Couple Creates Outrage When They Regret Their IVF Twin Boys

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You would think that couples desperate enough to conceive a child through IVF would be thrilled to their toes to be pregnant with not just one little bundle of joy, but two. And even though most people have a secret preference in the gender department, normal people get over it and love their babies regardless.

But then you have the couples like this anonymous one on Babble. They tried for two years to provide a little sister for their young son, eventually turned to in vitro fertilization, got pregnant with twins, and then (gasp!) found out both babies were boys (horror!). They even considered terminating one of them, but decided that that would be “too Machiavellian.”

Parenting is definitely hard work, and I can’t even imagine what it’s like to have twins. If I ever found out I was carrying twins, my first thought would probably be along the lines of holy crap I’m never going to sleep again! But come on. If you use fertility treatments, you kind of don’t get to complain that your life is over and you feel like a cancer patient waiting for months to die.

They even admitted that they don’t like the new children. “Of course that’s insane,” they at least had the judiciousness to add.

Can we all join together in a big old chorus of what is wrong with people? Seriously. IVF is invasive and expensive. You don’t just wake up and decide to get implanted with embryos that day. You have to really, really want to get pregnant when you decide to do it. You know the risks. You know that the more embryos they implant, the better shot at success you have -- and also the better chance at having multiples.

So I don’t really have a whole lot of sympathy for IVF parents moaning and groaning about how terrible it is to be pregnant with twins and how they’ve “ruined” their family by doing this.  

Dad wrote:

[It was me] and my wife’s nightmare … we were pregnant with twins - twin boys, we’d find out later. In my mind I had done nothing less than ruin our family.

I’m sure glad they’ve decided to use a pen name -- not for their own anonymity, but for their kids. How would it feel to grow up and learn that your parents regretted getting pregnant with you, and even considered aborting you or your brother? I’m guessing not good.

Do you think this couple is out of line?


Image via Bill Strain/Flickr

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nonmember avatar Cass

Theres a very good chance this simply isn't true. The internet is full of trolls. With that being said...



Thank god they're anonymous. Those kids will google themselves and their parents some day- I'm glad they won't see this. It sounds like they did IVF for the wrong reasons and either lied to the doctor or found an unscrupulous doctor to do the procedure. The best thing to do, if the parents dislike the kids that much, is to give them up for adoption.

nonmember avatar Gretta

Heartbreaking. So very heartbreaking.

nonmember avatar Tessie

I think their honestly is healthy. Yes, children are a blessing and should be loved, but finding out you are supporting not just one child, which is expensive, but two children, which is quite literaly twice as expensive. It is scary and I think their honestly about their thoughts and feelings is good and shouldn't be shunned. Just because you don't immediately jump with joy over a pregnancy, or the outcome of the pregnancy, doesn't make you a monster...
I think they love their children, they are just struggling to figure out how to adapt for the unexpected, and it is good that they have "come out of the closet" and aired their negative thoughts and feelings.

Cleme... Clemency3

I have to agree that we do not know for sure if this is true or not. If it is...please Lord let those people decide on adoption for their twins. And if it isn't true..well then no comment. 

youth... youthfulsoul

What kind of moron goes into IVF not understanding the possibility of multiples? Furthermore what kind of parent goes through all of that for a sibling for their child, as though it was the child's request they were honoring?


Hope this  isn't true. Poor babies don't need to be raised by parents who don't like them. 

Truel... Truelove77

Yuck if they don't want themI will take em!

Brain... BrainyMommy

Bizarre. I have to believe this fake. 

Marcela Blunck Bowidowicz

Did you actually read their posts? They don't regret that their having boys, they regret that they are having twins because they can't actually afford all of their children. They are worried that the quality of the lives of all the kids will no longer be as great because they had twins instead of just the one child. There's nothing wrong with that.

JessL... JessLogansMommy

If they do regret it because they couldn't afford it shouldn't they have thought about that before spending all that money on IVF? They knew how many embryos were being implanted, they knew that there was a chance that none or all of those embryos could take. 

2baby... 2babymomma

If they can't afford kids why did they shell out upwards of 15000 dollars trying to conceive. They sound like spoiled brats that didn't get their way so now they want to complain to the world

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