'Grandma Showers' Are the Most Ridiculous Thing Since ... Baby Showers

baby showerWell, well, well -- what will they think of next? Would you believe there is such a thing as grandma showers? Yes, as in a party for a grandmother-to-be, when either her daughter or daughter-in-law is preggo. You know, to give her tons of attention and get her all stocked up on supplies for the baby nursery that will be set up in her house when junior comes to visit.

And that's all well and good. It really is. And if my own mother had been thrown a grandma shower? I would've been totally cool with it. I'm an only child, and I'm on the "one and done" plan as far as having kids goes -- so having my son was her one and only shot at doing the whole grandma thing. It would've been cute if her friends had wanted to celebrate that with her.

But I can totally see where this sort of thing can backfire and take a lot of the attention away from the preggo in question. I mean, isn't pregnancy the one time in a woman's life when everything is supposed to be about her? (Other than her wedding day, of course. Which often winds up being about her mom or mother-in-law anyway.)

A baby shower is basically her last hoorah before sleepless nights, shirts stained with mashed bananas, and spit-up crust in her hair. Shouldn't she at least be the only one who gets a party thrown in her honor before her little one's arrival?

Huh. I guess I'm a little on the fence on this one. I think it all comes down to whether or not grandma lives nearby, and who is throwing her the shower. If she's out of state and her group of friends want to have a little celebration for her, there's really no harm in that, right? But if she lives right down the road and it's basically the same circle of family attending her party -- I can see where the mom-to-be can feel like granny is stealing her thunder.

What's next? A videographer in the delivery room to film her reaction to the birth? Or people bringing her lasagnas and casseroles after the baby comes home so she can spend more time with him?

And if one of these showers does go down, I don't even want to know what happens when mom gets pregnant with grandbaby number two. (Perhaps a granny sprinkle?)

Would you be upset if your mom or mother-in-law had a baby shower?

 

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adamat34 adamat34

Wow ummmm attention seekers much???? Is this a real thing???? How pathetic if women are actuallt doing this

MyNam... MyNameIs-

Ugh, I unwittingly went to one of these. A lady in my church was throwing a baby shower for her daughter who just had a baby. I had just moved to the community and wanted some friends so I went. Little did I know that her daughter actually lived a hundred miles away and she was just collecting all the stuff and was going to drive it all over when she went to visit her in a few weeks. I was under the impression that this was a "baby" shower, it a gift collection.

nonmember avatar Lisa

Never heard of such a thing. I don't anyone who would dream of doing such a tacky thing. For the most part, all the grandmothers I know are in a place financially that they can afford to stock up in all the baby and kid needs without sticking their hand out. How pathetic that some grandmothers are acting so pathetic.

linzemae linzemae

Grandma's already had their day! Let this be about the new moms like it should be.

Smoke... Smokeygirl

My mom's job had a grandma shower for her. It was a complete surprise and the gifts were all clothes for our son. I think they did it for her because they all knew me from birth and I had worked there for years too. I have nothing against them as long as they are small and not thrown by the grandma for herself.

nonmember avatar ago

Smokeygirl, same for my mom when I had my first with her group of coworkers. She had been working there since before I was born. I also live a few hours away. I thought it was sweet.

Mary Vance Nasvik

It's just wrong!!  A baby shower is for the new parents or parents-to-be.

Robin Cox Hyatt

I think a party of the grandmothers closest friends maybe even without gifts to celebrate such a special change in her life could be sweet. An all out shower is a bit MUCH! Like hey dear friend let's go out and eat dinner and celebrate you becoming a grandmother our treat. That is appropriate.

Felip... FelipesMom

All things in moderation. Sounds like a few commenters have been to grandma showers that were awesome, but of course this kind of thing can be taken too far. You can do anything in a tacky way. 

nonmember avatar Nikki

My MIL is planning one right now for herself for her third grand child that is due in May. The sad/funny part is I have never had a shower for either of my two children. But she wants all new gear for her house. Which won't be used since the kids always stay home with me. But then again she saw this on some realitly TV show and decided that she MUST have one.

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