Woman Pregnant With Her Brother's Twins Must Make His Wife Feel Guilty

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pregnantOut of all the stories I've ever heard about the power of love between siblings, hearing about a sister who loves her brother so much, she's pregnant with his twins definitely takes the cake. Yes, I know that sounds pretty Jerry Springer-ish, but it's anything but scandalous, I assure you.

Tiffany Burke is pregnant with her brother James' twins because she agreed to serve as a surrogate to him and his wife, Natalie, since Natalie is no longer able to carry children on her own after losing her uterus in an emergency surgical procedure.

Wow, can you even imagine having a sister-in-law who loved you enough to carry your babies? Tiffany is one very unselfish soul for sure, especially considering just how sick and tired this pregnancy has made her.

She's suffered from horrible nausea for most of the pregnancy so far, which has made her resort to sleeping the days away for relief. And she's even found it hard to spend time and tend to her two own children, ages 7 and 3, because she's so sick and exhausted most of the time.

And even though being a surrogate is something she truly wanted to do for her brother, I can't even imagine how much guilt her sister-in-law Natalie must be feeling for putting such a strain on her life. It must be so tough for her to watch Tiffany struggling simply to manage her normal, everyday routine -- all while knowing she's carrying two babies who belong to her, who will be placed in her arms at the end of the pregnancy instead of Tiffany's.

While she's no doubt eternally grateful to her for being willing to give her and James the gift of more children, I can't help but wonder if she has days when digging out from under the guilt is almost unbearable. She must feel so indebted to Tiffany for the rest of her life, because there's just no way you can ever repay something like that.

And as much as people will applaud Tiffany for carrying these babies for her brother and sister-in-law, Natalie's strength should be noted as well. Not many women would be able to handle a journey like this without falling apart.

Would you ever let a family member be your surrogate?

 

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jalaz77 jalaz77

Um you take that chance carrying a child. She volunteered. I hope she doesn't feel guilty and doubting the woman carrying her babies is whinning about it. Actually it sounds as if you would do something like that, most people who do this type of thing wouldn't think about that or go there, 'do you feel bad making me sick cause I am carrying YOUR babies', thing.

nonmember avatar Bird

What a bitch the sister in law is! I bet she perposly got her uterus removed so she could put this kind hearted and selfless mother through all of this. God people these days.

nonmember avatar Jennifer

I read the CNN article and didn't see anything about Natalie feeling "guilty." This post and its headline are misleading.

Flori... Floridamom96

Wow. You could have chosen to celebrate a truly beautiful act of pure charity. Instead you jumped head first into pettiness. Awesome. You must be so proud.

Alway... AlwaysExpecting

second floridamom96!


Wow, the author is shameless!!!!!!!!!!

Melis... Melissa8988

people are so ignorent i would hope the lady that lost her uterus does not feel guilty at all what so ever it is not her fault and i bet that selfless and loving mother offered to do it so her brother that she loves so much could have children with the woman he fell in love with. whoever wrote this should be ashamed of theirselves!

nonmember avatar jenna

It's as if the author is wishing, hoping and praying that the sister in law feels guilty and feels as if she owes her sister in law something. What is wrong with this author? She's obsessed with the idea that total strangers should feel guilty.

nonmember avatar Em

Wow. You are making some serious assumptions here. I'm willing to bet you never experienced infertility? The fact that you are so sure of her GUILT is actually obnoxious. I felt a lot of emotions during my struggle to bring my children to my family. It let me assure you, guilt was never one of them.

BethA... BethAnnJay

How on earth are you still employed after writing the worst articles ever?? I seriously want to know! After suffering through your earlier posts that were full of "sanctimommy" judging and insults to other people that you had odd justifications for, as soon as I see that you are the writer, I usually skip the article! I tried again to give you another shot.....never again!

As for the family in this article- I wish you all the best! After reading the true story on CNN, I know this was a long process to go through and you made your decision based on your personal reasons! Good luck!

nonmember avatar MO Mom

Well this was a bitchy article. Think I will go read the REAL article without the snark.

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