Couples Who Fight Over Baby Names Should Really Lighten Up a Little
When I heard about a new survey out of the U.K. that found that the most common fight between expectant parents is over baby names, I couldn't help but chuckle a little bit. Because even though it seems like the dumbest thing to fight over, it really can create a lot of conflict between parents-to-be.
And what's interesting is that while 75 percent of the parents surveyed admitted arguing over choosing a baby name, only 28 percent fought about whether the mom should go back to work, and 27 percent got into an argument over whether they should have more kids.
Wow. Wouldn't you think the latter two subjects would generate a lot more heat than the first?
But then again, it really does seem to make sense. I know my husband and I got into it on a few occasions, especially when we found out we were having a boy. We had plenty of girl names on our list that we agreed on, but the boy names were an entirely different story.
And I really don't mean to throw him under the bus, here (yes I do), but he pretty much vetoed every single name I decided I liked (other than the one we ultimately chose for our son, of course).
I loved the name Mason. He said it was too common. I thought Nolan had a really nice ring to it. He didn't want anyone to think we'd named him after a baseball player. And he shot down another one of my favorites too -- James, because he said it was just way too "blah." (It's still one of my faves.)
There were honestly a few times I was convinced our son would remain nameless for weeks after his birth, until one fateful day when we finally found one we both agreed on and really adored.
And looking back on it now, I have to say, we were both pretty stupid to get into heated discussions about something we should've been excited to do, even if we didn't quite see eye to eye on every name thrown out as a possibility. Maybe if we'd sat down together and talked like civilized adults about why we liked or disliked certain names, we would've come to a consensus a whole lot sooner.
But I guess it's still a good thing we don't plan on having any more babies. If we wound up pregnant with another boy, I'm pretty sure we'd be screwed.
Chill out, moms and dads-to-be. There are a lot better things to argue over.
Have you and your husband argued over baby names?
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