I Loved My C-Section So Much I Never Want a Natural Birth

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pregnant womanWhen it comes to pregnancy, c-section is a scary word to a lot of moms-to-be. I've heard too many women to count say that they would refuse one even if their doctor suggested it. Some even swear it's just a ploy to rack up labor and delivery costs. So I know I am an anomaly for the way I feel about it. Why? Because I LOVED having a cesarean section. In fact, I was relieved when I found out I would have to undergo one.

I was terrorized by the thought of a vaginal delivery from the moment that little plus sign appeared on a pregnancy test. I would practically have panic attacks thinking about pushing a baby out. What if I was in labor for hours days? What if I don't make it to the hospital on time? What if I needed an episiotomy? A process other moms-to-be thought beautiful, I called brutal. But despite my fears, I was willing to do it, of course. The most important thing was to get our baby here in the safest way possible. Though, as my pregnancy grew more problematic (I had both gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and I always felt ill), the probability of a c-section became higher.

My doctor thought I was going to be upset with the news. Quite the contrary, I was happy. I certainly was scared about having a preemie. No mother wants her baby born early. But knowing that I would most likely have to have a cesarean brought a little relief to an incredibly tense situation. That's not to say I took the procedure lightly. It's major surgery, after all. But to me, there was less fear of the unknown. There was no water breaking on the subway train or being stuck in the infamous NYC traffic while in labor or, worse, actually not being able to find a cab while in labor.

After the doctors decided it would be best to take him out, I had a scheduled time to arrive to the hospital and I knew approximately how long it would be before we met our son. I was nervous but took my mind off things reading an Elle magazine before I was prepped for surgery. The only excitement leading up to it was the nurse who came to shave me -- which was more embarrassing than anything (pregnant woman aren't known for their excessive grooming below the belt in the last months). Then came the epidural. A little while later, I was wheeled into the operating room. I couldn't see or feel much, but 20 minutes later, I heard my baby screaming. It was pretty great.

Soon after, I was taken to my hospital room. Recovery wasn't exactly a piece of cake. I greedily took those pain meds. Though I didn't have to worry about temporary incontinence, painful urination, or difficulty sitting (common after-effects of a natural delivery). I would go as far as to say that I kind of enjoyed my c-section. And thanks to my amazing OB/GYN, who did a plastic surgery rotation, you can't even see my scar.

I admit, I get a lot of strange looks when I tell other moms how I feel about the subject. To some, having your baby this way robs you of the experience of giving birth. A few even say it's not technically giving birth. To that, I say horse crap. Just because I didn't push him out doesn't make the experience any less profound or real. I would even do it again if given a choice.

What was your c-section like? For moms who've had both kinds of deliveries, which was the better experience?

 

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linzemae linzemae

I hated mine. My tummy still doesn't look right from my scar. My daughter was in the nicu on a different floor so I couldn't see her for hours after she was born. I swelled so much I couldn't stay down with her for most of the day because I had to go rest and put my feet up. I never bonded with her in the hospital and yes, I blame my c section.

jso12 jso12

I loved my C-section also. I had a great experience as opposed to what could have been potentially horrible (my DD was big and turned wrong). I recovered super fast (I stopped taking any pain meds within 36 hours) and was up and about the next day.  I would definately have one again if we are blessed to have another child. (fingers crossed 18mos TTC)

nonmember avatar blue

I had a c-section and it was...kind of easy. (I hate to even call a major surgery easy.)I had little pain, healed well, and have no complications years later. I am not having another child, but I would choose c-section if I were. My friend had a child via home birth 3.5 weeks before my child was born. She was still have major issues by the time of my birth. She still has problems, actually. I think my friends who had vaginal births, seem to have more problems. (Just my personal experience and conversations. I'm not telling people should have a c-section, or that it's better. )

ardra ardra

I used my C Section Recovery Kit for my after surgery recovery and it made such a difference. I could get out of bed, walk and hold baby without assistance and it really added to my comfort. There is nothing like feeling like your insides are going to fall out.......its soft and comfortable to wear, so I recommend it to all of my friends. Why should you go from being pregnant to surgery and be expected to handle the pain and discomfort with only pain meds, binding is so easy and has no side effects, except lack of pain.

Paws84 Paws84

I had an elective csection, and have zero regrets! I absolutely loved mine. Seriously, the 2.5 hospital stay was like a vacation. They had a 5 page menu I could order from 24/7, all the nurses were amazing, and my daughter stayed in the room with me the whole time. My OB delivered her at 39.3 weeks so yes, she was full term. Most ppl think with an elective, they cut the baby out at 20 weeks or some absurd number like that. I dont even care about my scar, though it is small. I liked not having to worry about a vaginal delivery, I liked that I knew the day and time I was having her, there was nothing to worry about. When I checked in and she got me hooked up to the monitor, she asked if I was having any pain and I said no. She said oh, thats a little surprising because youre having contractions. Anyway, I also 'binded' after and did so 24/7 for 3 months after. It was a pain in the ass, but it helped SO much and I honestly think its a huge reason why my stomach is pretty much flat and back to pre-pregnancy. I gained 50 lbs with her, so Im sure without binding, I wouldve had an extremely hard time getting my stomach back. The great thing about having my first daughter as a csection, is I dont have to worry about finding a doc that will do a csection like I did with the first if we decide to have another.

Paws84 Paws84

2.5 day*

adamat34 adamat34

People make things way scarier than they need to be. Bad experiences seem to take precedence over goid ones.

Glad therr s finally a positive story about this!!

B1Bomber B1Bomber

My first csection was a little bit of a difficult recovery, but I was back to my pre-pregnancy clothes within a couple of weeks and back to my regular ab strength with a little effort.


My second csection was a piece of cake - I was up and about within hours, felt totally normal again within days, barely took any pain meds, and the only drawback is that feeling normal so fast led me to pushing too hard and I got that weird stomach muscle split thing.

nonmember avatar Krissy

I have had one of each I hated the c-section. Yes delivery was more painful vaginally but the healing after was amazing no pain immediatly after the baby came out. C-secction healing is was too long and sore.

JessL... JessLogansMommy

I can't even imagine.  My first baby was a preemie and i had to stay in bed 24 hours because of magnesium, but with my second after an hour I ate pancakes and took a shower and was back in my own home in 36 hours. The pain of child birth is only a few hours but the recovery of a c-section terrifies me. 

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