Woman's Unexpected Home Birth Should Take All Fears Out of Having a Baby

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pregnantOften it's fear that separates those who want birth at home or in the hospital. The fear that hospitals and some doctors seem to perpetuate. There are other factors, of course. For some birthing at home just isn't an option. But for others, it's an option they didn't even realize possible. That's what happened to Erica Bovino. She was home with her 3-year-old son Jack asleep in his bedroom and she was having contractions. Her husband, Paul Sulzicki, was on his way home from work. Erica called him after her water broke and she realized there wasn't time for her to get to Yale-New Haven Hospital.

The baby was ready to be born. She was going to have to do this alone -- she was going to have an unassisted, unexpected home birth in her bathroom.

There was no time for fear. Instinct took over. Bovino said:

I was quiet and went inside myself. If I let fear overtake me, things could have turned out worse. If I freaked out for one second, I couldn’t have done that, I think.

She credits some meditation-like calming exercises for getting her through it. She caught her baby daughter Stella as she was born and held her up. Baby Stella opened her eyes at her mama and Erica knew she was okay. Moments later Paul -- super proud dad and husband -- walked in hearing his wife saying, "Okay, baby."

The paramedics arrived shortly after to take mama and baby to hospital to make sure all was fine and it was.

Home birth stories like Erica's are inspiring. We have to quiet the fear, the naysayers, the alarmists. We need to trust ourselves to birth our babies because it's what our bodies are uniquely qualified to do. Erica shared:

I always wanted to do a home birth. I thought I’d have women around me, or my husband. Everyone’s so fearful of it. The woman’s body is meant to do it. Women have gotten so far from trusting their bodies. Women are talked out of trusting themselves. Hopefully, it’s an inspiration to other women to trust themselves. I just wanted to be that voice for women.

You certainly are, Erica.

Does hearing this story make you fear birth less?


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nonmember avatar blh

There are plenty of things that can go wrong, for you and you're baby. Most of the time it's fine but saying you should never worry about it is just stupid.

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

I get that you support home births and all, but it's getting old. Can we not just all agree that women can give birth, and different women can do whatever the fuck they want. It's nobody else's business what you do.

nonmember avatar Stephanie.r.e

I didn't read the article but the title is stupid enough. I do not agree with home birth. Too many things that can go wrong. Giving birth is natural and most of the time it's fine but I will never understand or agree with the girls that choose to take that risk. That's why I don't do or support home birth, but I don't care if other girls do, it doesn't hurt me or my kids.

B1Bomber B1Bomber

It's awesome that this worked out for her and that she and her baby are healthy. I ended up with an emergency csection when my son got stuck and had serious heartrate decels...not something I could have handled at home alone with meditation.

Mandy Swanda

Hey B1 Bomber any chance your son's heart rate decels were caused by Pitocin?  

Often, it isn't that one "can't" do it naturally, it is the interventions (induction, epidural, pitocin) that cause the stress for the baby, and necessitate an Emergency C-section.

mompam mompam

Actually this story makes me fear it more. I can't imagine how scary that must have been for her and the 3 year old. Yikes!

Brain... BrainyMommy

The story doesn't change my mind but the blogger's interpretation confirms my thoughts regarding how ridiculously stupid she is. 

nonmember avatar Leela

There are plenty of things that CAN and DO go wrong during childbirth--both in the home AND in the hospital...and this may be a surprise for the sheeple among me, but medically unnecessary interventions (you know, like are the norm at most hospitals) tend to do more harm than good. Why not do some research before you criticize your fellow women, human beings, and nature? Working at a health center (just an example), I have heard the comment more than once from fellow nursing staff that it is "neglect" not to immunize children (flu included) or let them fall behind on shots. I am so glad (for myself AND my daughter) that I don't buy into FOR-PROFIT fear mongering. Some of you commenters really should a) educate yourselves b) shut the h--- up and/or c) be ashamed of yourselves.

nonmember avatar ShantiMama

It makes me sad to see so many people against homebirth. You all are obviously grossly uneducated about how safe a home birth is for low risk healthy women. It is much safer than a hospital birth. With a hospital birth you are pretty much guaranteed to be put on pitocin, which will lead to all sorts of complications and possibly the need for doctors to "save" your baby via emergency c-section. Doctors and nurses don't have the patience to let our bodies just do what they DO. They intervene, rush us, place us in the most uncomfortable illogical position to push a baby out...I could keep going. Before you bash home birth or even just say it's wrong, educate yourself! Why is it the United States has such terrible maternal and infant mortality rates compared to European countries where homebirth is the norm and hospital birth is only allowed for seriously high risk pregnancies? Our cessarian rate is 30+%!!!!! What can you say to those facts?

nonmember avatar blh

How is out guaranteed that you'll get pitocin?? I gave birth in a hospital and it was never even mentioned. The only women I know who got pitocin were being induced and they WANTED to be. You can say no to anything, you know that right?

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