Pregnant Woman Outraged After Bartender Refuses to Serve Her

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red wineA mom-to-be in the U.K. is all bent out of shape because a bartender refused to serve her a glass of wine, you know -- because she happened to be wearing a big ol' baby bump as an accessory that evening.

Jane Hampson says she felt "outraged and embarrassed" after she and her partner stopped at a local bar after a walk. The bartender told her he could not serve her a small glass of red wine because he didn't want the act of serving a pregnant woman alcohol on his conscience.

She and her partner promptly left the place and went to another bar where she got her red wine fix without a problem -- but she's still pretty pissed.

And while I don't think it's a bad thing for a pregnant woman to have a glass of wine here and there -- I can't say that I blame the bartender for refusing to serve her. I mean, she's pregnant pregnant (she appears to be well into her third trimester). Everyone knows pregnant women and alcohol don't exactly go hand in hand, and this poor dude didn't want to feel like he was possibly responsible for doing harm to her unborn baby.

Personally, I did not drink at all during my pregnancy. Not one sip. I swear. A few years prior to that, I'd been out to dinner and seen a heavily pregnant woman drinking wine at the table next to me -- and something about it just didn't sit right with me. It just looked so ... awkward. I knew right then and there that I'd never take a drink once I was expecting a child.

But don't misunderstand me because I really don't have a problem with pregnant women who do choose to have a little vino. Still, they need to understand that not everyone is going to agree with it, and they need to expect the kind of reaction that Jane got from that bartender.

If you're preggo and you want to have a drink -- fine. But it might be a good idea to have it in the privacy of your own home if you aren't prepared for some folks to have an issue with it.

Have you had anything to drink during your pregnancy?

 

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nonmember avatar Sam

Luckily, here in the good ol' USA bartenders are required to serve alcohol to any pregnant woman who asks for it. Which is how it should be, IMO. I don't need a bartender judging me for my decision. It's not their place.

PRIMA487 PRIMA487

Wouldn't have been an issue in France or Italy.

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

Also important to note- alcohol is much more harmful to a fetus very early on, BEFORE the bump is visible.

Sarah... SarahHall58

So judgmental. This site is FULL of judgmental people including the writers. Get a grip.

Winter Foster

I agree w the bartender, he shouldnt be put in that position, she wants to drink pregnant then it should be on her, do it at home.


 

Autum... Autumnleaves87

Haha Sam.. sorry but bartenders don't have to serve anyone they feel unfit to be drinking.. if they assume someone is underage, or already drinking or in any capacity shouldn't be consuming alcohol. Being served alcohol at a bar is a privilege.. not a RIGHT dummy.

becky... beckyaj110

I had 2 glasses of red wine my whole pregnancy with my daughter, one at Thanksgiving dinner and one at Christmas Eve dinner, both of these happened to fall within the 3rd trimester when my OB had said having one glass occasionally would not hurt and could even help her heart. With my son I was having so many complications I stayed away from alcohol all together. 

Venae Venae

And if he had served her and she later had complications w/the baby, she would have sued.  

LadyDIN LadyDIN

Please god let "misunderstand" be a Bush joke. You can't really be that dumb...can you?

Ana Fulghum

My OB actually had SUGGESTED me to have a glass of wine late into my third trimester.....baby was fine, but like anything, she knows her body and the consequences of choices. He's a BARTENTER, not a doctor. He gets paid to serve drinks, mot judgements.....IMO.

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