Plenty of couples who can't conceive naturally seek the help of IVF in order to fulfill their dreams of having children, but one gay couple in London had anything but a smooth experience after a huge mix-up at the largest sperm bank in Britain.
They purposely went back to the same facility when they were ready for their second child, because they wanted to use the same sperm donor they had used with their first baby so their kids would be biological siblings. However, they were ultimately given sperm from the wrong donor, which resulted in their second child being born a different race from the rest of the family. And perhaps the worst part of this story is that they didn't realize the mistake until after the baby was born.
OMG. Can you even begin to imagine the feelings of sheer shock and confusion this poor couple had after their newborn arrived? They must have thought they were in the middle of a bad dream they'd eventually wake up from.
I can remember being so attached to my son while I was pregnant with him. For nine months, I dreamed of what he would look like, and whether he would more closely resemble me or my husband. And while you can never totally predict how your child's appearance, you do have basic physical characteristics to go on. And I'm sure this couple expected their second child to look a lot like their first -- until the baby was born.
While I'm sure they love their new baby very much, they still have to feel like they were cheated out of the child they'd dreamed of. And unfortunately, it's not like the mix-up is one that is easy to ignore. Every time they look at the differences between their two kids, they'll be reminded of the baby they lost -- the one that they believed to be expecting all along, but never really had in the first place. Something tells me this isn't one of those scenarios you can just magically "get over."
But hopefully they'll eventually find peace and realize that even though things don't always work out the way we expect, they happen the way they're supposed to. And their baby was obviously meant to be, regardless of race.
Do you have children who are of different races, or do you know anyone who does?
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I don't like this story at all. They didn't lose a baby! And so what that one is a different race, it's 2012. People need to learn to get over stuff.
This couple doesn't know what devastation is - My first grandchild, a beuatiful boy was diagnosed at one month with a extremely rare brain tumor. He dies ten months later. Maybe I should have taken photos of the funeral to send to people like this that think the worst thing that can happen is thier child doesn't look the way they wanted and they didn't get to pick out the genetics they wanted for him.
From original post... "While I'm sure they love their new baby very much, they still have to feel like they were cheated out of the child they'd dreamed of. And unfortunately, it's not like the mix-up is one that is easy to ignore. Every time they look at the differences between their two kids, they'll be reminded of the baby they lost -- the one that they believed to be expecting all along, but never really had in the first place. Something tells me this isn't one of those scenarios you can just magically "get over."
I was in an abusive marriage. We had a little girl and I was pregnant with our second child. At about five months pregnant, with my husbands help, I lost my son. 2 years later I got pregnant again and had a little girl. I ended up with 2 girls instead of one of each. My youngest daughter is 22 now and I have never looked at her and thought of him. I have missed him every day just like I miss my oldest daughter, but no child is replaceable, each and every one of them is unique and needs love just like everyone else. I hope I said this right, that upset me and I felt the need to respond to it.
if the parents are so disappointed, shocked and choosy, give the baby to someone who wants it!
What a warm welcome that baby is receiving into the world.
Thanks for giving me a reason to never read another article from the Mommyologist!
A child is a child and apparently still biologically the mother's baby just a different daddy, oops! Well big ooops but to portray this scenario the way the
author has is pretty freaking terrible!!
So much for a color blind world:(
I know plenty of parents with children of a different race than they, myself included, and pretty sure they love them as much as parents with children of their own race!
Yes it's a bit of a story and definitely not expected but I'm sorry, really terrible writing, morbid much?
I feel bad for the author for seeing this situation so tragic. Many more things would warrant that reaction. A healthy beautiful baby isn't somethig I can really see a down side to, peace:)