New Mom Had to Wait 3 Months to Find Out If Her Baby Was a Boy or Girl

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boy or girl When it comes to finding out a baby's sex, people are typically in either one of two camps -- those who want to find out the instant they can; or the more patient camp of those who like to wait to hear the doctor say "It's a boy!" or "It's a girl!" in the delivery room. No one, however, expects to be in the camp in which Emma Sohrabian found herself recently -- the one in which doctors couldn't tell her the sex of her baby was until three months after delivery

According to ParentDish UK, the 35-year-old mother from Oxford was thrilled when she learned via ultrasound at her 20-week appointment that she was going to have a little girl. She said she told everyone, bought pink clothes, and decorated a room fit for a little princess.

Emma's birth didn't go as expected. She developed placenta previa and had to have an emergency C-section 14 weeks before her due date. Little Aolani Argyle was just 2 pounds when she was born.

Emma thought that was enough for one mother to have to go through, but was just happy that -- after a previous miscarriage -- she finally had her little girl in her arms. Then a few days after her birth doctors delivered the shocking news -- the little girl she was already in love with, might actually be a boy

Understandably, she was baffled. She told ParentDish:

I didn't understand what they were talking about. I was also mortified - I'd told everyone I'd had a baby girl and I'd registered her birth when she was a few days old.

Apparently the baby had signs of Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia, a rare condition that can be life threatening. It also causes enlarged genitals, which can make determining a baby's sex difficult.

So for three months Elizabeth and their family waited, not knowing if they were holding their son or daughter. I can only image how difficult it would be. Sure there are those people who believe children should be raised genderless, and that's fine, but most of us want to know, and plan, and imagine their lives as boys or girls. Not to mention the fact that the disease she potentially had was terrifying.

But as stressful as it was for those agonizing three months, Emma has an incredibly positive attitude about the whole ordeal. While tests did reveal that Aolani is in fact a girl (they're still waiting for results as to if she has the condition), she said it wouldn't have mattered if things went the other way.

Even if Aolani was a boy she would have been perfect to me. She's my beautiful little girl. It just took me by surprise.

Have you ever heard of this condition?


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Brats... Bratsmama9507

WOW! I've never heard of anything like this. Poor mama.. My nephew was born early too. Weighing 3 1/2 pds and u culd definitely see he was a boy! I'd be very upset with the drs and wuld hve my lawyer on stndby if not already at the hospital...

Heather Anne Ramsey

A lawyer for what exactly? That the medical staff wanted to prevent any health issues by treating the infant for severe and possibly fatal condition. Yep that sounds about as ignorant as saying I'm going to sue you because you breathed the same air as I did.

Mary Cimino

I've heard of this, a boy at my parents church had it and they thought he might have been a girl.

My daughter had a weird condition though, cord displacement. Her umbilical cord nearly came completely off in utero. She had to be delivered 8 weeks early. The doctor told me that I had a higher chance of conceiving triplets than that happening.

Misty... Misty.Dawn

im confused....a lawyer for WHAT?!?!? Ive never heard of this condition, but hiring a lawyer wouldnt even cross my mind

CPN322 CPN322

No I have not. I wish the best for this family.

sweet... sweetmissy_05

No I have not. I just wish the best for the family!

Joanne Elizabeth Clark

Same thing happened to me!Abigail was born with CAH,and hours after delivery she was transported to CHOP,where they did genetic testing to find out her sex and tests confirmed she had CAH...but it only took 2 weeks here thankfully!

nonmember avatar Al

I find this story really disheartening. Not at the fact that the girl she thought had might be a boy, but that this story was presented with a clear binary, with no mention of intersex anywhere. The problem is that people try to place people, babies even, into clear boxes of male and female, when it fact hormones and bodies vary so much. It might do folks some good to pick up a copy of Anne Fausto-Sterlings' "Sexing the Body" so you can see the social construction of sex and the ways in which chromosomes, hormones, and genitals shape everyone's unique sex, but how people are forced in only two labels of male and female.

Prett... PrettyGirlMyers

Upset with the doctors with a lawyer on standby for what, exactly?

Irene Petty

yes I have heard of this condition. On the Sally Jesse Raphael show.
What happens is the boy genitalia is trapped under skin and does not grow out- explaining the enlarged genitalia appearing as female.

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