Painless Labor Really Is Possible (VIDEO)

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Birth StoryIt seems that for many women, child birth is a very subjective thing. Stories range from women who claim they had "orgasmic" births to women who say they were miserable every second of their labor and never want to do it again. For me, the number one take away from my to labors was this: most times labor is what you imagine it will be. Your mind can make it horrible or great. It depends on what you believe it will be.

A Cafe Mom Studios Birth Story piece recently told Dania M's story. Her birth story is a wild one and really shows how the mind can dictate what labor is like and that there is no one, universal experience. Dania had done all the research she could to prepare for having a baby, but when she was induced, the experience was far different than she had imagined. See below:

She had imagined horrific pain and screaming agony, but when it came time to be "induced" when she was two weeks late, she did not realize she was in labor because it did not feel like what she expected. She did not know she was in labor until her daughter was crowning!

It is such a lesson in the truth about labor (and parenthood in general). All the planning in the world can't tell you what labor will feel like and if you expect one thing and something else happens, it can really change your perspective.

In fact, Dania might have felt a great deal more "pain" if her labor had gone in the textbook fashion. Because her expectations were altered, she did not feel as much "pain." Kind of groovy, no?

The entire idea behind Hypnobirthing (the method I used to deliver my kids) is that we can use our minds to control our bodies. Instead of "contractions" we say surges, instead of "pain," we say "pressure." After a while, it does start to change your perspective.

The way we think of labor in our culture -- painful, awful, needing to be medicated -- leads to births that are painful, awful, and need to be medicated.

Dania's lesson -- and the lesson of many women who have unexpected births -- is that we can't plan much of anything about labor. It is what it is. How it feels and how we react are all individual and the way we think about it all is probably the most important factor at work.

Was your labor what you thought it would be?



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Anna Potts

i can beat that i went into labor fell asleep then when i woke up my daughter had crowned i pushed for 25 min then done baby girl in my arms no rips no tears.

nonmember avatar anonymous

I'm a big baby so as soon as my contractions started, my nurse asked if I wanted my epidural, which I eagerly accepted. The rest of my labor was spent watching tv, talking on the phone ("oh not much going on, I'm just in labor..."), and watching my monitor so I would know when to push. So in short, my birth experience was fantastic!

abra819 abra819

try giving birth to an almost 11lb baby out your vagina. Then, we'll talk.



Sleep... SleepingBeautee

She didn't say it was painless... she said it didn't hurt that bad. Big difference. I had the same experience when I was induced with pitocin. I had very little pain until an hour before I gave birth.

britn... britneykaren

I was so scared of labor the whole 9 months but wanted to go natural so bad but once I was actually in labor, the pain was too much and the epidural took away all feeling, I didn't feel her come out at all, and now I wonder why anyone would do it any other way

mumma... mummajenni

I prepared w/Hypnobirthing. Went a week past due, blood pressure shot up, and was rushed in for induction. Contractions on that medication are agonizing... Over 24 hours later, I still had not dilated. And I did not dilate until I got an epidural (which wore off during the 4 hours of pushing...). I wish someone had advised me to just get an epidural early w/induction. That was the worst, but the hypnobirthing method did help some, but is no match for pitocin.

Not what I had planned or prepped for, but healthy beautiful baby at the end anyway.

Katy Khan

@mumma...MY epidural wore off too...I had no idea that happened, I thought that once you got it, you were good to go :P But I was in labor for 23 hours and 25 minutes. It wasn't the kind of pain I expected either. I'm planning on doing a natural birth next time.

Anna Potts

try the epidaural drip its amazing i had that all up untill i pushed. but i wanted natural we interfer to much and to much for it! the body will kick in and we as women were built to do it.


Katy Khan

@anna, I never even occurred to me to go natural...what a society we live in huh? Definately not getting any more than some iv pain killers next time. And no induction either unless there's an actual reason besides just being a few days past my due date.

Courtney Puzzo

@Katy past due can be dangerous for mother and baby at a certain point the placenta stops working and past due babies can also be 25-40% larger than a child born on time is. Shawn Cassidy for example was born a month late in 1958 and was 7lbs 15oz at birth or 44.32% larger than the average baby at the time

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