Couple Shocked After Baby Is Born a Different Race

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pregnantPlenty of couples who can't conceive naturally seek the help of IVF in order to fulfill their dreams of having children, but one gay couple in London had anything but a smooth experience after a huge mix-up at the largest sperm bank in Britain.

They purposely went back to the same facility when they were ready for their second child, because they wanted to use the same sperm donor they had used with their first baby so their kids would be biological siblings. However, they were ultimately given sperm from the wrong donor, which resulted in their second child being born a different race from the rest of the family. And perhaps the worst part of this story is that they didn't realize the mistake until after the baby was born.

OMG. Can you even begin to imagine the feelings of sheer shock and confusion this poor couple had after their newborn arrived? They must have thought they were in the middle of a bad dream they'd eventually wake up from.

I can remember being so attached to my son while I was pregnant with him. For nine months, I dreamed of what he would look like, and whether he would more closely resemble me or my husband. And while you can never totally predict how your child's appearance, you do have basic physical characteristics to go on. And I'm sure this couple expected their second child to look a lot like their first -- until the baby was born.

While I'm sure they love their new baby very much, they still have to feel like they were cheated out of the child they'd dreamed of. And unfortunately, it's not like the mix-up is one that is easy to ignore. Every time they look at the differences between their two kids, they'll be reminded of the baby they lost -- the one that they believed to be expecting all along, but never really had in the first place. Something tells me this isn't one of those scenarios you can just magically "get over."

But hopefully they'll eventually find peace and realize that even though things don't always work out the way we expect, they happen the way they're supposed to. And their baby was obviously meant to be, regardless of race.

Do you have children who are of different races, or do you know anyone who does?

 

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nonmember avatar Kimi

What?? A baby is a baby. I understand they didn't get what they wanted, but they got a healthy baby, right? How is that a nightmare for a couple who biologically shouldn't be able to have children together at all? A baby is a blessing no matter what he/she looks like.

Em Chappell-Root

Perhaps this story should read Lesbian, instead of Gay, because my first thought was, "Why is a gay couple going to a sperm bank, did they not want to use either fathers genetic material?"


 

Kritika Kritika

This is what happens when people play God. I have nothing against IVF, I may end needing it in the future, but accidents and mixups happen. We are human. I hope they're able to accept the child and move on.

Aeris... AerisKate

I can't get over the comment made by the other family that dealt with this in 2002:  "All we wanted was a family, but we have a nightmare that will last forever."  Wow.  I feel sorry for the child that grows up to read what his mommy said about him.  I understand being upset over your children not being not being genetically linked through the same sperm donor, but after that, the child is still your child.  You still carried the child for 9 months.  This child is still a miracle of life.  

Mrscj... Mrscjones

Really it is a get over it moment. They went through ivf mistakes are likely to happen. I have nothing against ivf but you didn't sleep with the person you took a chance so get over it.

Kritika Kritika

I can't get over the comment made by the other family that dealt with this in 2002:  "All we wanted was a family, but we have a nightmare that will last forever."  Wow.  I feel sorry for the child that grows up to read what his mommy said about him.


My thoughts exactly! However when they're able to buy him a nice car for his sweet 16 and college tuition and nice clothes he'll understand the dramatics which were required for the lawsuit payout.....

coupo... coupon_ash_back

If they need IVF, should they really be that picky anyway? a kid is a kid.

OoOJa... OoOJanisOoO

"And perhaps the worst part of this story is that they didn't realize the mistake until after the baby was born." Why is that the worst part? How would knowing before the baby was born helped?

tiny_... tiny_mama

beggers can't be choosers? "OMG MY BABY WAS BORN WITH BROWN EYES INSTEAD OF BLUE LIKE I ALWAYS DREAMED!!!! OUR DREAMS ARE CRUSHED FOREVEEEEEEERRRRRRRR!!!".. So the baby's skintone is different from yours.. Does it still have ten tiny fingers and toes? Is it still completely dependant on it's mother/s for love and support and nurturing... does it bleed red... then stfu already. geez!

jrphelps jrphelps

When I was in labor, my husband & I were joking around & his friend sent him a text saying, "As long as your baby doesn't come out white with red hair, you will be fine."  Because his friend is white with red hair.  The nurse got all serious & said, "Well you need to know that biracial babies can come out very light."  Little did we know how much truth would be in my husband's friend's joke.  Almost 11 months later & my son is STILL white with red curly hair & looks JUST like a white version of my husband!!

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