Mom Forced to Undergo Sedated C-Section & Then Her Baby Is Taken Away

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baby handAn anonymous pregnant Italian woman went to Britain in July of last year to attend a two-week airline training course. Her two daughters stayed with her mother in Italy. While at the hotel, she became panicked when she couldn't find her daughters' passports. She called the police for help, who called her mother because they felt the woman was over-excited and they were concerned about a panic attack.

The woman's mother explained she was bipolar. The police then told her they wanted to take her to the hospital to make sure the baby was okay, but she was taken to a psychiatric facility instead. She says she requested to return to her hotel but was restrained and forbidden to leave. Her family wasn't contacted. For five weeks, she remained in the facility until she was sedated against her will so the doctors could remove her baby by c-section.

Every part of my body and soul hurts for this woman after learning her story. No woman should be forced to do anything regarding her birth. And from what it sounds, her bipolar disorder could have been controlled with medicine. Even if she couldn't take it during pregnancy, if there was some sort of issue, there should be alternatives. There was a High Court Order to allow the sedated c-section, but they didn't consult the mother. And above all, this woman's family should have been notified. They didn't even consult the mother's mother. She should have had a say if the facility deemed this woman unable to do so herself.

It is every pregnant woman's fear for her birth to go horribly wrong. And this woman not only was denied her right to experience the birth of her child by being completely sedated and forced to undergo major surgery by way of c-section, I would also go as far to say this could have caused danger to the baby. That is not a risk any doctor should take if not necessary. The mother awoke and was told her baby was born but she couldn't have her. She was taken into care and the judge ruled that the baby girl should be put up for adoption due to a fear that the mother would relapse.

This mother has never met her baby. Something seems to have gone terribly wrong with the courts and she risks never being able to hold the baby she carried, she created, she nurtured for nine months. A relapse? Anything could happen to any person at any time. The woman's condition is reportedly under control as she is on medication. Is the court saying that no parent with any kind of medical condition be allowed custody of their child for fear something may happen? If so, then no one would be allowed to be a parent ever. She is a mom to two other children who are allowed to be in her care.

The mother's lawyers say they never saw a case like this -- a case so unjust -- in their entire career. They are attempting to take the case to Italy where the mother is from and out of the British system. But there is a situation because this all happened when the woman was in Britain and they have jurisdiction over her due to their ruling that she didn't have "capacity" to do so. Her lawyers need a lot of answers. Why did Essex social services not contact next of kin in Italy? A family friend offered to take care of the child, but social services said no. Now the child is in the system. She's 15 months old. She's been robbed of her infancy with her mother. Brendan Fleming, the woman’s British lawyer, told The Sunday Telegraph:

I have never heard of anything like this in all my 40 years in the job. I can understand if someone is very ill that they may not be able to consent to a medical procedure, but a forced caesarean is unprecedented. If there were concerns about the care of this child by an Italian mother, then the better plan would have been for the authorities here to have notified social services in Italy and for the child to have been taken back there.

John Hemming, chair of the Public Family Law Reform Coordinating Campaign, said:

I have seen a number of cases of abuses of people’s rights in the family courts, but this has to be one of the more extreme. It involves the Court of Protection authorising a caesarean section without the person concerned being made aware of what was proposed. I worry about the way these decisions about a person’s mental capacity are being taken without any apparent concern as to the effect on the individual being affected.

This is all about our rights. Our rights as women. Our rights as people. Our rights as mothers. Our rights as parents. And our children's rights. This child has been put under so much unnecessary stress from birth ... from the womb. This mother deserved to experience the birth of her child, just like every woman does.

Women should have a say in how they birth. This woman absolutely did as well. So many times doctors try to coerce women in labor to undergo unnecessary procedures -- and in this case, they decided to just sedate without putting any value on the mother's rights, the child's rights. What both mother and child deserved. I hope more light is shed on this case and something is done to reunite mother and child. I cannot imagine the pain and helplessness this mother feels. I would never want to. No one should ever have to.

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nonmember avatar Kristi

I am feeling like I only have part of the story. Maybe she WAS super crazy?!?

nonmember avatar H_man

Freedom isn't free. Apparently some countries do not honor basic human rights.

It is a sad world, but I would recommend parents excercise extreme caution when traveling to other countries either pregnant, or with children. The rights you may assume you have from your own country may not exist.

The irony is if this mother had traveled to many countries considered "not free", it is unlikely that this would have happened even in communist countries.

Other parents have had thier children siezed over schooling disputes.

shutu... shuturpiehole

Absolutely disgusting and horrifying.

Debbie Martin Biekert

Thank you mother for opening your big mouth and blurting out personal information to strangers!


 

Jen Lee

just because she has a known mental diagnosis doesn't mean she doesn't have the right to her own children. I would in the behavioral health system, and I have many clients who are wonderful parents. I am so sick and tired of people using mental illness as a reason for crimes against them or others.

Cindy Culp

Am I reading this right? The woman was going to be a stewardess on an airplane that boards thousands daily but she can't make rational decisions regarding her pregnancy? OK.. I'm not buying this.. those doctors are trying to cover something up!! Such a horrible story. I hope her lawyers reunite her and her daughter before she is old enough to remember.

Andre... Andreamom001

This is beyond insane!  Even if she was mentally unstable, there is no reason to subject her to a medically unneccesray surgery!  Mentally ill peopel can give birth--and she is obviously stable enough to raise her other children with whatever family support she has.  The courts even found her stable and fine when she petitioned to get her child back--yet then said the child should be adopted instead because she might "relapse"--well, she also might not--anything coudl happen to anyone in the future!


She was stable enough to seek help when she needed it--SHE called the police for help.  Bipolar is not usually a threat to others anyway.There is no reason this child should be taken away if she is stable, on meds, and safely raising her other kids!!!!


What a violation.  I dont' kow if I woudl dare vacation in Brittain after this--what if they take my kids away on a whim?  Do they desperately need babies for adoption over there or something?  Did someone pay off the judges and officials in the case?

nonmember avatar Mike

Expect this type of stuff to be common under obammacare. The government will decide who lives and dies, who gets treatment and who doesn't.

merma... mermaid13dragon

un f787878ing believeable!!! I hope this woman gets her child back, this is the stuff nightmares are made of. wrong in every possible way.

Mopsy... MopsyTheBunny

Have any of you actually the first idea about what causes a person to be sectioned? Usually 2 doctors (one of whom will be a consultant) and a near relative or social worker has to agree that the person is a danger to themselves or others. A panic attack is not going to cause someone to be sectioned and a High Court order is not going to be issued on a whim. By all means carry on slagging off our court, medical and social work systems- it's so much more fun than considering this was probably a crappy, horribly complex situation.

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