5 Totally Unfair Pregnancy Myths About Baby Girls

pregnant womenI've always wanted a baby girl. I'd love to have one of each, but long before I got pregnant, I'd dreamed of a daughter. When I was four months along, I found out I was expecting that little girl of my dreams. (Actually, when I was four months along, the first results were inconclusive -- the doctor said, "It's a boy!" and then took it back and said that was probably the umbilical cord she was seeing, not the other thing.)

Anyway, even before the happy news came, people reveled in regaling me with nightmarish "it's a girl" myths. I'd call them old wives' tales, but that's just as sexist as what I heard about the horrors of being pregnant with a daughter. What amazes me is that they're still touted as truths, mainly by women. Is feminism dead? When it comes to unborn girl babies, yes. Yes, it is. Sorry, Gloria Steinem.

None of these totally unfair pregnancy myths about girls came true for me. So I thought I'd list some just for the pleasure of squarely debunking them.

You'll have much worse morning sickness with girls. Ridiculous? OMG, beyond. For one thing, I had only mild queasiness for a few weeks in the first trimester. And then at my doctor's suggestion, I stopped taking those horrible horse-pill prenatal vitamins packed with enough fish oil and iron to, well, feed a horse. I switched to an anti-nausea supplement, and magically, the seasick feeling disappeared. Also, I've known plenty of women who have had terrible morning sickness with boys. Bottom line: The sex of your baby doesn't affect whether your stomach will be doing flip flops. Your prenatal vitamin, on the other hand, might.

Girls make you gain more weight. This has no merit whatsoever. I've known women who put on 80 pounds when they were pregnant with boys and women who gained a measly 18 or 20 with girls. Me, I was on the low end of the 25-to-40 average. Just guessing, but I'll bet if I have a boy next, I'll put on the same amount as with my girl. Female babies are not in there plotting to make their mommies fat, I can assure you.

You'll be more tired with a girl. If by more tired, they mean more alert, then this one totally came true for me. I had so much energy during my pregnancy, I can't even tell you. I was going to the gym, doing prenatal yoga, snorkeling on the Great Barrier Reef in Australia, hanging out at the top of the Empire State Building, planning -- and then attending -- my own wedding, working like a madwoman, and generally buzzing about like nothing was different. Toward the end, I did get winded when I'd go up flights of stairs. But other than that, I was my same old energetic self for most of the nine months. 

You'll gain weight all over, not just in the stomach. This one is so widely believed that I had complete strangers stopping me on the street and guessing that I was carrying a boy because I was all stomach during my pregnancy. So I grew to relish telling them they were DEAD WRONG, and inwardly squealed with delight at their surprised faces. I'm only going to say this once. Every pregnancy is different. How you carry the baby has nothing to do with whether it's a girl or a boy. Trust me. 

Girls take away their mothers' looks. This has to be the worst, most sexist one of all, which is why I saved it for last. Who thinks of these things? If there were even an ounce of truth to this one, then all the moms of little girls would be going around looking like haggard shells of their former selves while all the moms of little boys would be skipping merrily along looking ravishing and perky. What this one is saying is, if you have a daughter, you must now be ugly. Thanks, myth-makers. You are really too kind. 

What ridiculous pregnancy myths did you hear about baby girls and boys?

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miche... micheledo

I was the MOST tired with my daughter.  TOTALLY exhausted.  I had a 2 and 1 year old when I was pregnant with her.  I could not keep my eyes open.  If I was on the floor playing with the boys (them climbling on me, etc) I would wake up an hour or two later.  One time I found black sharpie ALL OVER the walls, doors, furniture, dolls, and blankets upstairs.  We had JUST painted because we were selling the house!! 

Actually the exhaustion was my first clue that I was pregnant.  Started the first week or two.  I thought I was getting sick, but several days in a row of falling exhausted into bed at 7 a.m. made me take a pregnancy test! :D

People told me that having a 1 and 2 year old was why I was so tired.  Um NO!  My next child was born about a year later and I then had a 3, 2, and 1 year old.  I had tons of energy while pregnant with HIM!

craft... craftycatVT

I only puked twice when I was pregnant with my daughter. I finally realized both times were after I had taken a zinc pill and was fine once I stopped taking them. My daughter is so beautiful that I actually take better care of my looks now just so people won't say, "how did that homely mother have such a pretty girl"?

Mommy... MommyMeggyG

girls taking away from their mother's looks actually has some truth to it. My SO can tell if someone is having a boy or girl by this. And he is right every time. It is freaky actually. He can also tell if someone is pregnant even before they suspect they may be!

LoveM... LoveMyViolet

I used to joke that I was a narcoleptic while I was pregnant with my daughter and I also had the worst skin of my life while I was prergnant with her. So, some of these held some truth with me.

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

The whole girls take the beauty one was true for both my girls..... I had horrid skin both times my hair was an uncooperative mess (still is). And I gained weight all over lol...every woman with child is as different as every pregnancy.

jessi... jessicasmom1

I only had 1 child and it is a girl , never sick , did not gain alot of weight ... 

Melis... Melissa042807

Oh gosh, I've heard everything. Both my pregnancies so far have been boys and have been so different! With #1 I got nausea, but it was fairly mild and only lasted a couple of weeks. With #2, I was so sick I was practically incapacitated and was burning up the phone lines to my OB's office begging for meds! I had to be on Zofran for most of the 1st trimester so I could function. 

Every pregnancy is different and it really has nothing to do with the sex of the baby. 

nonmember avatar Billiethemom

I'm 20 weeks pregnant with a girl right now and have not had a second of nausea. My best friend is 21 weeks with a boy and still having horrible morning (all-day) sickness. For us all these myths are the complete opposite of what we're experiencing! Except that I have been really tired... REALLY TIRED

Momma... MommaGreenhalge

None of those were true with me. In fact, I gained 10lbs less with DD than I did with my boys, worked 2 jobs throught half of my pregnancy, had a cute little basketball tummy (compared to my blob-like state with her brothers), and looked pretty great most of the time. Though I did crave more sweets, which I was told was a "girl symptom."

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