Mom Cherishes Pregnancy Knowing Baby Will Die Soon After Birth

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baby bumpIn what seems beyond unthinkable, a mom in England had to go through the last few months of her pregnancy knowing there was a very good chance her baby would not survive. Katiya Rowe's baby's brain was not developing correctly in utero, leaving him with a condition that would make him unable to care for himself, walk, or talk.

And after he was born, her son, Lucian, only lived for a mere nine hours. But amid her grief, Katiya still recalls being joyous over having the chance to be a mother to her son -- even though most of the time she "spent" with him was when she was still pregnant.

She now treasures a 3D ultrasound picture of her beautiful baby boy, who she'll never have the chance to see grow up. 

While her story is nothing short of devastating -- doesn't it put what women go through during nine months of pregnancy into perspective a little more?

Let me ask you this -- how many times have you wished that your pregnancy would move a little faster? Either because you dream of holding your baby in your arms or you simply can't stand being pregnant anymore? We've all been there.

Now put yourself in this mom's shoes. She could feel her baby moving and growing inside of her -- yet she knew as soon as those nine months were up, she would probably be saying goodbye to him. Can you even imagine?

Hearing her story makes me feel so horrible about every time I complained about being uncomfortable, or too large, or the times when I said, "I wish this would end, already" over and over again.

Yes, pregnancy is challenging at times. But it's also a miraculous gift -- one that we should embrace and appreciate even when the going gets tough.

I hope that this poor woman will find peace in the fact that she's an inspiration to others to be grateful for every single moment of motherhood -- even before it technically begins.

Are you guilty of wishing your pregnancy away?


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miche... micheledo

I have a friend who went through something similar.  I think her son lived less than an hour.  She treasured every moment with him in the womb.  every somersault, every kick, every punch.  She treasured the moments she was awakened at night, the sleeplessness. . . . Cerainly gives a different perspective on a miserable pregnancy.  She spent those nine months getting to know her son and telling him how much she loved him - and she treasured it.  She's (and this mom) are a great example.  

I love that these moms chose to birth their babies and give them all the love and support they could for such a short time.  

Ebony Mena

I know how she feel's my son die 11yrs ago while he I was in the hosptial wanting for him I too he wasn't going to make it the doctors told me that he had a hole in his heart and he was going to be down syndrome baby. Well to make a long story short he did die and I had Cremate him. So sorry for her lost my she fine peace in a self and God.

wamom223 wamom223

I know someone who lost one of her twins and had to carry him to term for the other baby. I do not know how any of the woman feel that have been through this I just know it must be devestating.  My thoughts and prayers are with this woman and the people trying to support her through this.  She sounds like she is doing amazing but I'm sure she has 'bad day's' and I really hope she has support on those days.  I had a very rough pregnancy and would joke that it would be okay with me if he came early.  What I meant was like a week or two early and he ended up coming two months early.  I also really wanted to have my child before I turned 30 and he was born just two days before that happened.  I definitely feel differently about that old saying 'be careful what you wish for.'

Amy Infante

I lost my daughter Desiree Elizabeth April 22, 2005 when I was just 19 years old. I know how it feels. I still remember them waking me up tell me it doesn't look good. She was stable so I called my mom and when I came back down I knew she was gone they were all standing I front of her and I dropped to my knees. I would wish that on my worst enemy. Im so sorry for you loss. Our babies are playing in heaven together waiting to see us again)

monke... monkeymom1104

Certainly puts things in perspective. I rather not be told. Hugs to you all.

Anne Boan

So what did the headline about abortion have to do with this story?????

Anne Boan

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miche... micheledo

If you click on the original article, Anne, apparently they were planning to end the child's life before he was born.  Because of that ultrasound picture they decided to let him live for however brief a time it was.

Kersten Hackney

Nope.  My pregnancy was apparently SUPER EASY.  My feet didn't really swell, I full expected the back pain to be worse than it was, I even had my son 2 1/2 weeks early.  The LABOR part wasn't even the worst thing I've ever had happen. Sorry to sound like I'm bragging, but the only reason I've not gone through it again is that it has been financially completely unfeasible for my husband and i to have another.

Kotesha Husted

Kersten Hackney, What does that have to do with what happened to this women?

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