kourtney kardashianWhile Kourtney Kardashian was having a big time at her baby shower in Hidden Hills, California last weekend, her baby daddy, Scott Disick was nowhere to be seen. In fact, he was supposedly all the way on the other side of the country in Atlantic City whooping it up with pals working. And while I'm sure Kourt (not to mention mama Kris) was a little bit miffed that he didn't stick around for her big day, it's not a huge shock that he failed to attend. Because he really had no reason to be there in the first place.

Baby showers are for women, and women only, because it's honestly one of the last times that anything in a pregnant gal's life is ever 100 percent about her. C'mon -- you know what I'm talking about. The minute you give birth, everyone stops fussing over you, and there certainly aren't any parties held on your behalf. (Sad, but true.)

I can still remember my own baby shower like it was yesterday. My mother threw me a beautiful luncheon (complete with an open bar to keep the non-preggos happy) at a gorgeous country club. There were at least 40 to 50 women there, and absolutely no men in sight, aside from the waiters, of course. But at the very end of the shower, my husband did make a brief appearance -- you know, because someone had to carry all the gifts out to the car.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for "Jack & Jill" showers where both men and women are invited when it comes to celebrating an engagement or upcoming wedding. But that's because engagements and weddings are centered around the union between two people. I'm not discrediting the man's involvement in the birth of a baby or raising his child, but baby showers should be a time where women can get together and talk openly about impending motherhood, and bond and all that good stuff.

It's not the time to sugar coat or keep certain topics off limits because the man is present, and no one wants to scare him off about just how crazy life with a newborn can be. There will be plenty of time down the road to have get-togethers where husbands & wives can be present and celebrate together. But baby shower invites should be saved for female family members and friends.

Do you plan on having your husband at your baby shower? Why or why not?

 

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