Mother's Day Gifts for Pregnant Women Are Kind of Ridiculous

Rant 78

mothers day giftI'm excited for Mother's Day this year, because for the first time ever, I'll be a mom. Granted, I'll be a brand-new mom (my due date is tomorrow), but a mom nonetheless. I look forward to a relaxed day, where I'm treated to something special. Maybe a bouquet of flowers from my husband and, of course, a little trinket or card from my daughter.

I imagine that the feeling I'll get from opening something from my child -- something that's addressed to "Mom" -- will be like nothing I've ever experienced. Save for a few joke cards "from my dog," I've never been referred to as "Mom" -- because I've never been a mom! This Mother's Day, I'll feel like I'm part of this exclusive club who gets their very own exclusive day, and it will totally have been worth the wait.

However, if I were still pregnant come Mother's Day, I wouldn't expect jack from anyone. Because, technically, pregnant women aren't moms yet, so they kinda don't deserve a Mother's Day gift.

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Being pregnant is hard work. I know. Believe me, at 40 weeks, I know. But I think that giving a Mother's Day gift to a pregnant woman takes the fun out of future Mother's Days when they're actual mothers. It's jumping the gun a little bit. I mean, a cute card from your husband is one thing, but a full-blown gift is pretty unnecessary. I sort of liken it to throwing your child a semi-elaborate "Half Birthday Party" when he or she turns 6 months old (yep, people do that). It's too much, too soon. And it makes the big birthday party -- the 1 year birthday party -- all that much less special.

If you're toward the end of your pregnancy during Mother's Day, I know, it's kind of a bummer if you "can't" celebrate it. But just think about next year. You'll have a 1-year-old giving you a card -- and he or she will probably even be able to say "Mom" to boot. Isn't that worth the wait?

Do you think pregnant women should get Mother's Day gifts?

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cassi... cassie_kellison

I don't really have an opinion about it either way I guess. when I was pregnant with my first child, my husband gave me a mothers day gift, I was only 4 months along. I didn't ask for it or expect it, so the surprise of getting a nice gift was really sweet.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

Do not agree. You're pregnant, you're already putting in the hours, nurturing your body/baby and getting things ready for the new arrival. Your mom-ness is already kicking in so why not celebrate? It might be a little overly dramatic for a pregnant woman to demand a gift on mother's day, but the husband/babydaddy/older children should definitely give you a little something for your efforts thus far. 

nonmember avatar kaerae

Wow, writer's block? If this is all you have left to bitch about, you must live in a pretty, little imaginary world! Pregnancy is an exciting time, and it's a sweet gesture. Get a life!

KWnav... KWnavywife

I completely disagree.  You are mothering and nurturing that child while you are pregnant. When i was pregnant with our first, my husband bought me a mother's day present. I wasn't expecting it, but did it for me because he appreciated what I was already doing for our little girl. 

Quite honestly, you just sound hormonal and bitter. 

nonmember avatar alicia

For Mother's Day when I was pregnant with my son, I was not expecting gifts, so I was pleasantly surprised when 4 of my best friends got together and sent me flowers. That was the sweetest thing ever. I also got gifts from my mom (mostly for the baby, which she probably would have gotten any way). From my inlaws, I got a case of disposable diapers, which was hilarious because we were planning to exclusively use cloth. Guess they didn't get the memo

nonmember avatar Crystalmp

I think its nice to get a mothers day present if you're pregnant. You are already putting in the work of being a mom and it's nice to be recognized for that effort. It would be ridiculous to demand one tho, the thought is nice but it's not needed. But I'm a mother of two and still have yet to get a mothers day gift so maybe I'm bitter too.....

nonmember avatar Maria

I agree with the poster. I will be 8 months pregnant on this mother’s day and I do not expect / want a mother’s day gift. I really don't think it's appropriate for a pregnant woman....

MacNcaM MacNcaM

"Because, technically, pregnant women aren't moms yet, so they kinda don't deserve a Mother's Day gift."

Well technically, there is a baby in my belly. I consider myself a mother.

Accor... AccordingToC78

I consider myself to be a mom! I'll be pregnant on Mother's Day and while I don't expect a ton of pampering and gifts, I would like to be acknowledged in some way. Cards that say "Happy Mother's Day Mom-to-be" exist for that purpose!

the4m... the4mutts

It may not be "mothers day" for YOU if you haven't given birth yet, but for most people, myself included, we don't view giving birth as some magical experience that immediately makes you a mother.

Pregnancy makes you a mother in MANY peoples eyes. You're abstaining *hopefully* from drugs, drinking excessively, eating whatever you want. You're taking care of yourself, and therefore your baby.

You've prbably already gotten a crib, clothing, diapers, all the baby esentials. How is that NOT mothering?

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