What We Can All Learn From Women's Birth Stories

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mother son newbornThere is a status update "game" circulating on Facebook where women share a certain number of facts about their birth. If you like the status, you too are given a number and that is the number of facts you share on your own status update. It's a social networking way of sharing birth stories, perhaps only previously heard by other women who were interested in sharing their own as well or preparing to go through birth. Now it's there for single friends to read. Former boyfriends. Those friends from elementary school. Old high school acquaintances. Everyone! Learning some of the very intimate details of part of your journey to motherhood.

I think it's beautiful.

All of our birth stories are amazing, and there something to learn from each and every one and it doesn't matter if it was a birth with medical intervention or at home. It doesn't even matter if it was a c-section or a vaginal birth. What matters are those details -- how and why, what happened, happened. And how you felt. Those emotions. So powerful, strong, and incredible. We should care how we are all brought into this world. It's how life continues.

If we all stopped to listen to the birth stories of others, we'd realize we're listening to the stories of the future, the first story of how we all begin. It's the first page of an incredible book. It's enlightening to learn how life comes into this world, those moments that a baby is first welcomed. And we can maybe even gain some more respect for mothers, and the power women possess.

Birth is beyond physical.

I want to know that you labored for five hours, but I also want to know if your child was born in the caul, or how you felt the first time you started having contractions, and the emotions that overcame you when you first saw your baby. I want to know the feeling you had when you first held your baby outside of your body. The way her skin felt. The first thought you had when you took in the scent of your newborn. I want to know about that swelling of love you had in your heart. How you felt your most powerful and weakest at the same time. How inspired you became and how your world changed in that instant.

I want to know. I want to learn. I want to share. I want us all to do the same.

Here are four details about my birth story:

1. I was very, very sick for the birth of my twins. I had HELLP syndrome that showed up during labor and the doctors rushed me in to have an emergency c-section.

2. Hearing my son cry after hearing nothing as he was being delivered was such an incredibly relieving sound. In that moment, and because of how he was in the womb all curled in a ball when his sister was spread out, I knew he was going to be a sensitive soul, and so far at 4 years old, he's proven me right.

3. When I saw my daughter's face for the first time, when her little cheek was pressed against my little cheek, I felt this instantaneous connection, physically and spiritually. When I looked into her eyes, it was like looking into my own, my mother's, and my grandmother's.

4. I practiced Hypnobirthing during my pregnancy and everything I learned kept me calm while preparing for my c-section. The meditation still helps keep me calm today. 

Some women will read this and relate exactly. For others it may trigger another thought, something that happened to them. Maybe it will inspire you to share your own or even ask your mother about your own birth story. I did and it was amazing to hear, and to see my mother re-live. We can all learn from all of them.

Share yours ....

 

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B1Bomber B1Bomber

My first was born a month early after I'd been on hospital bedrest for a week for pre-eclampsia that eventually started to shut down my kidneys. I had literally zero pain with contractions until my water broke (despite being on the strongest allowed dose of pitocin). After my water broke, I was ready for my epidural in exactly one contraction.


My contractions stayed at 30 seconds on, 30 seconds off all the way to ten cm and pushing. None of the nurses, doctors, or my mom had ever seen them do that before.

Krystian Kaufold

Actually, it's about your PREGNANCY, not your birth. PREGNANCY. 

nonmember avatar Mylittlelove

I had a pretty difficult pregnancy, and was lucky to make it to 39 weeks before they decided to induce me. After the first hour they discovered my son was in distress. Then 21hrs later, after being threatened by the hospital surgical staff, my OBGYN finally decided to preform a c-section. By this time I was going into shock myself. It took 40 minutes for them to finally remove my son because his head was jammed in my pelvis (Im fairly small, and my pelvis didn't seperate right. He got stuck only being 7lbs 6ozs lol! By the time he was finally delivered he didnt even cry. He was too exhausted. But when our eyes meet I fell in love. My first words to him were: "That's my little boy." When I finally got to hold him after I got out of recovery he smelled like baby powder! It's now my favorite smell.

I ended up being worse off after delivery than my son, so my husband ended up being the biggest blessing of my life. He had no issues changing or feeding his son, he helped take care of me better than most nurses.

Robin Hartman

When my first daughter was born, I got such a strong urge to lick her. I didn't, but it was weird. So animal like. I didn't experience that with my other kids.

adamat34 adamat34

We need to stop oversharing and horrifying everyone with this.

Erin Shetler

Birth is such a dichotomy. It's intensely personal, yet most people experience it so we all feel the urge to share. I think it's important we honor our birth stories. But while we are sharing, we also need to be mindful that others might have been hurt or frightened or mistreated during birth, or might have experienced a loss. It's important to honor these stories too, but we also need to be sensitive about them.

nonmember avatar cheyenne

love all the story. i just gave birth to my first child 2 months ago. loved being pregnant. labor was 5 hours long. all natural. quick and easy. my poor sons face was all brused cause he was all squished. i was 9 days over due and he weighed 9.5 21.5 inches long. i didnt have any emotions after givibg birth, i was just starving. lol. cant wait to get pregnant again. i want a baby girl. i almost cried reading all of these stories, so sweet. congrats all u new mommie.

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