Skylar Nicole. You can see the photo on the left. So you know we could not have asked for a better ending to this story. However, a better beginning and middle would have been effing nice.

According to our IVF doctor, there was only a 20 percent chance of the embryo implanting, much less attending college. (I won't bore you with the specifics, but my wife and I are the Baron and Baroness of barrenness.) The day before our appointment with the adoption agency, Jo Ann called me weeping even more inconsolably than after being quoted those odds. She was pregnant.

The midnight dash to the hospital was a false alarm. The fetus had tapped into a blood vessel. However, my wife's cervix was the real emergency. It was practically nonexistent. (Most was removed due to cancer when she was 22. But she was assured by the oncologist that she would still be able to bear children.) An emergency cerclage was required, followed by six months of strict bed rest.

At 3 a.m. on a random Wednesday, Jo Ann flicked on our bedroom light and asked if I was ready to meet our daughter. A clear, odorless liquid drenched her legs. She was just shy of her eighth month. A nurse at the same hospital tested a sample of the liquid. We were then discharged because, we were told, her water hadn't broken yet.

On Thursday, the flow increased. Freaked out, we returned to the hospital, but the discharge was again followed by a discharge. What was this clear, odorless liquid? "We don't know," a nurse said. "But it doesn't test positive for amniotic fluid." (The test, we discovered later, is only 95 percent accurate.)

On Saturday afternoon, the baby stopped kicking. Jo Ann didn't want to return to the hospital just to be sent back home again, but I insisted. Glucose and electrical stimulation were administered. There was no response. A NICU doctor was summoned to resuscitate.

Holding my wife's hand while she was sliced like a brisket, I made a promise I wasn't authorized to make: that everything would be OK.

This pool of blood was a more welcome sight. Our daughter was being plucked from it, pink and crying.

To all those hoping for their own miracle, it can happen. Skylar Nicole, who turns 3 on February 12, is proof.

Has someone in your life beaten the baby odds, too?


labor & delivery, complications, c-sections

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nonmember avatar Brandie

I'm sitting in the NICU with my miracle now.

nonmember avatar sunny rosen

Your daughter is a blessing!!! just remember that when she's a teenager and driving u nuts...

jaxmadre jaxmadre

I am so glad your story has a happy ending

nonmember avatar Laurie

Whst a beautiful story. I was told I probably wouldn't be able have children or would have difficulty. I have two babies. One is 2.5 and one is 3 months. And they are my miracles. I worried about them from the moment of conception to the moment I held them in my arms. Of course, I still worry but they both survived 9 + months in the womb so I definitely have a lot less to worry about now.

nolan... noland72587

A friend of mine has an incurable disease called juvenile myosotis.  She was told at a very young age she would never have kids.  One reason is bc her meds are class d ( I bthink) and she can't be off them for very long.  She has an almost 3 year old boy now.

princ... princessshay27

About 6 weeks after my dad passed away I found out I was pregnant. While I didnt have a very good pregnancy I also ended up needing an emergency c-sec at 29 weeks. My son was only 1 lb 12 oz. He was also the only baby in the NICU that size that did not need to be put on oxygen at all :-). He spent 7 weeks in the hospital, coming home weeks earlier than the doctors and nurses thought he would, shocking everyone. He is now going to be 2 on march 1st (his bday is actually february 29th so he wont get his first "real" bday for 2 more years) & Is a very healthy, happy, smart & rambunctious little boy. With everything he had to overcome he is definitely a miracle.

Judith Bandsma

Not me but my niece and her wife had a baby on May 1. He wasn't due until July 18. 670 grams, less than 1.5 lbs. Today he is catching up very quickly to the milestones for babies his age.

wamom223 wamom223

@Brandi-Congrats on your miracle!!!  It sucks but that first day home will be the best day of your life.


 


 

wamom223 wamom223

After so many years of trying we had given up I found out I was pregnant but started having problems within a week of finding out.  I spent most of my pregnancy on bed rest until finally things came together around my sixth month.  I went to my 32 week appointment and was told I was finally having a normal healthy pregnancy......my water broke three hours later.  They were able to stop my labor and give him steroids for his lungs and three days after my water broke I gave birth to a tiny beautiful baby boy.  He was cpap for just 12 hours and under the jaundice lights for three days.  He spent four weeks in the NICU before I was able to bring him home.  That first night I held him for as long as I wanted and it was great.  He is now 5 and a totally normal healthy little boy but I'll never forget our time in the NICU and the babies that didn't get to come home.  

JaiLei JaiLei

Awe! So happy that you have your miracle. And that's my birthday too! :)

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