New Baby Name Trend Is Totally Inappropriate

Rant 68

name tagYou know all of that stressing, negotiating, and pondering you've been doing to pick out just the perfect baby name. Well, relax. If you don't like it, you can always change it down the line. Or at least that's what more and more parents seem to be doing when they get a big case of baby name regret.

We've known for awhile that plenty of parents end up disliking the baby name they once chose. It's not surprising I suppose, as we change our minds about all sorts of things. And when the name you thought was so unique is suddenly everywhere, or you meet a horrible person with the same name and can't shake the association, it can happen. Most people get over it, while other people just change their kid's name. Oh yes, it's happening -- more than you might think.

Some people do it via "common usage," which means calling a child by another name. I've actually known several people who have done that either with nicknames or by using a middle name as the first name when the originally intended name just didn't seem to fit. But others go the full legal route. It's not easy and will usually need to involve an attorney and some fees you'll have to pay, but it can be done if you're determined.

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I don't have stats for the United States, but according to an article in the Daily Record, in Scotland the number of people changing their first name is going up. Last year 3,221 first names were changed, including those of 311 children under age 2 and 1,129 under the age of 16. That's a lot of name changes.

While I suppose it's not the worst thing you can do, it does seem like an easy way out. A name is something we bestow on our children with the intention that it will be for life. To change it just seems fickle, and like a trend packed with problems. If you do it once, what's to stop you from changing your mind again? What about when your kid starts piping up and asking for another?

Names are supposed to be permanent. They're what identify us, and people come to know us by. But they're also just names, and there are a lot more important parenting issues to worry about than to spend time trying to perfect your child's name after the fact. Parents should put extra thought into them in the beginning and be prepared to live with them for life.

Would you ever consider changing your child's name? Do you think it's a good idea for parents to do so?

 

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spark... sparklebsd

I changed my sons nme when we was about 2 and ahalf monthsold. He was early and we rushed into the name and found one we like better. I love his name now and I'm glad I changed it the 1st time around. It was simple. I called the doh paid 20 dollars for a new birth certificate and that was it. Easy.

Cayla... CaylaChristine

I would never even DREAM of changing my oldest daughter's name. I've had it picked out since I was about 6 years old for my future daughter and I still think it is absolutely beautiful. However, I have second guessed the name we picked out for my second daughter who is due in April. I won't change it because it is equally as beautiful, has family roots and too much meaning and thought behind it, but I do worry about people mispronouncing and misspelling it a lot. Also, it's a Hawaiian name but the pure Hawaiian in our family has passed a couple generations so her outer appearance won't necessarily match the heritage of her name, but we'll be calling her by a nickname anyways.

Louise Jacobs

I gave my kids names,just what I wanted for them to have.I would not change them at all.I love their names.My youngest daughter has a nick name,but it is dedicated to one of my sisters,(she would've wanted that nick name,herself)

nonmember avatar Lisa M.

My hubby and I chose names from our family and went with mostly traditional Danish spellings. Our daughter is Karin and our son is Kristopher. Their names are relatively unique without being something that will hinder them as adults putting out résumés.



I can't say the same for two of the kids from my school several years ago named Reality and Notorious. Who the hell is going to hire a young Af-Am man named Notorious? I know they both had those names through at least fourth grade when I left that school. And then there's the young woman who works at my local Target named, no kidding, Aquanette. Yes, as in the hairspray.



I had a colleague who's son, at nine, asked to have his name changed. Nothing drastic, but he was a CHris among many in his grade level and wanted to stand out as himself. She told him he'd have to talk to Grandpa, who happened to be a judge, and fill all the forms himself. He was determined and did. He wanted to be KRIStopher, with a K. Ann and Bob didn't object and fully understood his reasons. So, off they went to Grandpa's office. Grandma went too, with the camera. She even made Grandpa be official, robes ON, even though he grumbled. Ann's Kris is now in his 20s and has his unique name without it being weird or crazy.

Alicia Bates

Nope. I love my son's full name. I took plenty of time to figure it out beforehand. There is no one on google with his full name, it's a common enough name, and it sounds presidential with a bit of a modern feel. It's easily spelled and it comes with a decent nickname that is simple to figure out. Once I figured out what I was naming him, there was no mistaking that it was perfect!

e.hale e.hale

I am actually in the process of having my sons name changed. It has taken a yr and the douchebag lawyer still hasnt got it done,and wont return my calls,although i have paid him in full...roughly$700. So i just fildd a complaint with the better business bureau. If you evef need a lawyer in new bern,nc i do NOT recommend Daniel E. Potter. He is a crook.

nonmember avatar listha

I have no problem with parents changing their childrens names or the child themselves wishing to change it! My hubby named our 2nd daughter and I must admit I dnt like it, bt I cudnt c myself changing it I dnt know y!

nonmember avatar Yirabeth

When my first was born, his (douchebag) father named him without my consent (I was very ill). The only participation, aside from conception, the man ever contributed. Yes, I changed his name, to the one I called him from the moment he was born, regardless of his birth certificate. I did this prior to kindergarten, and he never knew the difference. (he does now. Prefers his current name.)

My youngest asked to change his LAST name when I divorced his (also douchebag) father a few years ago, to match my name. (Had I known he would feel this way I probably would have kept my married surname) For this one, I told him he'd have to be 18, but that his current last name was nothing to be ashamed of. There were plenty of good people out there who carried the name. If, when he's 18, he wants to change it, I'll support that.

nonmember avatar Linda

Most people know for months that there is going to be a baby. And for many years now, you could even find out the sex, months before the birth. I never knew the sex ahead of time. What we did, like so many others, was choose names for a girl and a boy. Then repeated the name over and over, to decide if it really did sound ed

nonmember avatar Linda

Most people know for months that there is going to be a baby. And for many years now, you could even find out the sex, months before the birth. I never knew the sex ahead of time. What we did, like so many others, was choose names for a girl and a boy. Then repeated the name over and over, to decide if it really did sound good! Even after the birth--most hospitals--don't require name until just before you go home. People! Please! Give lots of thought to what you name your babies. Most people seem to give more

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