9 Ways You KNOW You're Done Having Babies

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babyEarlier this week Allison Tate wrote a lovely piece that ran on the Huffington Post titled "The Change of Life." In it she talked about how she was getting ready to sign a permission slip for her husband's vasectomy, and how after four kids she knew their family was complete, but she still really yearned in some ways for more children. She couldn't fathom that the baby-making part of her life was really going to be over.

I know a lot of people related to it, because it can be hard to make the decision not to have any more children. Some parents debate it for years, and worry that they may someday regret it if they don't have just one more child. I, however, am not one of them. Not even close.

I have two children --  a 9-year-old son, and a daughter who just turned 4 yesterday -- and I'm as done having children as I can possibly be. I have no hint, no smidgen, no smudge of desire to have another one. EVER. It's not because I don't like being a mother; I adore motherhood and my children. But when you're done, you're just done. Here are nine ways you KNOW you're done having children.

1. When someone tells you she's pregnant you have to remember to offer congratulations instead of condolences. (It's a wonderful thing for most people!)

2. You start giving away all of your favorite baby clothes that you've saved "just in case", and you don't shed one tear.

3. When you see a pregnant woman you involuntarily wince imaging going through it all over again.

4. You use that perfect baby name you've been saving on a dog.

5. When people ask if you/when you are going to have more children you have to remind yourself not to recoil in horror.

6. When your children talk about wanting a baby sister or brother, you confuse them with talk of pigs flying.

7. The ones you already have drive you completely insane, and you just can't take anymore.

8. You've come to enjoy sleep, and aren't about to give it up again.

9. You just know. It seems ambiguous, but when you really are done, you just know.

How do you/will you know you're done having babies?

 

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ruby_... ruby_jewel_04

I'm expecting my 4th in 4 days. I am DONE. I've been harassing my dh for months to schedule his vasectomy. I would love to have more kids. But my body says hell freaking no. It's been the hardest pregnancy I've had, and I just can't bring myself to do it again.

nonmember avatar jenn

lol I knew I was done when my 7 y/o daughter asked when we would have another baby in the family and I blurted out when I win the lottery. she occasionally harrasses me to buy a ticket when she remembers that convo!

Gabby... Gabbysmom715

I just knew. I was kinda done with my first but hubby wanted one more so i gave in had my second and got my tubes tied. My 2 drive me crazy enough. :)

PRIMA487 PRIMA487

The wife has to sign a permission slip? That's just all kinds of wrong if true.

Boobo... Boobookittt74

Lmao number 5 is totally me! I know because I am driven completely insane when I'm alone with my 3 and couldn't fathom the thought of any more. My oldest is 5 and I DID NOT have any gray hair 5 yrs ago and now I do!

Boobo... Boobookittt74

Lmao number 5 is totally me! I know because I am driven completely insane when I'm alone with my 3 and couldn't fathom the thought of any more. My oldest is 5 and I DID NOT have any gray hair 5 yrs ago and now I do!

Snake... Snakecharmer76

I knew I always wanted two and my second pregnancy was less than stellar so when my little boy came into this world I knew we were done! DH has already had his vasectomy and our second isn't even one yet. I love cuddling my current baby and still love other people's babies but for all the reasons listed above I knew we were complete at two kids!

jessi... jessicasmom1

when I went 12 years without any other and now old grey hair coming in lol I really don't think I would have enough patience for a newborn 

jessi... jessicasmom1

now I don't say I would not love , care for and nurture baby just I don't think it is all for me now 

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

My second is 4 months old. Although he was our little unexpected miracle (we were told my lady bits were broken) I knew early into my pregnancy this was the end of my baby making days. Tubes tied. Bakery is closed. :)

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