Rant
Kourtney Kardashian's Baby Shower Was No Place for Scott Disick
While Kourtney Kardashian was having a big time at her baby shower in Hidden Hills, California last weekend, her baby daddy, Scott Disick was nowhere to be seen. In fact, he was supposedly all the way on the other side of the country in Atlantic City whooping it up with pals working. And while I'm sure Kourt (not to mention mama Kris) was a little bit miffed that he didn't stick around for her big day, it's not a huge shock that he failed to attend. Because he really had no reason to be there in the first place.
Baby showers are for women, and women only, because it's honestly one of the last times that anything in a pregnant gal's life is ever 100 percent about her. C'mon -- you know what I'm talking about. The minute you give birth, everyone stops fussing over you, and there certainly aren't any parties held on your behalf. (Sad, but true.)
I can still remember my own baby shower like it was yesterday. My mother threw me a beautiful luncheon (complete with an open bar to keep the non-preggos happy) at a gorgeous country club. There were at least 40 to 50 women there, and absolutely no men in sight, aside from the waiters, of course. But at the very end of the shower, my husband did make a brief appearance -- you know, because someone had to carry all the gifts out to the car.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for "Jack & Jill" showers where both men and women are invited when it comes to celebrating an engagement or upcoming wedding. But that's because engagements and weddings are centered around the union between two people. I'm not discrediting the man's involvement in the birth of a baby or raising his child, but baby showers should be a time where women can get together and talk openly about impending motherhood, and bond and all that good stuff.
It's not the time to sugar coat or keep certain topics off limits because the man is present, and no one wants to scare him off about just how crazy life with a newborn can be. There will be plenty of time down the road to have get-togethers where husbands & wives can be present and celebrate together. But baby shower invites should be saved for female family members and friends.
Do you plan on having your husband at your baby shower? Why or why not?
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MrsMomtimes2
Why did she even have a shower? You don't have one for your 2nd child.
Mrscjones
Stacey.
But that's because engagements and weddings are centered around the union between two people
Is a baby not an even bigger union between 2 people? I invited all my friends to mine, and had an equal mix of men and women. The point was to have fun, and celebrate the upcoming baby, not blather on about birth and baby poop. I also fail to se how having the father of the child there makes it any less about the mom to be. I say, its a celebration invite everyone.
suziejax
nope its for ladies!
Michelephant
Wait, so men should be treated with kid gloves when he is half the reason this child exists? Maybe this is why a lot of men are uninvolved fathers, because a lot of women don't make them feel like they can be. If women want to talk about impending motherhood why not just pick up your damn phone and call your already-mom friends? A baby shower is the celebration of a new life for mom and baby but why does this new life exclude daddy? You cannot complain that you as a woman carry all the weight of the household, childcare (and sometimes work) when from the time the baby is conceived it's a big mom diva event.
EvalynCarnate
PuhLEASE...the only reason not to have a second shower is if YOU'RE the one hosting it, holding out your hand for freebes.
My mom is throwing me a shower this summer for my second and I'm thrilled...So is SHE and the rest of my friends and family.
As for my husband...he did/will make a brief appearance to, like the writer said, pack up all the stuff! :-p I'm pretty sure he'd prefer it that way. Its not really a man-vibe event.
TS2
I thought you were only ever allowed 1 shower anyways? Tacky!
amommy2jack
I think her having a second shower is extremely tacky, but I'm all for having the husband/baby daddy/so attend the shower if they want to - I think they're just as much a part of the process and should get to enjoy some of the fun.
pentopaper08
Of course she can complain about how she has all the burden,Michelephant. Her husband can't be at the baby shower (unless he is of course waiting on her) or choose the name as she stated on May 8th in another post, (hopefully he was allowed in the delivery room....)Because SHE did all the work. *rolls eyes*
Not all of us will be having a lavish baby shower with an open-bar at a country club. Many of us will just be surrounded by a few close friends and family memebers and will want our significant others by our sides because WE are creating a life TOGETHER and they should share in this event. That's what a family is about and we are grateful to have these things. So grateful we would never be petty enough to tell the father of our child "No no! It's all about me!"
MsRkg
This article is completely ridiculous. I'm sorry but was your husband not involved when you created your child? So why should he not be involved in the baby shower? It's this old fashioned traditional thinking that keeps drawing lines between men and women when it comes to parenting and making it seem like men are completely inept to be fathers.
I had my baby shower for my son at the water club, and my husband was there and his friends and coworkers and family members came, as did all of mine, because he was excited about the upcoming birth of his son and wanted to share that moment with everyone. A baby shower is not all about the mother, its about the baby coming into this world, and both mom and dad should be able to share that experience (i.e. baby shower ) if they want. If dad chooses not to be there on his own free will, that's fine and dandy, but he shouldn't be excluded under the premise that its a women only event.
As for the second baby shower for a second baby, it's not tacky. She's having her first daughter, and if her family and friends want to celebrate that and have a party for her, power to them. And if they want to do it for the third and fourth as well,kudos as well. They can celebrate each new life however they want , however many times they want. If you don't like the idea of a second shower for a couple then its as simple as not going.