Would You Share Your Baby Bump With Complete Strangers?

All the Rage 14

baby bumpHave you noticed how these days, with social media being the norm, it seems like we get a play by play of every woman we follows pregnancy? Even if the mom herself is not all “Look at me," people feel it’s their duty and right to see and touch her stomach. I was never down with the you can touch my stomach. I’m not a big fan of attention being called to my stomach. I’ve spent a lot of time being overweight and my stomach is the last place I want people putting their attention, ever.

All that being said, I did take baby bump photos because I wanted to keep a record for myself and I also shared them with my mom and sisters, close friends because I was excited and we lived about 12 hours from everyone we ever knew at the time, so it was a way to share the experience with people who loved us. Mind you, this was before the Facebook and Twitter boom.

Now, everyone wants to see your bump. Show us the bump! It is your obligation as the holder of the burgeoning belly to post a photo so that everyone can live vicariously through your pregnancy. I call bullshit on that. Of course no one should expect you to raise your shirt and snap a photo, no more than they should expect to be able to walk over to you and rub your belly, like you’re some sort of with child Buddha granting wishes like a magic lamp.

But as far as women choosing to share their bump, I don’t think there is a damn thing wrong with it.

I think it is individual choice and if people want to share, why not? If you don’t want to see, hide the expectant mommy on your timeline until the pregnancy is over.

Many people use FB as a way to keep in touch with family who they don’t live with ( like I did with email back in the olden days circa 2004). My sister doesn’t live near me and when she was pregnant last year, I felt like I was there because she shared photos with me often on Facebook. She texted me questions the entire pregnancy and on the day of delivery, I walked her through labor and delivery from my home. I was her labor coach via texting and facetime.

Social media brought us together when miles kept us apart. Baby bump status updates are only creepy to those who don’t want to see it and I say, turn the channel. When I was first pregnant in 2004, I didn’t know anything about mom blogs or follow any of them but I did follow baby center and the bump and participated in the boards and comparing my first time bump to other mothers gave me security that I was progressing normally.

Go on girls, show us those baby bumps if you want to and if you don’t that’s perfectly okay too.

Did you post photos of your baby bump?


Image via Flickr/ Schwangerschaft

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jalaz77 jalaz77

My bump was never the canter of the photo. I do share by just taking a regular pic and there is the bump.

EcoErin EcoErin

I would have loved to show off my baby bump, but I didnt start showing until I was 34 weeks along. I hate to admit, but I had bump envy so bad! Theres nothing wrong with showing a growing belly, jeeze people are starting to get so damn upset at everything now adays. 
I have to wonder why everyone gets in arms about a woman showing off her body but not about children living in poverty or being abused, or up in arms about helping victims of Sandy. Talk about needing to reorganize your priorities. 

femal... femaleMIKE

I will not share.  I don't even want to write pregnancy posts.  I hope none of my friends/family on facebook even mentions anything about the baby.  I don't want to hear any of the stupid pregnancy cliches.  I don't want to spend the next 9 months giving updates to people about my progresss. 

femal... femaleMIKE

When my baby is born, I will happily share. :)

Desti... DestinyHLewis

After my first pregnancy and people thinking they could touch my bump anytime they wanted... I made myself a shirt for my last two reading... "Don't touch my baby bump. My mommy bites!" Lol ;-) I didn't mind sharing pics though 

pupuk... pupukeawahine

No.  I didn't even like people rubbing my stomach, especially strangers (I lived in a culture at that time where touching others was the norm).  However, I was in a small shop one day, very pregnant, buying a small stuffed whale for the soon-to-be born baby.  The shopkeeper's young adult son (twenty-something) was in the store being watched by her, as he was mentally retarded.  He was a huge Polynesian , and his eyes lit up as soon as I walked in.  He wanted to rub my tummy and talk to the baby, so I said it was Ok.  I started to cry as I listened to him talk and sing to my baby while he put his hands on my stomach, because it was so incredibly sweet.  Once I started crying, his mama did too.  It was magical, and I left their little shop feeling like my son had received a special blessing.

cherylam cherylam

there are few pregnant women around us, but when we see them, all we say is a quick 'congratulations' and keep moving.  Too many strangers are total nut jobs, and I'd rather not be put in that group, even though I'm probably green with envy.

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

I took a few bump pictures but didn't post a week by week play by play. I don't mind seeing others do it but what does really bother me is near the end when women post something like "37 weeks today, 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced!!!! Baby will be here soon!" I kinda feel like its TMI and I'm pretty sure bobby from high school who still parties hard doesn't want to know about your labor progression.

tuffy... tuffymama

Bare bump? No. Lol I don't show skin normally, and I'm certainly not going in flagrante whilst in the fecund state. But I did take periodic tee shirt covered bump pics for me and dh.

Blues... Blueshark77

I don't share naked bump pictures, but every few weeks I post a pic on Facebook of my growing stomach because I am about 2,000 miles away from most of my friends and family and they get such a kick out of it. I don't post a lot in general, but give a pregnancy update (without TMI) every now and then. I don't mind friends and family touching my bump either, which surprises me because normally I like my personal space. I'm back home for the holiday and had my baby shower today and received lots of tummy pats that didn't bother me at all. I haven't had any strangers touch my belly, but wouldn't have any compunctions about pushing their hands away, although pupukeawahine's story a few comments above was very sweet.

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