New Baby Name Trend Is Totally Inappropriate

Rant 68

name tagYou know all of that stressing, negotiating, and pondering you've been doing to pick out just the perfect baby name. Well, relax. If you don't like it, you can always change it down the line. Or at least that's what more and more parents seem to be doing when they get a big case of baby name regret.

We've known for awhile that plenty of parents end up disliking the baby name they once chose. It's not surprising I suppose, as we change our minds about all sorts of things. And when the name you thought was so unique is suddenly everywhere, or you meet a horrible person with the same name and can't shake the association, it can happen. Most people get over it, while other people just change their kid's name. Oh yes, it's happening -- more than you might think.

Some people do it via "common usage," which means calling a child by another name. I've actually known several people who have done that either with nicknames or by using a middle name as the first name when the originally intended name just didn't seem to fit. But others go the full legal route. It's not easy and will usually need to involve an attorney and some fees you'll have to pay, but it can be done if you're determined.

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I don't have stats for the United States, but according to an article in the Daily Record, in Scotland the number of people changing their first name is going up. Last year 3,221 first names were changed, including those of 311 children under age 2 and 1,129 under the age of 16. That's a lot of name changes.

While I suppose it's not the worst thing you can do, it does seem like an easy way out. A name is something we bestow on our children with the intention that it will be for life. To change it just seems fickle, and like a trend packed with problems. If you do it once, what's to stop you from changing your mind again? What about when your kid starts piping up and asking for another?

Names are supposed to be permanent. They're what identify us, and people come to know us by. But they're also just names, and there are a lot more important parenting issues to worry about than to spend time trying to perfect your child's name after the fact. Parents should put extra thought into them in the beginning and be prepared to live with them for life.

Would you ever consider changing your child's name? Do you think it's a good idea for parents to do so?


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Marti Bowker

   Hahahahaa!!!...that was supposed to be ...Nickname!!!       lmbo!!!!!!!

nonmember avatar Shannon

I wish it was a tradition again (as it once was) that the only name you gave your child after birth was a nickname. The REAL naming came later on after the child was a little older --- you were better able to chose a name that fit!

nonmember avatar NoAdditives

My husband and I go to a lot of work to make sure our kids' names are great the first time around. We have a huge list of criteria that a name must it, and it isn't easy. But, our kids have names that are traditional, yet aren't common, that are easy to spell and pronounce, and that won't get them picked on.

Jon Nathan

What does the headline have to do with the article? NOTHING! Obnoxious click bait. Pi$$ off!

lambs... lambservant

I don't think this should be done when the child is over 1 0r 2 years old, unless they really hate it or they are being teased about it. Parents have 9 months to choose a name thoughtfully and carefully. If your kid hits five, and you regret naming him Bruce, and you say, "You know Bruce, I don't like your name. I wish I had named you Max or something else, so we're going to change it." How would that child feel? Children and even middle school or teens have spent their life being called a certain name. If you say you don't like it children would hear it they most  likely will think "I have a bad name, I am a bad person, or Mommy and Daddy and/or others don't love me with that name." Changing his name could make him feel like he is losing his identity. Children don't process things like we do. Good heavens, concentrate on making your child secure in his identity and help him feel you love him for who he is, not what his name is. Get it right the first time. 

lilta... liltampa71

I am a single mom  and never married to his father.  His father repeatedly asked me to give him his last name before he was born, but I stubbornly refused to discuss it.  My son was born, and although the father and I never reconciled, he has been wonderful to our son, supportive of me, and totally "we're in this together" in attitude.  When my son was a year old, I realized had been unfair to not even discuss the name option, so I sat down and did it then.  Our last names are not conducive to hyphenation, so we agreed to add his dad's as his last and keep mine as a second middle name.  My son is now  - at 13 - proud to carry the names of both parents who love him and support him.

Andrea Seiden

I actually want to get our son's middle name changed; my fiance does too. The middle name was chosen after my fiance's at the time best friend, who turned out to be a jerk. So we want to either just eliminate the name completely, or change it to fiance's first name.

Ann Nelson

My children's names are classic and sophisticated at the same time, but I also chose names that had a few nicknames that way they were free to choose.

Shauna Newman Rohloff

Not shocking these days, with names out there like Apple and Sin...and don't forget the ever popular, WAY OVER USED Aiden (and all its variations and spellings)

nonmember avatar April

I wouldn't change my boys names,

Jayden Joseph Jones, Donovan Nehemiah Jones and michael- nathon Alexander Jones, I love them

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