Mom Begs for Epidural & Midwife Refuses to Allow It (VIDEO)

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Any mom who has a birth plan in place wants to do everything in her power to stick to it, but sometimes things don't exactly go as planned during labor & delivery -- as one mom named Emily knows all too well.

Emily shared her birth story of her second son with CafeMom Studios, and she explained how she was determined to give birth to him vaginally since she'd been put under and had a C-section with her first child. She wanted to be able to witness her precious boy coming into the world no matter what happened -- which is why she had no choice but to muster all of her courage when she begged for a second epidural, and her midwife refused.

Take a look at the video clip below to hear more of Emily's story.

OMG. I gotta give Emily tons of credit for listening to her midwife and powering through the pain in order to be able to watch her son being born -- because I can't imagine how excruciating her labor must have been. I was fortunate enough to have an epidural that was on a constant drip & never wore off -- but if I'd been in Emily's shoes? Yeah, I'm pretty sure I would've whined like a baby until the midwife gave in.

It's wonderful that she was able to find her inner strength and experience the miracle of her son's birth exactly the way she wanted to!

Are you willing to stick to your birth plan even when things get tough?

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dreamsky dreamsky

Yup. I did with all three of mine. All natural. It hurt like ****ing hell though. :(

nonmember avatar kaerae

Precisely why I'd never have a midwife. A hospital would get sued for pulling that shit!

onefo... onefootcutiepie

*shrugs*  I dunno, all of mine were without pain meds and I didn't even ask for an epidural. With the exception of my last which was an emergency c.

Stacey. Stacey.

I too begged my midwife for an epidural. Apparently, it was too late though and I had to start pushing. I felt myself tear, and it was AWFUL

Kelly... KellyBSchrute

Honestly, I don't get at all why women get so hung up on what the birth experience is like for THEM.  To tell you the truth... I think it's kind of selfish.   I just wanted mine to be safe for my son...whatever that meant.  I could care less about me having some kind of special moment when he came into the world.  His actually life is filled with the moments that matter much more than that one.

I'd do anything to have a second child (which I can't), I wouldn't care if it came out of my nose.  Seriously, what's the BFD?  I apologize, but this is one of my pet peeves.  I hear women say, "oh, I never got to have a vaginal birth!"  So what, you got the kid right?  And no one got hurt?  I'm sorry, getting the baby is the important part to me.  Get over it. 

Kelly... KellyBSchrute

Stacey... I didn't mean that towards you, that sounds awful. I just mean women who get all hung up over their birth plan not going how they envisioned...when I'd do anything to have another child no matter how it came.

Véronique Houde

@kelly, I think that most women who want to have the most natural birth possible actually DO it for the baby. I don't think it's that selfish of a decision to want to allow your body to do what it is naturally meant to do. Not having to have an epidural and pitosin, c-sections and all other interventions UNNECESSARILY is actually SAFER when the birth is low-risk and there are no complications. It increases the bonding and attachment, facilitates breastfeeding and leads to faster healing for mommy. 

Now that I've said this PLEASE don't start saying "well I NEEEDED pitosin or a c-section" blablabla because that's not what I said. Notice the capitalizations, please. I am fully aware of the importance of medical interventions when needed. It's just that doctors are known for jumping the gun to prevent getting malpracticed, when some of the stuff is unnecessary. I personally hired a doula for this reason, so that I have that person who can encourage me to stay with my birthing plan and help slow down the doctors and nurses at the university hospital that I am giving birth at (a hospital very well known for being very interventionist in philosophy). I sincerely hope that I can go through with an all natural birth too!

nonmember avatar forreal

Yeah, well, childbirth is often not what you expect, so get over it. You'll have a story to tell for the rest of your life. I had a very tiny preemie who was almost born in the ambulance but not a complaint out of me. She was healthy and that was all that mattered. Did i get my epidural? Nope, and it was what it was. Some things we can control but how you are going to have your child is not one of them.

Stacey. Stacey.

@Kelly, no offense taken, I agree with everything you said. The only thing you can count on in birth is you cant count on anything.

I had no plan at all on how I wanted my birth to go, I just wanted the baby out lol. Does that mean I didnt want an epidural? HELL NO Im not a sadist I dont enjoy pain, when they told me I couldnt I begged for IV pain killers. All that matters like you said is a happy ending, with a new baby in your arms.

kcanela kcanela

i had my son 2 months early, water broke on my bed, stayed in the hospital ,got induced, got an epidural, had my son, placenta didnt drop so i got heavy medicated,so my doctor pulled it out with her hands that took a while. so did everything go as planned, NO but were fine.

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