'What to Expect When You're Expecting' Haters Are Way Too Critical

what to expect when you're expectingAny time one of my friends gets pregnant with her first baby, I have plenty of advice to give her (whether she likes it or not), but one of the first things I tell her is to throw away any baby books or manuals she's been given and just do what feels right for her during and after her pregnancy. Well, every single book except for What to Expect When You're Expecting. Because it's really the only book any pregnant gal needs -- and it definitely served as my lifeline while I was expecting my son.

I know, I know -- there are plenty of you who aren't exactly thrilled with this book, though I'm not really sure why. (Yes, haters, I'm talking to YOU.) What's so evil about a book that gives you solid information about things that happen to your body during pregnancy without telling you exactly what & what not to do?

Out of all of the magical "do this but definitely don't do that" piece of junk books I went out and bought when I got pregnant with my son -- this is the only one that made sense. It's the only one that gave me a good overview of the changes that were happening to me emotionally and physically without making me feel like some sort of freak or like I was setting myself up for failure as a mother.

Ok, ok, so maybe it didn't exactly have all the answers to some of the more embarrassing questions I had like whether or not I would poop on the delivery table or whether my husband would ever want to have sex with me again after seeing a human head come out of my nether regions. (FYI -- Jenny McCarthy's Belly Laughs took care of all that. SUCH a great read.)

But all in all, I really felt like What to Expect When You're Expecting really gave me a good foundation for navigating my pregnancy, and being somewhat prepared when I brought my newborn son home from the hospital. (Even though about two days into the whole mom thing, I realized I had no clue.)

Of course, women who are pregnant right now are super lucky, because the book has been made into a movie, which I'm assuming is a lot more entertaining. I would've much rather gotten pregnancy tips from Jennifer Lopez & Cameron Diaz while sitting and chowing down on a bucket of popcorn than sitting at home reading a paperback book. Wouldn't you?

Do you have a copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting? Have you found it to be helpful during your pregnancy?


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nonmember avatar Nica

I hate it because it's an alarmist piece of crap which uses scare tactics and misinformation to make women think that unless they birth in a hospital with a high-level NICU, their baby is going to DIE!

Rubbish, rubbish, rubbish...

EvaSa... EvaSamuel

What To Expect is a terrible book.

Sierr... SierraLynn

I read it during my first pregnancy. I don't think it had any information that really pretained to me. I read it because I had no idea what to expect. Lol. But in the end it didn't really help me much.

Jscot... Jscott1216

I actually read the book and found it extremely helpful and so did my sister and many of my friends. It's not for everyone and that's fine. But why people Find it absolutely necessary to just be ignorant asses in their description of their distaste for the book is beyond me.

mem82 mem82

I've read that book with every pregnancy and I've never found wrong information or a one sided view. It explains both the natural and more medical ways of doing pregnancies. It's funny and enjoyable to read. Haters are going to hate.

PonyC... PonyChaser

My experience was that it caused me to be more scared than I normally would have been. I had twinges here and there, I was the first of my girlfriends to be pregnant, have no sisters, and my mom couldn't remember the details of any of her pregnancies (I'm the youngest, and was pregnant when I was in my 30's). So I turned to that book when my docs weren't available. Many of the things I was feeling turned out to be normal, but looking them up in the book, I consistently found worse-case scenarios. I was, for the first couple of months, convinced that I was going to miscarry any minute. I put it away, trusted my body and my doctor, and was much happier.

My cousin, however, had a FAR different experience. She had multiple difficult pregnancies, all ended, sadly, in miscarriages. The book was invaluable for her.

Sorry, not sure if this comment is helpful. I don't hate the book, but I wouldn't recommend it, either.

nonmember avatar Carly

i thought the book had useful info but a bit on the doomsayer side, i regret reading everything i could in my pregnancy because it stressed me out. i drank coffee, ate deli meat, and even had tuna a few times! and my daughter is perfect (whose isnt?!?!) all i have to say is, when in doubt, talk to your doctor! i wouldve had Zoes room painted looong beforehand if i had asked my doctor first lol

nonmember avatar Momof8

Sorry, not a fan... & I agree with Nica... If you want a realistic view on pregnancy, read The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy...

nonmember avatar Momof8

Sorry, not a fan... & I agree with Nica... If you want a realistic view on pregnancy, read The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy...

MsRkg MsRkg

I hated it. My MIL gave it to me along with a plethora of other books and essentially told me that I should quit my job and just lay in bed all day every day till my son was born and eat only the things she sent or made for me. Needless to say I didn't do that and I turned to my own mother and grandmother , who told me don't worry with the books. Listen to your body and instincts, do and eat what you want, and you'll be ok. Women have been having babies for hundreds of years before without books. I had a much happier and less stressful pregnancy doing what my mother told me and not worrying over the stuff in those books.

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