New IVF Method Means More 'Old' Moms

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Good news for older women who want babies. A new IVF method can reportedly give a woman in her early 40s the same chances of getting pregnant and having a healthy baby as a woman ten years younger. The treatment involves selecting the healthiest embryos via chromosomal screening, then freezing the embryos for a month while a woman's hormones go back to normal, and then the embryo is thawed and put back into the woman's womb. The treatment reportedly increases the chances of one round of IVF's success from 13 percent to a whopping 60 percent. Says one doctor: "If she's 41 or 42, she's still got a 60 per cent chance of implantation. She has the same chance as someone who is 32."

This is not only astonishingly good news for middle-aged women hoping to get pregnant, but for babies too!
 

These days, a woman in her late 30s or early 40s has everything going on for her in terms of it being the ideal time to get pregnant -- except her fertility. She's usually got her career established and has the means to raise a child. She's still healthy and energetic. She's still got decades to live. And studies have shown that older mothers are less likely to neglect or abuse their child.

When is the last time you've read a news story about a 40-year-old mother killing her child or leaving her kid alone while she goes out to party? I read these stories every day, and it's almost always young mothers, and not necessarily teenage mothers, but mothers in their 20s as well.

Additionally, unintended pregnancies are more likely to result in child abuse. Certainly women going to the financial and physical trouble of conceiving a child via IVF want that child. A recent study also showed that children born to mothers in their 40s were healthier and more intelligent.

Incredibly, there are still women who insist that older women shouldn't have babies. On average, a woman in the U.S. lives until 80. Having a baby at 40 means your kid would be middle-aged by the time you die. Perhaps there's some concern about saddling a young adult with too many caretaking responibilities with older parents, and I think that's something to think about. But that can be handled in many other ways -- and the truth is, most of us will outsource much of our elders' caretaking needs anyway. In terms of energy, older parents should take into consideration the fact that at 50 they'll have a young child still running around. But most people I know in their 40s and 50s are in excellent shape. (Then again, I live in New York!)

Of course, there are many young moms who are fabulous mothers. But on the whole, the benefits of older parents are enough that no woman in her 40s should be denied the opportunity to have a child if that is something she feels she is ready to take on.

Do you think women in their 40s should have children?

 

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jalaz77 jalaz77

I guess why not? I have say though I don't feel bad for women who can't get pregnant and made the choice to wait til after 35 to start trying, what do you think will happen? I do feel for the women who try in their 20's and struggle. We have a clock for a reason. So the women who want a career first, then babies think long and hard about that cause you can do both, I did. I had my first at 28 and really couldn't be happier and my 4th will be at 36, now I am very tired compared to my 1st.

Karla C. Mulrenan

This reminds me of my almost 40 year old godmother asking me about parentig advice and if she should have a child. I am 22. She couldnt even help me bring my 12lbs stroller down the stairs cuz she didnt know how to. She gave my son a slice if bread as "food". She had

No clue about motherhood. Motherhood doesnt come with age. She herself said "after today, after seeing you struggle with a whiny screaming toddler and how much strength and energy you actually need I am second guessing if I should have a child at my age." No, not every women in her 40's is healthy and strong. And trust me there are plenty of 30-40-50 year old neglecting/ abusing mothers out there. Dont give us the " young moms arent good mothers almost always bullshit"

ILove... ILovemyPaulie

I had my second child naturally at 44. She is healthy, happy & I am too! If a woman has no other medical issues & wants a child then God bless. If anyone is attempting IVF then they know it is no simple task. So more power to them!

nonmember avatar Rachel

No, I don't - not because I think older women can't handle it, but because it's selfish. I was born when my mother was 35 and my father was 40. At the young age of 7, I realized that because my parents had me late in life, there's a good chance I'll lose them by the time I'm 40. I knew it was an age where I wouldn't be dependent on them, but it still made me so depressed thinking about it (yes, as a 7 year old). Now as a young adult, I see people who are in their 60s who still have their parents and I'm jealous because I know I'll never have that.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

This isn't good news at all. Middle aged women shouldn't be having babies, they should be looking forward to grandkids. It doesn't matter if they're in good shape, being pregnant is tough on an older body. I had a baby in my mid twenties and it was way easier than being pregnant in my mid thirties. I can't imagine how hard it must be to have one in your forties and I'm not in bad shape at all, I was at the gym six days a week before getting pregnant.

amiec... amiecanflie

I think it's great that we're making it easier and healthier for these women to have children, because it looks like either way they're going through with the IVF. Being a mother is a great thing, and II'm glad to hear more women will get to become them!

Nycti... Nyctimene

I think a lot of people are over-generalizing on the health aspect. Being 35-45 doesn't mean you're in diapers and an old folks home and unable to handle a few late nights.

Is it easier when you're young? Probably, yes. But since when did anyone guarantee that parenting would be easy or always fun or that you shouldn't have to do some struggling?

Let's look at some women in their 30s; Anna Paquin (who just had twins, 30), Liv Tyler (35), Anna Faris (of 'Scary Movie' fame, 35), Christina Ricci (32), Christina Hendricks (37), Hilary Swank (38). Clearly a band of slovenly, overweight and unhealthy women incapable of pregnancy and who shouldn't be breeding. Heaven forbid we look at the paralyzed and completely incompotent 40 year olds; Jennifer Garner (Elektra), Jennifer Lopez, Uma Thurman. Clearly they must bring in a body double for all Jennifer Lopez's dancing since she's in an old folk's home.

There's plenty of lazy, overweight 20somethings who have no business having kids if we're judging purely on health and activity wise. It has nothing to do with age. There are healthier 30 and 40 year olds out there than 20 year olds and one bonus is that they probably have their life more together by then because they did focus on careers and establishing themselves.

nonmember avatar blh

There are pros and cons to having kids at any age. In general, people in their forties have more money and are more stable, have better relationships and so on. Older women tend to be better mothers as well. I was 21 when i had my son and I know it wouldve been much better for both of us had I been older. Although I'd never want to have a baby at 40 and I dont believe in IVF. And to all the people who are gonna whine and say "I'm a young mom and I'm great blah blah" I have rarely seen teenagers taht are good parents and I have rarely seen older women that go out and party and are negelectful. There are exceptions, of course. Money is also a very important factor in having children, and I know this bc I have none and it blows. And I've known many people who are TERRIBLE parents but they certainly don't think or admit they are, so saying you're a good one means nothing.

nonmember avatar Guest

Little shitty of you to say Rhonda. You're always horribly judgmental. Btw I'm 35, have a 5 week old and was at the gym 3 days/week WHILE pregnant not before. So suck on that.

cleig... cleigh717

Nyctimene, r u seriously using celebrities as examples? thats just not realistic. i personally had my eldest at 20, and maybe the more established thing is a given. but because i didnt go to college and my age it makes more sense financially and for our family for me to stay at home with our children. i dont think i would have been able to do that if i was making middle class figures instead of minimum wage. it was a no-brainer considering child care costs. but every situations different. if i hadnt had an unplanned pregnancy i probably would have adopted later in life because there are kids out there who need parents. certaintly families who can afford ivf can afford to adopt but its america and i do understand wanting to get pregnant and experience that along with parenthood. if the middle aged are going to try to get pregnant anyway than im glad its going to be safer for mother and child now. children dont need more things, they need more time with the people that love them and brought them into this world. everything in life is a trade off. you cant "have it all" or whatever that means. . .

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