It's just been four short months since Beyonce gave birth to little Blue Ivy but people are already asking her: Are you gonna have another? I mean, there she is at the Met Gala in some ka-razy Givenchy Haute Couture gown, all see-through black lace and purple feathers. And people are asking her that?
ANOTHER ONE? Girl just gave birth five minutes ago! Will you let her catch her breath?
That was probably my number-one least favorite thing people said when I first had a baby. Are you having another one? More? When are you popping out another? I know you just spent nine months pregnant and then 3,948,298 hours in labor, but you can't wait to do it all again, right?
Okay, fine, since someone asked. Beyonce says yes, she wants more babies. "I definitely want more." But since that first question wasn't rude enough she was asked how many. (REALLY?!?) "I don't know how many. God knows I don't know yet," Bey replied, probably with exasperation.
How many more. How many more are YOU having? That's what Beyonce should have said.
I just think it's too soon. That first year? Let the new parents recover and get their footing first. Not to mention, as my husband always put it, "Isn't this one enough for you? Because this baby is enough for me!" That first year with your first baby is so special -- and when people ask you within months when you're having another, it just feels like that major accomplishment of bringing a new human being into the world is somehow inadequate unless you repeat it a few times. And maybe, just maybe, one is actually enough.
Did people ask you that question right after you had your first baby?
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I get that question all the time. I tell them I have to be mentally prepared for the next one so in 3yrs once my birth control is removed I'll wait till the time is right. Then the response is O_o you're gonna wait 4yrs. Yes damnit it's my uterus and I want it empty so I can enjoy a few yrs with my ginger midget before I stress myself out with two angels in diapers! all in all they mean well when the ask that question its super annoying though.
What I hated the most was the guilt trip people would try to lay on you: "Well, little so and so NEEDS a little brother or sister to PLAY with!! They'll get SO lonely by themselves!"....... LONELY?? I highly doubt between mother, father, and 3 grandma's that any singular child would get lonely.
I waited 6 years to get pregnant again and I'm thrilled with the decision. Its no one elses business!
I hate when people ask any personal question. Unless it's what are you having and how far along are you or how old the baby is, I don't answer.
But with my first LOTS of people, esp. family asked that question. I answered with "are you going to support us?" That quickly ended the "NEED" conversation of her having a brother or sister. When anyone said she "NEEDS" to have a sibling, I responded with I "NEED" to have a life built up to support another child, unless of course they were going to support me in every way. Yea it was a little bitter and rude but I think it's rude to tell someone when they need to have another kid just to support your theory in sibling hood.
My daughter is now 6 and my son is almost 8weeks old. She also has an older step sister who's 7. So I guess we lucked out. I would not, COULD NOT, have been able to handle a child in diapers and another one breast feeding. KUDOS to those who do, but having two small babies was just not for me. Her dad and I didn't marry anyway although we were engaged for a few years. I'm glad I waited, she loves her brother so much and is so proud to be a big sister. Plus, I love them for so many different reasons, with her, we can talk, read & do things I can't do with him & vise versa. They have their own mommy time. I love that.
People always asked me if I wanted another one and I would have loved to have but it just wasn't in the plans for me to have but 1 little blessing.
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Yes! Everyone would ask me , refusing to believe that we were good with just one.
I don't think my son and I had been home for more than 3 hours after we first left the hospital, before my MIL was like "so you're going to get started on number 2 in about 2 months right?", and she was completely dead serious. I almost punched her in the face, thank god my hubby was there and got her away from me.
My son is now soon to be 6 and we are completely content with him and have no desire anytime soon to add another kid to the mix. My MIL cannot stand this and gives me hell everytime I see her (which is thankfully not often).
I say ,if you're the person who gets to watch the baby for a few hours are return it at the end of the day, and you're not the one who has to carry the baby and be repsonsible for it 24/7, then don't worry about when I'm having another one.