Mom Delivers 'Miracle' Baby After 22 Years of Infertility

baby toesAt 43 years of age, Paula Lackie thought she was starting menopause when she missed her period. After 22 years of infertility she knew the odds were almost nil that it could mean she was pregnant, but she still held out a small bit of hope somehow after all of the heartache. Seven pregnancy tests later, much to her great surprise, she discovered she was indeed pregnant; and last month she delivered her perfectly healthy baby girl, Isla.

Lackie told the Daily Mail they consider her their "little miracle," and that while they adopted two children along the way, they never stopped trying for a biological child as well. 'Every time I look at this beautiful miracle baby in my arms I have to pinch myself to make sure I’m not dreaming."

It's an amazing story, and one that may offer to hope to those struggling with infertility. However, as someone who struggled with it for years, it's also one of those stories that can crush you.

It took more than two years of trying and emotional hell before we conceived my son. After his birth we tried and tried and tried for years to no avail. Eventually I had to give up hope because that hope was all consuming for me. I didn't want to buy new jeans, because what if the next month was it. I didn't want to plan a vacation, because a tropical vacation just wouldn't be the same without mojitos. Even buying a new pair of shoes was murky, because of the possibility my feet might grow during pregnancy. Everything in my mind was dependent that little what if.

So I gave up, completely ... and that's when we conceived my daughter. She and my son are five and half years apart in age, and while I feel like she's my own miracle baby, I always cringe a little bit when I tell my story to other women facing infertility. On one hand I want them to know there is hope, but on the other, I know for some there isn't, and how hard it is to cling to that hope. I also know how infuriating it can be to hear those it-happens-when-you-least-expect-it stories when you can't do anything to quell your expectations.

Sometimes giving up that hope is the best thing you can do, and I don't mean that in a "relax and it will happen" way, because I think that was the most infuriating advice I ever heard. But instead so that you can move on with your life and live it instead of always waiting, always wondering. So while I offer Lackie and her family a huge congratulations on what she calls her "fairytale ending," I also remember those who may never receive the same.

If you're going through infertility, do stories like this inspire you? Do you find it difficult or helpful to cling to hope?

 

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nonmember avatar Rachel

My husband and I are infertile. Stories like this give me a huge amount of hope. I know that all the odds are against us, but God can still work miracles.

Hope is something that is very hard to hold on to when you've experienced month after month of bitter disappointment. Infertility has completely shaken me to the core of my being. I have (and still do) questioned my faith, if I have a purpose in life, and if I have the strength to endure this. But I do endure it, month after month, because when I am holding the child that already lives in my heart in my arms it will have all been worth it.

lucky... luckydog1029

When I was going through fertility treatments I loved to hear success stories like this, but at the same time I was annoyed when people would say "relax, it'll happen when you least expect it" or "At what point will you decide your life is full enough and start focusing on travel and other fun things and give up on the baby idea?" (someone really asked me that!)


After 11 months of various drugs and IUIs, our RE told us our best bet was IVF and because of my age (41) and limited financial resources, which meant we could only afford one shot at it, she reccommended IVF with donor eggs. We took that next month off from treatments to research clinics with good donor programs, picked one we liked and were ready to move forward. The day after we made that decision I found out I was pregnant! 


So we're one of those stories about success when not stressing over it. I'm now 6 months pregnant with our little miracle. I am SO concious of not being dismissive about other's fertility struggles by telling them "relax, it'll happen" but I hope our story can be a source of hope.

corri... corrinacs

I dealt with infertiliy through both of my babies.  3 years for Caden and 2 years for Leo.  At first, these stories do provide hope....but after a while, they almost have a bite on the tail end.  You start to feel that you are being left behind......that there's only so much luck in the world and that luck is running out leaving you stranded.....that's how I felt.


And I definitely understand not wanting to buy new clothes, or plan a vacation. I didn't want to do most anything that was for me....but I coudln't buy anything for the "baby" that was supposed to be there either.  Especially after dealing with several losses along the way.  We haven't been on vacation in 3 years between me thinking I would be pregnant and then when I finally did get pregnant.


We saved some things from our first child, and I had a difficult time looking at those items when we moved.  I had ot have my DH move that closet....it was that difficult to look at :/.


Although, I must say that both times we did get pregnant when we least expected it.  Caden was concieved after we had given up and got back together after being separated.  Leo was concieved on a cycle that was determined to be a bust according to my RE.  


But I am also glad we did it.  Infertilty has made me such a different person.  And coming out of the trenches from the other side has made me a stronger person.

Mrs.P... Mrs.Pool2Be

I didn't deal with infertility but I love reading stories like this and seeing how many happy women out there get to see their dream of being a Mommy.

aneela aneela

power to those women who go through and get their miracles...*bows down*

Chari... Charizma77

I never dealt with infertility but still find her story inspiring.

MamaB... MamaBear2cubs

I don't see this story as anything but a miracle.

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