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Kate Middleton's Last Birthday Before Baby Is Bittersweet

by Julie Ryan Evans on January 3, 2013 at 10:06 PM

Kate MiddletonThe countdown is on until Kate Middleton's royal birthday on January 9. The pregnant princess will be 31, and according to royal insiders there are big plans in the works to make it a special day for her highness.

Sources say Prince William is out to spoil his bride. The purchase of a country home is a possibility as is some sort of surprise involving family. I hope whatever it is, it's a day that's all about Kate. Because with a baby on the way, it's frankly the last birthday she'll ever have that will be.

As they say, motherhood changes everything; and birthdays are definitely included. Because a day that's supposed to be all about you simply can't be anymore because "you" now includes your children.

Instead of coconut cream cake that you love, you choose chocolate cake because the children don't like coconut. You'll never blow out your candles alone again once they're old enough to blow; and of course, that likely means you'll go years without a saliva-free piece of cake. Even when you make your wishes, you'll find they aren't for you, but them.

Sure there may be adult parties and a weekend getaway some years when you're away from them, but it's still not all about you, as you worry and call and wonder about the little beings at home you miss so much. You savor details to share with them, and you refrain from that third glass of champagne because you know they'll need you the next day.

And that's okay -- great even.  I wouldn't trade motherhood for all the coconut cream frosting in the world, but it doesn't mean I don't miss it. It doesn't mean I don't have some small pangs of longing for the days when my birthday was all about me. When I got to blow out my own candles and make my own wishes. When I didn't have to share my last perfect bite with a toddler who had already eaten hers.

So live it up, Kate. Enjoy this birthday, because you'll never have another one like it again. They'll probably be sweeter in the future, but they'll never be the same.

Do you miss having birthdays that were all about you since having children?


Image via Tom Stoper Photography/Flickr

Filed Under: baby prep, motherhood, royals


  • lasombrs


    January 4, 2013 at 8:03 AM

    I have never had a birthday all about me. But thats what I get for being born right after Christmas. I am always an afterthought or ignored all together :/ Hope she has a good day!

  • jessi...


    January 4, 2013 at 9:01 AM

    Not at all my child is a blessing and I would not change that for the world

  • Cass
    -- Nonmember comment from


    January 4, 2013 at 10:41 AM
    Alternately, you could say "Mommy got coconut cake because mommy likes coconut cake. On your birthday, you can get a cake that you like." and "It's mommy's birthday and mommy wants to blow out the candles. You wouldn't like it if I blew out your candles, would you?" Or, alternately, "No."
  • ms_da...


    January 4, 2013 at 12:47 PM

    @Lasonbrs: aww hun :( i have a friend who was born on Christmas and her birthday gets lost in the shuffle as well.

  • blh
    -- Nonmember comment from


    January 4, 2013 at 1:08 PM
    lol i agree with cass. i'll get whatever damn cake i want.
  • Autum...


    January 4, 2013 at 1:35 PM
    They still can be about you. Just plan an adult dinner without them!!
  • Colleen
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    January 4, 2013 at 4:22 PM
    Bittersweet? That implies something negative... I agree with Cass, unless you spoil your kids rotten, there's no reason you can't have the cake you want or blow out your own candles. And let's face is, Catherine is a princess... I highly doubt she will EVER have anything less than a spectacular birthday, kids or no kids.
  • irish...


    January 4, 2013 at 5:54 PM

    My birthdays after children have been the best. Now that they are 5 & 2, I get homemade cards and I get to hear "Happy Birthday Mommy" in their little voices. I don't mind sharing my piece of cake because mommy's piece is always better. I will get another piece after they go to bed. 8)

  • Karen
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    January 4, 2013 at 7:35 PM
    What??? Our kids don't ask to be born, we bring them here! Having kids is all about us, so whether you have them or not, your birthday is still about you.
  • bubbb...


    January 5, 2013 at 9:57 AM

    I think its great!! If prince William wants to give her an extra special Birthday then go  for it!!! It will be as my husband gave me an extra special birthday last year and it was! Though the kids got gifts  not  I and ect but   it was   full of friends,laughter and my husband's eyes were so full of pride and love for me! That was greater than a gift. If thats how Prince William feels towards Kate then let it be. It will be one   of the best gifts she ever gets knowing she is dearly loved  and he is proud   of her.  After all all my childhood birthday's weren't  so great as my Mom just would  fight with Dad accept when I decided my Birthdays   were for picking potatoes left behind   by   the farmers trucks. They were more enjoyable  as there was no fighting but they didn't make me feel special or like my birth was/is a good thing. It just stopped the fights!! So Happy Birthday Princess Kate and I hope they all are special in a unique way!!

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