8 Ways Having Kids Makes It Harder for You to Make Another Baby (PHOTOS)

8 Ways Having Kids Makes It Harder for You to Make Another Baby (PHOTOS)

third babyBaby number one is the easiest one to make (assuming you are healthy and fertile, etc.). It’s just you and your partner and oodles and oodles of time. Have sex in the kitchen, why not? There are no little people there to stop you. Have sex in the morning? Why not? There are no tiny feet at your head and extra people in your bed.

For us, even baby number two was easy enough to make. Our baby was a great sleeper so every weekend we had hours of “nap time” to get horizontal ourselves and then an early bed time that gave us lots of alone moments.

Then those babies grow. They become big kids with schedules of their own and constant noise and demands. They can’t be placed in one area and expected to stay in that area for longer than three minutes, which is why making that third baby is probably the hardest one at all.

The barriers are not hormonal or physical or even the kind made by big pharmaceutical companies. Nope. These barriers have names and big, loud voices and they may never get a sibling because they are the king and queen of the @#$@ block. Literally. See the reasons why making a third baby is the hardest of all below:


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  • Time


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    Time: There is just none of it any more. Between peeing in the bed at 4 a.m. and “one more snack at 10 p.m. there is work, soccer practice, gymnastics, and too much else.

  • Exhaustion


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    Exhaustion (see also: time): After a hard day, the last thing we want to do is have sex. Typically sex happens twice a week and usually on weekends, but when you are trying to make a baby, the egg might come on Wednesday!

  • Doubts


    Doubts: Every other day, the children do something that makes me think: OMG WHAT ARE WE THINKING regarding the third. It does not exactly put you in the mood.

  • Age


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    Age: I am five years older than the last time I made a baby and yes, this factors into all my thoughts. What dangers will arise? Should I tempt fate this way? Not exactly arousing.

  • Privacy


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    Privacy: With kids, who has it?

  • Unwitting Family Bed


    Bed sharing: I don’t MEAN to sleep in a family bed, but when my kids come in at 3 a.m. I am usually too tired to walk them back to their own bed, so morning sex? Never happens.

  • Interruptus


    Interruptions: We will think we have a free minute and then BAM! The kids need a snack or a ball or they get into a fight and then all bets are off.

  • Grossness


    The gross: Sometimes you are just dirty and grimy from a day spent with kids and the last thing you want to do is get down and dirty with your mate. Sure, you love those little buggers to the moon and back, but making another one is awfully daunting.

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