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'Mom-Ed: Childbirth' Day 6: My Biggest Childbirth Fear Is True (VIDEO)

by Nicole Fabian-Weber January 17, 2012 at 10:28 AM

Well, Alice and Eden are at it again this Tuesday. Today's CafeMom Studio's Mom-Ed: Childbirth video is all about what happens/what you should do when pushing your baby out. And I'm not gonna lie, it doesn't sound pretty.

I never envisioned my childbirth as being this gorgeous, romantic, beautiful thing. I mean, I'm obviously over-the-moon about what it's going to result in, but I've always, I don't know, assumed it was going to be pretty icky, to put it euphemistically. And after watching this video, well, looks like I'm right. But at least there are a few things I can do to make the experience less ... intense.

I've taken three things away from this video. One, I'm happy to know that I'll know when it's time to push. I wasn't totally clear on that portion of labor. Two, I'm definitely glad to know that I should ease up on the pushing when baby's about to come. Definitely wouldn't have done that. And definitely don't want to (eek!) tear. And three, why does there have to be poop?!!

Ever since I heard that pooping was part of childbirth years ago, I've fixated on it. It's like, we're already going through enough, does there really have to be pooping also? And it's not the doctors I'm concerned with -- I know they see this sort of thing all the time -- it's my husband. By the time our daughter is born, we'll have been together eight years, and you know what? Not once has he seen me poop. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd kind of like to keep it that way.

Looks like I really don't have a choice, though. And I guess with everything going on -- you know, our first child being born -- it won't be a big deal. But I'm definitely going to make sure he only stands by my head. No moseying on down to check things out. That's just not my style.

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Nonmember comment from blh

January 17, 2012 at 10:36 AM

I didn't poop thank god. I was concerned about that too, I kept asking the nurse if there was any. So maybe you'll get lucky

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linzemae

January 17, 2012 at 11:11 AM

Im with you! The husband doesn't need to see my vag huge and me pooping. He needs to stay by my head and lend me support

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ashjo85

January 17, 2012 at 11:13 AM

It was at the very bottom of my give-a-shit list at that point in labor.

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Nonmember comment from Workingmom

January 17, 2012 at 11:22 AM

Ok hon, I need to tell you a few things. First don't overload on information. Second these doctors have seen it all and do not give a damn about a bit of poo. Next if you're going natural, you will not be able to be objective enough to know it's time to push etc. Oh and you probably will tear which is often preferable to getting the snip. Finally re-frikkin-lax. Millions of women do this, you can too. Have faith in yourself.

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Stacey.

January 17, 2012 at 11:22 AM

1. when its time to push, its TIME TO PUSH. There will be no "easing up". You cant control it, your body will literally push for you. They told me to pant because the doctor wasnt there yet...uh...yeah right.

2. not everyone poops lol but it totally does feel like the baby is coming out your butt the pressure is so intense. the hospital will provide you with Tucks...use them!

3. If you tear you tear, I screamed when I did (I had all natural birth, not by choice though i wanted my epi) I literally tried to close my legs becasue I knew I was about to tear any my baby ended up swallowing some meconium...that was no bueno.

4. soon your little one will be one year old and you will wish you could live this day over and over again metting him/her for the first time. It makes me want to have 25 more.

5. When I was pushing my man and midwife were talking about the movie Forest Gump of all things like they were waiting for me to go pee or someting which made me want to scream.....HELLO....Im giving birth here!!!

6. I had my man videotape the entire thing on his cell phone, which my hospital did not allow, but the phone was small and he acted like he was texting and I am So So SO glad I have that moment on video i have watched it a million times with all the blood and gore and 30 seconds of screaming LOL

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Nonmember comment from Workingmom

January 17, 2012 at 11:25 AM

Oh yeah and also no need to watch all these videos ad infinitum and traumatise yourself . God put your private parts where you can't see them for a reason!

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EquestrianMom

January 17, 2012 at 11:26 AM

Yeah, once I was in labor, the poop issue really ceased to concern me. That said, I had to poop after nearly every contraction for almost two hours prior to even crowning, after a while, there wasn't even any product, I just felt the need to poo! LMAO! So, no poop that didn't land in a toilet in my labor.

I was told by my midwives that some women don't get an urge to push, but they assured me they would tell me when it was time for me to push, and that I should tell them if I did get an urge. Well, I did! And they told me I wasn't ready to push, but I couldnt help it, I HAD to push! LOL!

Oh, and I did tear, in a few places, I had a 7lb 12oz baby naturally, and the tears healed fast and didn't hurt near as much as my hemroids from the pregnancy! LOL!

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CraftyJenna

January 17, 2012 at 12:08 PM

I was fixated on pooping myself too, but honestly by the time she came out, I didn't notice if I did or not, neither did my husband and if I did the doctors took care of it asap. Try not to worry about it, your husband will be way to distracted by the baby to care.

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hutchfam2007

January 17, 2012 at 5:17 PM

giving birth smells bad and there are a lot of nasty lookin things coming out, nobody will even notice if you poop.

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hutchfam2007

January 17, 2012 at 5:26 PM

I have been told I did not poop. When its time to push, you know it. I had an epi and called the nurses in to tell them I was fully dialated and ready to push, and I was right. It FEELS like you have to poop. lmao. As others have said, there IS NO easing up!!!! My dr. was not there yet and the nurses kept telling me to just breathe throug the contractions and dont push. HAHAHA... my body pushed her out all by itself as I scream/cried because I couldnt not push... I did tear, and it hurt, for a long time. Truth, sorry. Also, take all the icepacks the nurses offer you. I never thought about an icepack down yonder but it did help with the swelling. Plus, dont ask why, just take the stool softner!!! You asked for the gory details, dont u regret it now!?!?!??! lmao.

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