Mom Is Expecting 2 Sets of Twins After a Decade of Infertility

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baby bumpsThey say, "when it rains, it pours," and one couple in Seattle knows this all to well (and then some). Misty & Brian Baker tried to get pregnant with a child for 10 years with no success, and finally enlisted the help of a good friend to act as a surrogate when they couldn't conceive on their own. Even though they were totally broke from their previous failed attempts at IVF, they figured that using a surrogate was their last shot at having a family, so they went for it.

But when doctors suggested that Misty go through IVF just one more time, alongside her surrogate, she obliged, thinking there was no chance at all she'd wind up conceiving. And as we all know, assuming that you won't get a certain outcome is a surefire way to make sure it happens. Not only did the surrogate wind up pregnant with twins -- Misty did too!

That's right -- the couple is now expecting four babies, and while these little ones are no doubt miracles, I can't help but think that the Bakers are in a bit over their heads.

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Considering the financial strain they were under, what on earth would make them take the chance of getting pregnant with multiple kids?! I mean, one baby is expensive enough, but trying to afford four all at once? That's the kind of thing you need to sit down and write out a good financial plan for -- preferably before the babies are actually conceived.

When I became pregnant with my son, I wound up putting a good majority of my paycheck into savings for months before he arrived so we'd have a nice cushion for any additional expenses we hadn't anticipated would arise. And even though there was a decent chunk of money in that account, it still seemed like we had unexpected costs popping up constantly after we brought him home. I guess you really can't predict how much life with a newborn costs until you actually have one.

Instead of throwing caution to the wind and undergoing IVF at the same time as their surrogate, Misty & Brian should've taken a good look at the big picture and thought about what they'd do in the event they wound up expecting multiple babies. I don't want to go so far as to call them irresponsible during this happy time, but they really should've put a little more thought into the whole process. Hopefully they've at least put some sort of a plan in place to help ease their financial struggles after these little ones arrive and have learned to always expect the unexpected.

Did you make sure your finances were in order before deciding to start a family?

 

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twins & multiples, trying to conceive

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Histo... HistoryMamaX3

What-if, what-if, what-if... That's a horrible game to play. I am certain, just like many other happy parents in this world, they will make it happen. After years and years of pain and hardship they are about to become parents x4! Good for them. :-)

Sierr... SierraLynn

Wow, stop being a spoil sport. They are about to parents after a long battle with not be able to. Be happy for them! It's a wonderful miracle! And just like anyone who ends uo conceiving multiplies, I'm sure they will adapt and overcome. Anytime with ivf there is a chance for multiples. Hell, even in normal life, there is a chance. For you to sit there and scold them for ending up with 4 beautiful babies instead of just one is pretty low of you.

MomoJL MomoJL

Author, did you struggle with infertility for 10 years? No? Then you have NO IDEA.  I say congrats to them, and as someone who has been trying to get pregnant for 11 years, I'd be thrilled to be in their situation.  Money does not create a happy, loving home.    

Bonnie Bruns Williams

Wow, what a downer of an article! I say congrats to them and I know they will figure out the money issue as they go.  If you nickel and dime every last expense related to having children, no one would feel prepared! True, they cost a lot of money over 18 years, but thankfully that money is spread over those 18 years; not all "due at delivery!!"  This is a wonderful blessing for them!

JessL... JessLogansMommy

10 years is a long time to wait for such a blessing and now they'll be rewarded with 4 times the love.  If we all waited until we were financially secure a lot of us would miss out.  

Georgia Sperry

If I would have waited to be "finacially sound" before I had my son's they wouldn't exist...there is never enough planning done...you just muddle through and smile at God's blessings :)

Boobo... Boobookittt74

First of all to the actual question ., no I don't think you have to be completely financially ready for a baby because if that were the case there would be very few babies around. Unless ur like homeless on the street then it can work. I have 3 kids and from the first one I lived paycheck to paycheck and as time goes on u adjust. I still live that way but adjusted to what I need now so while I've stopped spending in one place like let's say manicures pedicures and so on that I might spend on while I was single has now converted to things for my kids and hey I'm definately struggling at times and other times doing great but my kids have everything they ever need they live in a nice house with a backyard and swing set , alot of nice clothes, food, and anything else they ever need. You just adjust your money to where it's needed. Now secondly I realize what the author is saying with 4 babies that's crazy stressful and expensive but 10 years is so long to try for a family and to some people that all they want in their life so I totally understand and say great for them family is the most stressful yet rewarding thing and that's what to keep in mind when times get tough

nonmember avatar Michelle

OMG, if you are that terrified of how much children will cost then maybe you shouldn't HAVE them! Kids come with all kinds of unexpected expenses, but such is life! I am thrilled to pieces for this couple...congrats to them!

CPN322 CPN322

So happy for them!!! Praying they have a great support system, which it seems they do!!

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