This is the kind of story that makes my blood boil. A woman in England gave birth in the PARKING LOT of a hospital after being turned away TWICE by the "medical professionals" in that very hospital. Are you kidding me?
The woman, 29-year-old Rabia Rizwan, had already given birth to two daughters, so you'd think the hospital staff might give her some credit when she told them she was in serious pain and was about to give birth. You'd think that, right? Well.
Wrong! And to be perfectly honest, I'm not at all surprised. In my limited experience of giving birth exactly once, I learned that what I felt was happening in my own body rated a far second to what the doctors and their monitors thought was happening to my body. The vast majority of the time any hospital staff member -- from the nurses to the on-call OB/GYN to a man I THINK was overseeing all the births that night (but I was vague on this detail) -- spent in the birthing room with me, they were staring at monitors and typing things on the computer. For reals. I don't know if it because I gave birth at big hospital in NYC that sees a lot of high-risk pregnancies, or if it was the fact that they thought I was nuts anyway for bypassing an epidural on purpose, but my doctors really seemed to have little respect for how I felt, and way more interest in whatever the heck was on that computer screen.
I can very vividly remember, after about nine hours of labor, KNOWING that it was time to push. I could just tell; the physical sensation was impossible to ignore. I told the overseeing OB/GYN mystery man, and he just sort of smiled patronizingly and kept typing away at whatever the hell he was typing away. "NO I REALLY NEED TO PUSH," I said, or something to that effect. He disappeared, and the on-call OB/GYN eventually materialized to check things out. "I'm really ready!" I told her, and she too sort of patted me on the head and said she'd let me try.
I kid you not, one giant push and my baby was almost out. The doctor literally made me STOP so she and the nurses could scramble to put their gloves on! Can you imagine? I pushed a grand total of twice more; the whole thing took less than 10 minutes. I told you it was time, fuckers!
I know I'm not alone in this; my own mom gave birth to me right after her OB/GYN told her it would be "hours and hours"; a dear friend of mine KNEW she was having a miscarriage last year before anyone else believed her, and I've heard many similar tales from friends and mommy acquaintances. That poor woman in England ended up spending five days in the hospital thanks to an infection she and the baby picked up from GIVING BIRTH IN THE PARKING LOT. I really hope this serves as a wake-up call to birthing professionals everywhere. Pregnant women really do know what's going on inside our own bodies!
Did you feel like your birthing staff respected how you were feeling?
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