Hilary Duff Says Pregnancy Changed Her Sex Life


Hilary DuffWell, if you've ever been curious as to what moms think about having sex after giving birth, as good a place as any to start is with a comment made by a celebrity.

And when it comes to post-baby hanky panky, Hilary Duff says "It's definitely different," which pretty much sums things up as far as how most new moms feel.

Oh, and you'll love this. She also added, "I'm so exhausted at the end of each day, so I'm like, 'Can this not happen at night when I'm exhausted?' You find different times to do it." (Yeah. Like never.)

(Guess even celeb moms use the "I'm too tired" excuse.)

When it comes to post-pregnancy sex, I've never understood women who are eager to hop right back into bed when the doctor gives the all-clear around the six-week mark.

And I'll even go one step further, because after I gave birth to my son, I honestly felt like a virgin all over again, to the point where I was nervous and scared to have sex.

I think I freaked out not only because it had been a while since I'd had sex, but also because, well -- my cha-cha pretty much went straight to hell and back in the process of pushing out an eight-pound baby.

I labored for over 24 hours, pushed 'til I was blue in the face for at least 45 minutes, and topped the whole experience off with a nice episiotomy to avoid the major tear I would've had otherwise.

Needless to say, considering how hard I worked to get that baby out of my body, I wasn't exactly eager to put anything back in there.

But don't go freaking out and thinking you may have no interest in sex after your baby arrives solely based on my account. I mean, just look at Jessica Simpson! She's already preggo again and her baby Maxwell is only 7 months old, so she was back in the saddle in no time flat.

Are you at all concerned about your sex life after giving birth?


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NewMo... NewMomma.S

I, too, felt shy the first time I was intimate after giving birth. But I was eager to get over that shyness. So eager we were pregnant again by the time the baby was 4 month old. I wasn't concerned about my sex life being different after our first child. But I'm due again in April and am concerned about it with an infant and a toddler in the house. I just hope it's not nonexistent!

MomLi... MomLily67

Pushing out a baby and an episiotomy do not ruin your sex life, close minds do. If Doc say it's OK, and you enjoy having zex with your partner, the both of you work together to regain an active sex life, It's definitely not going to be the same as before baby, but you don't stop being a woman because you are a mother. Feeling some what nervous is normal, but your  partner will love your new you regardless.

linzemae linzemae

I have cervical ectropian so i wasnt allowed to have sex during my first trimester. Once we found the reason for my bleeding the Dr cleared me but i have been worried about bleeding after sex. We tried to last week and i bled for 3 days after and i cramped the entire next day. I feel bad that we havent been intimate in so long but for me its just not worth it. It had been months since we had tried and it was so awkward, we were nervous. I cant even imagine how nervous we will be after the baby!

nonmember avatar flmommy

It definitely is different. I was terrified even after getting the go ahead at 4 week,s it didn't happen until the day before 6 weeks and it was bad :( I had torn up & in, rather than the normal down, so the stitches were healed but it still wasn't right for me. t nearly 11 months though, everything is fine- not the same, but good.

audri... audrinasmommy7

I was concerned about it being different but I was definitely not nervous or scared. Me and my husband both have very high sex drives and we could hardly wait for my hoo-ha to heal. My daughter was only 6lbs and I had one tiny first degree tear with a 3 hour easy peasy labor so I wasn't scared of having sex again after. Maybe I'm one of the lucky ones but our sex lives didn't change post baby and we still have a very active sex life even with a wild 19 month old! I feel like sex is better now after a baby!

xanth... xanthian41691

I had to wait because of my c-section, and near the end of my pregnancy my hubby was so stressed and scared that we didn't have sex for 6 weeks then, for a total of 12 weeks. My doctor never gave me the "ok" but at my 6 week check-up he said I was healing well and all, and I felt up to it. We took it slow and eased back into it, but I was so ready to jump on hubby it wasn't funny!

nonmember avatar Jennifer

Don't scare women! C'mon! I pushed a 9 lb baby out and tore almost as bad as you possibly can, and had sex 5 wks later! Stop trying to freak people out. It's all a natural process.

nonmember avatar C

It all depends on the person! I was going right back at it after like a week..:) to each their own i guess

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