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11 Questions You Should Never Ask a Pregnant Woman

by Mary Fischer on January 18, 2013 at 10:45 AM

pregnantWhy is it that people think the minute you announce your pregnancy, it automatically gives them a free pass to pry into your personal life? Seriously, it's like as soon as you're sporting a baby bump, friends, acquaintances, and even random strangers think it's perfectly acceptable to ask you a gazillion questions that are totally none of their business.

I mean, Kim Kardashian is already being asked what she will name her baby, and she's barely out of her first trimester -- and she has to be pretty annoyed about it. I know I was when I was pregnant with my son. There were times when I swore if one more person asked me what I was planning on calling my little guy, I would not-so-politely look them straight in the eye and say, "That's none of your damn business!"

And being asked about baby names is only the tip of the iceberg. Here are 10 other rude questions people just can't seem to resist asking pregnant women. (For the record, the prying really needs to stop.)

  1. "Do you know what you're having?" (Ok, so I'm guilty of asking this question too. But seriously, it's none of my business.)
  2. "Oh, you're having a boy/girl. Is that what you wanted?" (Really, people?!?)
  3. "C'mon, spill. How/when/where did you and your husband conceive that baby?" (Yes, someone dared to go there with me.)
  4. "How much weight have you gained so far?" (Followed by: "Oh, really? Wow.")
  5. "Are you planning on breastfeeding?" (Be prepared for judgement no matter what your answer is.)
  6. "It's ok, you can tell me. Are you and your husband still having sex even though you're pregnant?" (At least 10 people asked me this when I was expecting.)
  7. "Did you plan on getting pregnant, (lowers voice to a whisper) or was it an accident?"
  8. "Is your husband happy about the baby?" (Um, WTF?)
  9. "How do you plan on losing the baby weight?" (Geez, can I get through the pregnancy first and then worry about it?)
  10. "So, how long are you going to wait before having another one?" (Again, let's get through this pregnancy first, and then we'll talk.)

What questions do you wish people would quit asking you about your pregnancy?


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Filed Under: pregnancy health, baby prep, baby names


  • sarah
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    January 18, 2013 at 10:51 AM
    people kept asking me, "are you excited?" what kid of question is that?
  • fave82


    January 18, 2013 at 10:55 AM

    I think #1 is pretty dumb to get annoyed at. I've never been asked any of the others.

  • Lilia920


    January 18, 2013 at 11:09 AM
    With question number one I get a different response. I chose for both pregnancies not to find out. When people ask if I know the gender I say no. Then they tell me why do you want to be surprised? Or now I can't buy you clothes till the baby is born. I'm pretty sure it's my pregnancy so if I don't want to know the gender get over it. My baby is due in February and people are still annoyed that I don't want to find out.
  • My turn
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    My turn

    January 18, 2013 at 11:17 AM
    With my first, I got asked if it was twins. One lady just wouldn't let it go. A complete stranger was sure it was twins even after I assured her it wasn't. Got a bit annoyed at that. I know I was huge, let it go.
  • linzemae


    January 18, 2013 at 11:17 AM
    Everyone asked if my husb and I were excited and what we wanted. Our pregnancy was planned so we were hoping and we are happy with whatever the sex was.
  • Chris...
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    January 18, 2013 at 11:34 AM
    My favorite was when a woman asked me if my parents were upset when they found out. What?/??
  • runne...


    January 18, 2013 at 11:54 AM

    Whenever I said I was having our second girl, the next question was pretty much always "so when are you trying for a boy?" Um, never. We're done. Call me crazy, but having two daughters and no sons does not make my family incomplete. 

  • MaryC...


    January 18, 2013 at 12:14 PM

    I like pranking people who asked me what I was going to name my son. I always told them Zod, like in Superman. And when he grew up that he MUST become a General so he could tell everyone "KNEEL BEFORE ZOD!" The faces I got... it was SO worth it! (By the way I named him Samuel after my Uncle and His grandpa)

  • mande...


    January 18, 2013 at 12:25 PM

    We announced our pregnancy on Christmas Eve with my parents and grandparents.  I'm an only child, and this will be the only grandchild.  I was never one that anyone figured would want or have a baby, so this was a very unexpected announcement for my family.

    My dad was so shocked, the first thing he asked, and the only thing he said about it the rest of the night was:  "Was this planned?"  Completely deadpan expression.  I laughed it off, and said "Nope"; and my mom and grandma were too excited to care otherwise. 

    We will find out if its a boy or a girl and share that info... but I'm not telling any names until baby is born.

    So far, because of my size and build, at 15 weeks, I don't have a baby bump visible to the world (I can tell it and my clothes fit a bit different, but that's it), so fortunately I'm able to avoid strangers with questions.

  • Evaly...


    January 18, 2013 at 12:33 PM

    When I was pregnant with my first everyone LOVED asking "'re pregnant. You guys are getting married..soon..right?"

    After she was born it was "OMG when are you having another?!?"


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