Holly Madison Doesn't Deserve Criticism for Choosing Adoption

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Holly MadisonHey, remember Holly Madison? She's the ex-Playboy model who earned a certain level of fame from being one of Hugh Hefner's seven official girlfriends in 2001 while appearing on the show The Girls Next Door? (Next door to a plastic surgery center, apparently, since her bust magically expanded from an A-cup to a D during that timeframe.) Madison went on to compete on Dancing with the Stars and starred in her own reality show, Holly's World, but she's currently making headlines for her announcement that she's planning to adopt a child.

Just a month ago, Madison told People that she decided not to renew her contract with Las Vegas's Peepshow in the hopes that she would soon be pregnant. It seems she's changed her plans for how she wants to start a family, however, and it's her reason for choosing adoption over pregnancy that's earning her some bizarre -- and in my opinion, totally unwarranted -- criticism.

Madison, who's 33 and currently dating dating event planner Pasquale Rotella, first told People in June,

I'm not pregnant right now, but if that happened tomorrow I'd be fine with it. I've wanted kids and that's something I'm definitely doing as soon as possible. It is something that the time in my life is right for.

This week she told In Touch that she's started the adoption process through the mentoring service Hold My Hand. She plans to adopt a child from either Africa or South Korea, and she says she's already planning nursery themes.

As for why she decided to pursue adoption, she says her schedule, which is apparently packed with events and theater roles, made pregnancy too difficult:

I love performing in the theater, and you can’t really do that when you’re pregnant.

That seems like a perfectly valid choice to me. I mean, even if she flat-out said she didn't want to be pregnant because she makes her money from having a smoking-hot body -- which seems to me something that's mmmmmaybe a little closer to the truth -- whose business is it other than hers? Still, some people have already raised an eyebrow at her reasoning:

It’s too bad, really, that Holly Madison doesn’t feel she can mix work and pregnancy. (…) I just don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone be so frank about the motive “too busy for pregnancy” before…and I have to wonder if she realizes just how busy she’ll be once baby is brought home?

Well, she IS currently starring in a "striptease spectacular" in Las Vegas, so I can pretty much see how mixing work and pregnancy in this instance might be a little awkward. Her final show is December 30th, so she'll presumably have some flexibility after that, and in the meantime, it sounds like she's really eager to start a family. And who knows, maybe there are other, more private health-related reasons she's not in a position to get pregnant right now.

Besides, in what sane world does a woman get criticized for choosing to adopt a child in need? I swear, it seems like some people are so obsessed with the minutiae of motherhood -- the pregnancy, the mode of childbirth, the contents of a baby's bottle -- they forget about the big picture.

I say bravo to Holly for knowing what she wants and pursuing it in her own way. Whatever path to motherhood she takes, it certainly seems like she's ready for this new stage in her life. Plus, thanks to her relationship with Hef, she surely has plenty of experience changing diapers. (HEY-oh!)

Can you identify with Holly Madison's decision?

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aReal... aRealteenMother

Well, my husband wants to adopt in the (far) future, because he wants a son and I don't want to get pregnant again. I don't see why it's bad she wants to adotp. Career wise, it's the best choice and if she can keep her career, then more money for her son/daughter. I'm sure plenty of people adopt because of reasons having to do with her career, I doubt it's a big deal. We're only hearing about it because she's famous.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

If she thinks she is too busy to get pregnant then she is in for a shock when she realizes that babies need actual attention. I'm all for adoption but if I were running an adoption agency and a woman told me she wanted to adopt because she didn't have time for pregnancy I'd direct her to the nearest animal shelter so she could adopt a cat.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

Well then, RhondaVeggie, thank goodness the people running the adoption centers are more understanding and less judgmental than you.

Mandago Mandago

I don't see where she said she was too busy. She said her life is incompatible with having another person take over her physical being for nine months. And who cares what the reason is? She's a responsible adult with the desire and means to raise a child. If she wants to help by taking in a baby with no family, that's fantastic.

linzemae linzemae

Maybe she has reproductive issues and this is her only option.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

I kind of agree with the Author. She's going to be mothering a child in need, and that child will probably have a fabulous life. Good for her! 

sssim... sssimplysssarah

That's crazy! What on earth is wrong with adoption? There's far too many unwanted children in the world; we NEED more people to adopt. Unfortunately, it's rather expensive, and this is a generalization, but the majority of people with money to spend like that want kids who have the family DNA.  The whole celebrity adoption trend bothers some people, but honestly, if they're not going to adopt those kids, who is?!


Plus, I don't think that's the real reason she's adopting...first of all, she might not be that serious with her boyfriend, so maybe he wasn't on board, or she didn't want to risk breaking up and having a child caught in the middle, and how weird would it be to stay together but be pregnant with some other guy's baby?! I wouldn't put that in print, either, if I was her...And I'm sure she knows that her whole life will be consumed by the baby once it gets here, so she's not wrong to want to work as much as possible before then. She's wanted a baby for a long time, and I thinks she'll be a good mom.

cherr... cherryohcherry

She has to maintain a certain body image and pregnancy alters what brings in the money for her. I'm pretty sure her child will be doted on. 


 

ghost... ghostbaby

I don't blame her, hell pregnancy can ruin your body ans if thats how she makes a living then she has every right to protect it. No one wants to see a woman at 7/8 months pregnant working a strip tease show. So let her adopt. I just wish people would quit running to third world countries as if there aren't kids here who need to be adopted as well.

Melissa Mattner List

Ugh, who cares her reason to adopt? I'm thinking of adoption because frankly, I don't think I want to deal with pregnancy the the physical effects of it. There are so many unwanted kids out there that deserve a good home.


 

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