5 Reasons Babymoons Are a Big Waste of Time & Money

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pregnant woman in bikiniSomewhere in the last nine years, taking a babymoon has become THE thing to do. I believe the tradition has come into vogue in that time span because back when I was pregnant with my first child then I'd never heard of one. Perhaps I was just out of the what-you-must-do-while-pregnant loop, but these days everyone who's anyone is taking one, and so is everyone else.

Kim Kardashian went to Paris; Kate Middleton went to the island of Mustique; and thousands of women you've never heard of are traipsing off to resorts and tropical beaches for one last fling of freedom before having a baby. They sound lovely, but also a bit ridiculous. They're kind of like what goody bags are to birthday parties. For years no one had ever heard of them, then all of a sudden no party is complete without your own plastic bag of junk. Now it seems no pregnancy checklist can be considered final until the babymoon box gets its mark.

And no, I'm not just jealous because I never got one. Here are five reasons babymoons are a ridiculous tradition.

1. Your whole life has been one big babymoon.

You have yet to change diapers. You can go see a movie anytime you want. On weekends you can sleep all day. You don't desperately need relaxation and time alone together ... yet.

2. You will appreciate that vacation so much more in a couple of years.

You have never appreciated a nice, quiet night of sleep as much as you do when you're away from your kids who haven't given you a decent night's sleep ... ever. Even the hotel bathroom --with no one else in it or trying to barge in it -- will feel like a magical oasis after you've spent some time being a parent.

3. Traveling isn't that fun when you're pregnant.

What's a beach without a fruity umbrella drink? There's no horseback riding, no sushi, and no hot tubs. Sure you can still sight see (if you're feet aren't killing you) or lounge around (if you're not too nauseated), but wouldn't you rather wait until you can fully enjoy the vacation?

4. Things can happen.

If you're going to take one then go early on in your pregnancy, because I've seen far too many stories of women giving birth in airplanes lately. It's not to say that you should never travel while pregnant, but if you don't have to then the closer to home the better I say.

5. Save your money.

If money is no object then by all means, take all of the vacations you want. But if you're like most of us who have to pick and choose where to spend our pennies, I'd choose to save that cash for all of the things your kid will need ... and a real vacation (where you can drink and eat and do whatever you want) down the line when they're driving you crazy.

Did you/will you take a babymoon?


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the4m... the4mutts

I disagree completely. I took a babymoon while pregnant with 3 of my 4 kids.

Nobody says you have to fly, not everyone is so uncomfortable while traveling pregnant, and not everyone has the lazy lifestyle you described.

I appreciated every babymoon trip to the beach, just as much as I have enjoyed every other trip.

Also, with my last, I went to a nude beach for the first time. I was round with baby, my breasts were full & perky, and I felt utterly gorgeous and comfortable. It was the best trip ever, and only 2hrs from my house.

carole76 carole76

Yes, I did it.  Hubby took me to the Hyatt in Cleveland.  We did a spa day together, ate out, went to a baseball game.  It was so much fun.  I was so relaxed and so glad to have that one last date without having to worry about a babysitter.  We have not done a night away from our kids ever, so remembering back to 5 years ago is awesome.  I would love to do it again.  I love the idea of celebrating you pregnancy and grasping those last few special moments before you have your child.  It was about 500 dollars for everything, but so worth it.

Teal Chastain Blacksten

This is the first article I have ever felt strongly enough about to comment. This has to be one of the bitchiest, most sanctimonious things I've ever read. Judgmental much? Why should only parents "deserve" or "be allowed" to have vacations? I think having those last moments just a couple is a wonderful idea.

nonmember avatar blue

No way. I'd save he money for a trip I could enjoy. My pregnancy was miserable. I wouldn't have been comfortable or happy anywhere. for someone who has easy (jealous) pregnancies, why not?

BlueJane BlueJane

To each his/her own. I never did it but I'm not much for travelling. But one last hurrah doesn't sound so far fetched.

knitt... knittykitty99

Wow, you are no fun at all.

bella... bellacazzate

Ha, I'd have killed myself if I didn't go on a trip beforehand. Many people are travelers before they're "mommies" and remain so after the child has fled the womb. Don't completely strip us of our identities. And who wouldn't want a little trip... even if just to an inn in the next town? Nothing like leaving the familiar and getting a little brush of something new to keep you going. 

Michael Prybelski

this website is SICK. celebrating this kind of thing is repulsive!!!

jalaz77 jalaz77

For me I want my time saved up for maternity leave. We were suppose to go to Jamaica this past month but I got pregnant and decided to back out. I actually wish we would of went anyways. The only thing I can't do is drink on the Vaca anyway and that isn't a priority for me. It doesn't matter if it's a baby moon or a Vaca AFTER baby. As long as parents get some couple time in their lives.

ms_da... ms_danielle_j

@Michael: Really? Don't be a dick...

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