Having a Home Birth Is Like One Big Party! (VIDEO)

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Birth Stories CafeMom StudiosThe idea of having a home birth can be a little bit scary, but in the latest episode of Birth Stories on CafeMom Studios, a mom named Darci shared her story about having two babies at home -- and how it felt more like a party to her than an ordeal.

Darci was dead set on having a home birth because she always associated hospitals with people who are sick and/or dying, and she didn't want those feelings to ruin her experience while she brought her first baby into the world.

Watch this video to hear Darci share her home birth journey. Her positivity about the experience is pretty contagious.

I have to admit, when I first heard her compare getting ready for her birth to having a party, I wanted to roll my eyes a little bit and say, "Yeah, right." But after hearing her describe how her house felt full of life at that moment, I honestly couldn't think of a more appropriate way to describe the anticipation of meeting your child for the first time.

I love how she went right into labor and delivery with such a calm demeanor instead of being fearful and stressed out. And I can't help but wonder if her positive attitude is what made her experience so flawless -- and allowed her to have another successful home birth with her second child. Maybe our emotions and inner strengths really are more powerful than we ever thought.

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Lynette Lynette

I have had 2 hospital births & 2 homebirths.  The homebirths had a party feel.  Especially my last one because it was during the day.  I am so glad I got to have my homebirths.  My only regret is that I didn't have homebirths w/ my first 2 children.  It's an amazing experience.

Stacey. Stacey.

she always associated hospitals with people who are sick and/or dying


Um....yeah. Maybe thats because hospitals are equipped to deal with emergencies, which you know, can happen during child birth too.

Véronique Houde

Stacey, I encourage you to do a bit of research into what goes into making a decision to have a home birth. Look at the stats, look at the experiences, and compare them to hospital births. You might be surprised! A good movie to watch to get good insight into this is "The business of being born". The producer of the movie was considering a home birth, and it ended up that the baby was in distress and so they transfered her to the hospital with more than enough time to get an emergency C-section. Trust me, if the pregnancy is high-risk or the child shows signs of distress that can't be controlled in a home environment, the woman is transferred. 


I do wish more women considered natural and home-births. We need to start thinking differently about child labour - after all, we've been going through this ever since we've been monkeys, our bodies are programmed to do it properly. 

Stacey. Stacey.

 producer of the movie was considering a home birth, and it ended up that the baby was in distress and so they transfered her to the hospital with more than enough time to get an emergency C-section


Thats great, not every emergency has "more than enough" time to get to the hospital. No matter how much someone prepares for the home birth, they will never be more equipped than a hospital with specialists and equipment. Sure hospitals fuck up too, but so can midwives, thats human error, and not the point Im making.

Shannon Knapp

Not just us. Millions of women give birth in huts, fields, homes all over the world. Many complications in hospital births are *caused* by hospitals. Also, midwives are equipped to deal with emergencies for home deliveries.

Finally, don't like home birth? Don't have one. Do not assume because you can't/won't that no one else should. 


 

Nicole Smoot Tengwall

I had a hospital birth with an OB with my first (never again!), a birth center birth with my second (wonderful!) and a home waterbirth with my third (most amazing experience EVER!).


Stacey--when you start doing the research, you will see that almost ALL of the so-called "emergencies" that happen in labor and birth are actually CAUSED by all the needless interventions done to laboring women for the sake of the convenience of the hospital staff and OBs!  It is actually VERY rare for a true emergency to pop up out of nowhere in the labor of a healthy mom. There are always warning signs and because a homebirth midwife is there with the mom (and not practicing office hours and popping in every 6 hours or so like most OBs do), they are MUCH quicker to spot potential problems and fix them or  make decisions to lessen their effects!

Stacey. Stacey.

 we've been monkeys, our bodies are programmed to do it properly. 


For the most part yes. But again, when it comes to a life possibly being in jeopardy, even a small risk of not being close enough to the hospital in an emergency is not one I am willing to take. Most people have no issues, but someone has to make up the small percent that does, and you wont know if you're in that percent until it does. Stats aer great for info, but again, you never know which side of the stat you will be on.

Stacey. Stacey.

@shannon, women in developing countries still die frequently from child birth, kind of a moot point. Also, a midwife at home can only be so prepared, but will not ever be as prepared as a hosiptal. If they were, women like the one Vernoique wrote about wouldnt have to go to the hospital anyway, because the midwife would have been prepared to handle it. This obviously will not ever happen. Situations will still arise that need to be treated elsewhere. Again, some people may not mind this risk because according to stats its low, but again you never know which side of the stat you will be on.

nonmember avatar urs

two homebirths here. both short, calm, perfect. just as the article describes. i went in knowing what i signed up for (i'd attended a homebirth before). i wouldn't describe it as a party because only my incredible certified nurse midwife and baby daddy were on the list and i liked it very quiet, but the second time was truly fun.

stacey, you should do some homework. the statistics tend to reflect that complications that arise too quickly at home to survive a transfer may not necessarily have had a different outcome in the hospital. my midwife arrived with oxygen tanks, pitocin (to stop bleeding), doppler monitor, etc. she is eminently capable and trained to detect signs of fetal distress after years as an L&D nurse. frankly, i felt far more comfortable with the idea that my body would perform as expected if left alone, comfortable, familiar and unthreatened by hospital protocol. and that if something looked awry, i'd happily head straight to the hospital for a c-section. i just didn't want to thwart my ability to birth naturally by exposing myself to the adrenaline and stress of fighting my way through policy and a surgeon's opinion on how to best shake a baby out of my body.

fave82 fave82

Ill pass. I loved my hospital birth. I won't bother getting into the safety debate. As far as the "party atmosphere" they describe above.. I would hate that lol. Good for them if that's what they wanted but the last thing I want is a house full of people after i give birth!

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